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How Relief Comes From Any Difficulty | Whenever A Calamity happens | Mufti Menk

The benefit of seeking the Forgiveness of Allah during times of this nature, people might say why should I seek the Forgiveness of Allah, is it a punishment? well, I want to tell you even if it were, even if it were Allah says in the Quran, Allah will not punish them while they are seeking forgiveness. So if you are seeking forgiveness, the punishment will not come and if you think there was punishment when a person begins to seek forgiveness, it is converted into a blessing of Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala, like I said earlier, it’s wrong for us to say something is a punishment or not when we cannot know except through Revelation if something was definitely a punishment but a simple test is anything that brings you closer to Allah is not a punishment. anything that has distanced you from Allah makes you upset and angry and question Allah that may well just be a punishment of Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala.

similarly, whenever a Calamity happens, ask yourself Am I involved in sin and am I involved That which is immoral and acceptable? Am I involved in that which is you know, have I usurped the wealth of others? Am I doing that which is unacceptable? Am I abandoning my prayers? Am I doing something that would be displeasing to Allah? you just ask yourself those questions. There’s no harm. In fact, it can only be benefit and we need to turn to Allah. really we need to pray to Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala. imagine, People did not use to go to the Masjid, now in the masjids in many places are minimizing and actually suspending congregational activities. People are up in arms, but you are the same people who never came to the Masjid. And today you’re up in arms. I pray that that is life-changing in the sense that we realize the value of the Masjid so that once this temporary measure is lifted, We will be flocking to the Masjid and we will be cherishing the favor of Allah that we have these massajids. I repeat those who have become passionate about This you know this issue and they are so upset sometimes sometimes they are the ones who are guilty of not ever making use of the Masjid in the correct way. Look at Salahtul fajr, We have a few people, look at zahr.. We only have a few, look at asr We have very few, magrib and Esa, in some places a little bit better,

but my brothers and sisters we can do much better when it comes to praying to Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala, you know, people abandoned the modest dress and what happened? They became from among those who perhaps in some places were banned from some of it. We don’t want that to happen my brothers and sisters to us. We don’t want to realize when it’s too late the value of something. It happens. Even in marriage, a person does not appreciate his or her spouse and once the divorce happens, then they say to themselves. You know, what? Oh, I just lost a good person. But that regret came too late, too late. Let’s learn to really appreciate the favours of Allah Upon Us, seek the Forgiveness of Allah, you know, every time people sought the Forgiveness of Allah in any difficulty, relief came, it definitely came.. listen to what prophet Noah (a.s) told his people, I told my people seek the Forgiveness of Allah. He is most forgiving, he will send for you the rains and the relief that you are so yearning for that you need. He will send a lot of it in abundance. We need relief, we turn to Allah, we promise to change our ways and habits.

We promise to become better people. We promised to be people who not only fulfill their Duty unto Allah, but who reach out to others and they are other creatures of Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala at times like these Remember to spend in the cause of Allah, you know, if you want to help of Allah, help someone else and Allah will help you. May Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala grant us ease my brothers and sisters The good news is that very few people would actually die of this particular virus, but because we care for the elderly and because we care for those who are perhaps somehow compromised in their immune system, those who have other challenges underlying issues Health matters because we care Those that is why we’re so passionate about this issue take things. Seriously, if you’re on lockdown take it very seriously, even if you’re not on lockdown. My advice stay at home because you know what, we have the guidance of the prophet (saw) He says when you hear of a plague stay in your house, this is actually a narration of Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal (rah). Don’t leave your house. subhanallah, It’s amazing advice, one narration and the common one speaks about the place, the place meaning don’t leave the place where the plague is in, don’t enter the place where the plague is if you were out, but if you look at the prophet (saw) tying the houses with… the whole house, was just two meters by 3 and so on the whole of Medina was not even the size of what Al Masjid an Nabawi is today. So Baqi’ was just outside of Medina, outside of the city and subhanallah what we have today The place of Ed was also outside of the city. So these were different places. I’d like to think, you know what with in your suburb, within your own home depending on the restrictions placed on you remember, I would not want to come out of my home unnecessarily. I have stayed at home. I haven’t gone for salah.

I haven’t gone out except for dire necessity and that too with a lot of precautions being taken with my face covered, you know and everything happening. If I don’t need to come out of my vehicle, I won’t and so on, brothers and sisters that is our duty, the duty that Allah has placed on our shoulders take it seriously. Nobody’s saying abandoned salah, in fact become, Salah meaning prayer become more regular with your prayer to Allah. Subhanahu wa’ta’ala. What did I say? We need to cry. We need to cry about our sins. And we need to think about them. What did we do? What have we done? If we’ve done something? This is the time to turn to Allah and if we don’t know what we’ve done still seek the Forgiveness of Allah astaghfiruka lima la a`lamu ( detalis in the video description) the prophet (saw) used to say I seek forgiveness for that, which I don’t even know, we need that dua much more, my brothers and sisters. This is a Good call, it’s a serious thing and no need to be depressed about isolation for sometimes or depressed about quarantine in certain instances, depressed about being on lockdown in certain instances. We’re In It Together, human beings are in this together. And we as muslimeen have an added Advantage where we’ve got so much to do that’s seclusion. Remember Musa alayhis salaam was placed in a small box. Imagine a little baby in a box, but that was how he was ultimately saved by the help of Allah and the same happens to the people of the cave in seclusion. Remember, they were saved how many years was there? I don’t know how long this is going to last but I know it is the mercy of Allah, we might come out of it, having struggled and suffered in one way, but we will come out having gained in many other ways. So let’s be considerate of others, learn to give people hope no matter how hopeless You may be feeling. it’s time to give everyone hope, it’s time to be together think of activities in the home, fulfill your salah with jamaa, spend the time with exercise. I have my family actually and I’m giving them all the lectures. We were just discussing today that why don’t you record all of these lectures, but you know, when you speak to family, it’s a little bit different. I prayed my brothers and sisters that yeah I’m talking to you here from the same and we’re excited. We’re not overindulging when it comes to food, keeping yourself hydrated as much as possible, keep the zinc in, keep the some of the protein in making sure you’re hydrated because it’s Not healthy to have a lot of protein without being hydrated and that will help you against viruses. Keep yourself filled with vitamin Cs. if you can with various other other little, you know, supplements don’t overdo it. because there is a fear of poisoning but keep yourself healthy and fit.

Mashallah, even if you have a few symptoms here and they don’t let anxiety overtake you but just take a precaution. We’re In It Together. most of us will make it out, but we care for the elderly. That’s why we’re saying passionately, Please be serious, be serious about this. It’s not about you. about everyone else. Well, it may be about you too. Because you might be one of those vulnerable. We care for you, we love you. That’s why we are trying to compel the people to stay indoors as much as possible. Obviously. I’m addressing people from all over the world. So every country has arrived at the different point, we are in Africa, we only have had two confirmed cases in Zimbabwe, but I do know that there may be many others They probably are others. There are so many …with so many symptoms. But unfortunately, we’re just waiting for some testing kits and we getting into gear by the will of Allah, you know, we’re not part of the advanced countries who have everything, some of my friends have been messaging me, telling me subhanallah you need to do this and get this and do that and get this medication that medication just keep it in stock and instore and I’m like, hey guys, this is Africa. We make duaa to Allah and we have fresh organic vegetables and fruits in our Gardens. So we thank Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala for that, my brothers and sisters. I just want to quickly repeat seek the Forgiveness of Allah it Doesn’t mean that you’re guilty of committing crimes, but that is how you will achieve relief, I repeat that verse Allah will not punish them for as long as there are seeking forgiveness. Also, there are so many other verses where the previous prophets have told all their people to seek the Forgiveness of Allah in order to achieve relief and the mercy of Allah. So the mercy of Allah comes when you seek forgiveness of Allah. don’t waste your time. I’ve seen some brothers and sisters waste their time online. You know, what? for some it might the last few weeks in the on the on Earth and imagine the last few weeks on Earth, you’re spending them in such a destructive way or in such a waste, you know in a way that you’re wasting time. Don’t do that spend your time constructively, the dhikir of Allah, cry to Allah, expand your knowledge of the Quran, read the Quran, recite it, pray for you. I’m sure you all praying for me and alhumdillalh I’m very well by the will of Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala. I thank Allah like may Allah bless you all.

Islam, Sort- Reminders, Transforming Life

A Believer Never Loses | Stop Worrying & Being Depressed | Shaykh Hasan Ali

Hey, are you scared that the Coronavirus might hit you you might die from it? Well, if you’re scared that maybe you got something to think about, what are you scared of? what are you scared of? the fact that you might have to leave this world. that probably means that your attachment to this world, was a little bit too much seriously.

if death scares you then it means your heart was attached too much to this world. a little bit too much or maybe the love of your family. Was above the love of Allah azza wajal and his messenger (saw). Yes, you never made the prophet salallahu alayhi Salam more of a family member that you look forward to seeing and hugging on the day of judgment than your own family. And that’s why you scared. We Muslims will avoid anything to do with the Coronavirus will avoid going to the places of Coronavirus, will try and self isolate, it’s all in the Hadith, that’s fine. But we Muslims if something like that was to come about and if it hit us, our prophet (saw) told us that when a person dies from the plague, they are Shaheed, they are Martyr. and if a person dies from the coronavirus, hopefully they are also shahada. They’re also Martyrs, so a believer never loses, if I live alhumdillah I live, if I die I’m a shaheed. if I die from the coronavirus right now, I’m a shaheed, my tawbah and My repentance should be updated. That’s definite. I should have made Allah and his messenger (saw) my focal point at all times of my life. Number one Allah, Number two, the messenger salallahu alayhe wassallam, then my family and anyone else who ever my parents, so on, that’s fine. But number one Allah, Number two, the messenger salallahu alayhe wassallam,

If I’ve kept doing that. I’ll avoid getting in contact with the Coronavirus. But if it hits me and if it kills me that guess what? I’ve got better things to look forward to in the next side. That’s how believer should feel. Seriously. Why are you depressed for? why you sitting there? oh my God jummah is cancelled. Look look. Let me tell you this the hadees is clear in sahih Muslim if you’ve been going for Jummah, all these weeks of your life and one week, you couldn’t go, because of an excuse today in jummah… tomorrow when you get to jummah, you’re going to find the full reward of juma’a in your Deeds, book of deeds in the day of judgement. for not going Jummah. You know why? the prophet (saw) said when a person becomes ill or when a person is traveling and they can’t do the things they used to do before, Allah give them the same reward. So the fact that you couldn’t go to jummah. You can’t go tomorrow to Jummah So what? you would gain the reward but if you weren’t going to jummah you’re not going to get that reward, now think about it all the things you used to do all the good things you should do salah with jamaah, not you again, different some reasons…. you can’t go to the Masjid for Salah because they shut the Masjid.

Well if You’ve been going for as many Salah, you gone before you gain the full reward of that, right now sitting home or doing. I mean you shouldn’t be just sitting home. You should be doing jammah at home. right, do the jammah with your family because you’re a person who’s been doing by with jammah (congregation) and all those people who went to Jummah, all these weeks you gain the reward for that.. you went to jammah, You can reward for that. How does the believer lose that, you don’t do that? And if the person sitting there and thinking oh my God, I might die from this. Well, maybe it’s a good time for you to think about death. Maybe it’s a good time for you to think about death because it’s going to hit you one day anyway, and whatever is written for us is going to be coming our way anyway. Well, you know, we avoid going towards coronavirus or any area that has hit just like just like in the Hadith He (saw) says if … the plague in a place you’re not supposed to go into that country where the plague is and you know, those people there who have been struck by the plague. They’re not supposed to come out and and you know come out of that place and give the plague to others, right? So that’s that we as Muslims we’re going to take that precaution. We’re gonna have self isolate. what are… we going to take the precaution, fine? But in terms of the Coronavirus, I don’t see why people are being so moody, and so on look there’s a lot of good that’s going to come out of this. I’m telling you.

This is the time when we should sit down and reflect, right about all the good things that we’ve had. You can’t travel that was blessing of Allah that you’ve had right? We’ve got food. We… it’s not like we’re not you know, it’s not like we’ve got a famine or something. We haven’t got food, subhanallah, I don’t understand why people have been so depressed. Honestly, I don’t understand, Allah Azzawajal has given you everything everything you’ve got. Alright, you got your fridge, you got your food and … you got supermarkets… That are full of food. All right, and they’re going to carry on being supplied subhanallah all you have to do stay home. That’s all you have to that. You gain depressed? Oh my God.. food.. My reward… Well, if food runs out, let’s just talk about right if food Runs Out So what it? runs out… if we starve a little bit. So what? honestly so on, be prepared for it, be upright human being, be prepared for it. If you’re prepared for the worst.

If you prepared for death, the nothing can make you go down, my friend. Nothing can make you feel dumb. This is this what? if the pandemic goes into a worldwide crisis guess what? You know in some ways there’s gonna be a lot of good coming. I don’t I don’t hear you… know, a lot of people talking about war and this in that not everyone’s thinking about themselves right now. You understand. They’re not thinking about war out there, you know, a lot of good probably going to come out of this, a lot of people going to be thinking differently from what they were thinking beforehand and you as a Believer sit down get on with your life, cheer up and stop thinking that this is the end of the world. We know from the Hadith the end of the world will not happen until the dazzal comes and other . …you know, there’s going to be other Signs of the last hour, which I haven’t come yet. We know that so so it’s not the end of the world. Second thing is all these crises and so on is going to shape human beings to be better. So the time right now is to get on with you what we’re supposed to be doing all this time. Anyway, which is ibadah, get on with your prayers, get close to Allah, don’t do it just for the sake that the pandemic is here. We’re supposed to be doing that before … Anyway update towbah, be ready anytime death comes.. Boom.. gone to the next life. You shall have your martyrdom and you’ll have a better life over there. So stop worrying, stop being depressed. Sit down enjoy life, you know meet your family to whatever else you want to do. Yeah, you know don’t feel that. This is the last day you’re going to be going from them… from the earth…. My God, you got a bigger family on the other side waiting for you, my friend. If you make it your alien to the best place in the next world where all the good souls are your, you know, forefathers your aunties, uncles Whoever has passed away before the waiting for you, right? you’ll be over there. You’ll be with a better family over there. So sit down, right enjoy your life and either way you win because you’re a believer, alhamdulillah

Sheikh Omar Suleiman

Last Moments of Fatima (Ra) | Emotional Pain Poem By Ali (Ra) | Can’t Stop Crying | Shaykh Omar Suleiman

Fatimah (Ra) after the prophet (saw) died immediately went sick, immediately became ill, right? It did not take but a few days for her to become ill as well and you have to ask yourself. Why did she loved her father so much? did the prophet (saw) spoil her with wealth and riches and throw things out at her, used his position of power to privilege her or was it that intense love that the prophet (saw) showed to her right? that was something and that’s a lesson for parents as well. the prophet as a father, the prophet as a parent that what you give to your child of love is so much more than anything else. You can give to them. How much did the prophet (saw) give her of himself despite being the messenger of Allah, despite having all that he had on this plate that made her love him so much.

So, when did she die RadiAllahu anha, It was the first Ramadan after the death of the Prophet (saw). Imagine Medina first Ramadan after the death of the Prophet (saw) you know, when you talk about anniversaries or things that come up or whatever It is after the death of a person that brings back all the pain, ramadan in the Medina and the prophet (Saw) is alive, leading you in prayer how, I mean look at Masjid in Ramadan how amazing was ramadan with the prophet (saw) among the people and this is the first time that they’re going to have to go through ramadan and the prophet (Saw) is dead and is burried Fatima (Ra) in the very first Ramadan as that Ramadan came around, she was the third day of Ramadan that she goes out to her Courtyard. So meaning right outside the home, She lays at the heavens smiling. She looks up at the skies and she’s smiling, now that to….Asma bint Umais (Ra) She called for Asma bint Umais may Allah be pleased with her.

She told Asma bint Umais (Ra) She said listen when I die. I want to be buried at night. So that not too many people come and no one will see my figure. And you know what she meant by that was that she wanted a very modest, very modest departing, Right, and some of the scholars said, she was of course known for her Haya.. She was known for her modesty and she literally meant it as that I don’t want my figure to be exposed. So bring a cloth that is white that will cover me and let me be buried at night so that very few people would attend so that it wouldn’t cause, it wouldn’t have too many people around at that time and Allah would conceal me. So Asma bint Umais (Ra) told Umm Salama (Ra) , Salama was one of those that furnished the house of Fatima, right and Ali may Allah be pleased with him.

So umm Salama brought her a cloth from habesha from abyssinia from the migration to abyssinia. Those are very thick cloth and sealed her with it and she was happy with it. She looked at that cloth. She said this is good and then she called for Ali (ra) right, So her last moments are actually with her family RadiAllahu anha and she called for Ali (Ra) and they shared some moments of love and she she actually told Ali (Ra) that I want to… she actually told Ali (Ra) who she wants him to marry after she dies, to take care of the kids. So she told Ali (Ra) to marry Umamah bint Zainab who was the daughter of of her sister Zainab? So that she could be a caretaker for the kids. She said she’s a motherly woman. She’s a loving woman. So when I die, I want you to marry Umamah because she would take care of the kids. She would take care of Hasan, Husayn, Muhsin, Zaynab, Umm Kulthum not just her thinking about her children. She Embraces her family and subhanallah.

She leaves this world laying out looking at the heavens. And the angel coming to her and taking her with a nur (light) on her face with with the smile, on her face with just complete peace fulfilling what the prophet (saw) had said, which is that she would be the first of the companions to die after the prophet (saw), the very first person to leave this earth from the family of the Prophet (saw), from as close companions that would join the messenger salallahu Alihi wasalam after his death. Ali (ra) Just lost the prophet (saw) Now he lost fatimah (ra) and Ali (Ra) assisted in the washing of her and he cried frequently at her washing and Ali (Ra) had to have the grueling experience of doing what the prophet (Saw) did with khadiza (ra) which was to actually get in the grave and receive her body and to bury her. And it was extremely difficult on Ali (Ra) to do so and Ali (Ra) led the janazah of his wife fatimah (Ra) and this is going back to the prophet (saw) bearing Khadijah (ra) It feels very similar. Right? I mean that closeness that tightness between these two and Ali (Ra) he actually said he said nothing exhausted me, more in my entire life than the death of my to beloved ones within that short period. I lost the two most important people to me in my life within that very short period, Ali (Ra) said everything I’ve been through in life battles, Wars, khalifa, fitna, all of it.

He said nothing consumed me and took more for me than the death of the prophet (saw) and fatima (Ra) in that very small, you know period of time And this is a… end on a sad note because but there’s something to be to be said about this that when you read the poem that Ali (Ra) recited at the graveside of Fatima (ra) There’s nothing happy about it. There’s nothing about it. That is hopeful, it’s just pain, it’s raw pain when you read what Ali (Ra) said at the graveside of fatimah (Ra) but that shows you that love and that humanity and that rahmah, prophet (saw) said that’s the mercy of the heart, that is mercy,Right? remember when his own son died and the prophet (Saw) was crying and they said you know, how could you be crying yeah rasulAllah, he said it’s a Rahmah,

This is the compassion that Allah puts in our hearts for one another and so the words of Ali (Ra) when Fatima (Ra) died pure pain on I mean unfiltered raw pain. There’s nothing else that’s given except for pain. It’s a very strong poem. He had finished burying her he stood by her graveside and And he recited the following. He said what is wrong with me standing at the graveside saying Salam to the one who has passed, the grave of my lover, but she’s not responding to my greeting, and he calls out and he says my lover why are you not responding to my Salam, have you forgotten all of the intimates? He said have you forgotten all of the intimate moments that were shared between the two of us? And then he actually says in this poem he starts to respond with what fatmah (Ra) would be saying back to him and he says my beloved one responded and said, how can I respond to you? And I’ve become a prisoner. I’ve become now consumed by stones and by dirt and he cried RadiAllahu anhu and he responded again. He’s still speaking. He says the dirt has consumed my beauty and that is why I have moved on and I’ve been Veiled from my family and my beloved ones and so he said… and so she responded and she said and so my Salam back to you and to them meaning to those that I’ve left behind, those intimate moments have now passed. These are painful words. They are raw expressions of death. There is nothing about them.

That is we’ll meet again in Jannah, nothing about them that I’m okay. It’s pure pain and that is actually is an expression of that love that deep love that Ali (Ra) had for fatima (Ra) Ali (ra) who did not go back on his faith. He didn’t become, you know resentful to Allah. He knows the way that this works. He knows the process of death and afterlife, but that doesn’t mean that he didn’t feel pain and I think that’s actually something that’s very important when we lose our loved ones. We’re not Expected to not feel pain. That’s not what sabr is, sabr is not patience, is not to not feel pain and not feel loved and not feel that distance when you lose your loved ones. patience is to not say anything not to say anything except that which is pleasing to Allah and to use that pain to do good for them. Right? like the prophet (saw) with khadiza (Ra) visiting her friends, spending on her behalf, maintaining those relationships. That’s what it is. And I think it’s only fitting that you go through that you just see it’s just love and pain and Ali (Ra) is actually imagining a conversation between him and fathima (Ra) at that point And that’s the deep love that he had for her, RadiAllahu `anha. Of course what we know what the prophet (saw) mentioned of the Gathering of the souls of the Believers. We have no doubt being that they’re both from those promise jannah (Paradise) ******* the masters of the Youth of the people of paradise that they are gathered again in the presence of the Prophet (saw) in The Realm of the righteous Souls. We asked Allah to gather us with them and to allow us to be like them. We ask Allah subhanaw Taala to put that love in that Mercy in our hearts and to put that Rida with Allah that pleasure with Allah has decreed in our hearts and to unite us with our families and to unite us with this blessed family and the highest level jannatul ferdous, allahumma Ameen.

Islam, Mufti Menk, Transforming Life

Never Ever Comment About Other’s Complexion And Weight | Make People Feel Important

The prophet Muhammad peace be upon Him always made people feel very very important, everyone. when he saw a child He actually paused for a moment and gave the child such importance that the child felt empowered, subhanallah Are you a good Muslim? We are supposed to be having decent character and conduct to say the least, right? My brothers, my sisters, If you’re a true Muslim if you want to be a follower of Islam, we know the pillars of Islam, Five Pillars,

we know them but sometimes we behave in a way that is actually so embarrassing. On one hand, we claim to be the ambassador of this beloved beautiful messenger and on the other hand, We are such an embarrassment that people dislike Islam and they dislike, astagfirullah, the messenger peace be upon Him simply because of the way we behave, we behave in a ridiculous way. If someone is darker than you in complexion, all that is required of you is never ever comment about their complexion, I don’t even want to ask you how many of you have ever commented about others complexions because I think I’ll be embarrassed. People are worried about how fair they are And how dark they are. I tell you the almighty says it clearly, your entry into Paradise has nothing to do with your race. Nothing to do with your color. Nothing to do with the size or shape of your body or how much you weigh Imagine you weigh and you strive to lose one stone, half a stone you strive, you struggle I promise you if you had struggled. Half of that dedication if you had to struggle just a little bit not even a struggle to get closer to the almighty You shed some of your spiritual baggage far quicker than you would shed your own weight. And by the way, it’s not bad. It’s not bad. To what? To be a few kilos this way and that way nothing wrong. Don’t get too obsessed. I remember visiting a country. and they were talking about one of the girls who want to get married and obviously every culture has its own taste and has its own understanding and so on and they were talking about a certain girl getting married and one of the brothers said she won’t find a husband. This was somewhere in Africa, by the way. And I was shocked I said brother You cannot say that, you know astagfirullah…. He said no man. She’s nothing, she must eat potatoes and whatever… in our culture you can only get married if you are 70 kilos or more. have you ever heard that? I looked at him I said, in my culture most of the girls would be disqualified, SubhanAllah, may Allah grant us forgiveness protection. Something you look at as positive others. Look at is negative. You see, it’s a matter of where you come from your culture. Allah says, I’m not gonna judge you by your weight. Try your best.

You must be fit. Don’t say I’m a Muslim. Like I said, it’s okay. It’s okay. I can weigh as much as I want. No, you cannot, you must take pride in what you look like in what you feel like in your health. You must learn to do something about it, but don’t become obsessed. That’s what we are saying, Obsession means now it stresses you just because of one pimple on your face. Not at all. I’ve got 10 by the way, it’s fine. My brothers and sisters, let’s refine ourselves. You see someone darker than you, taller than you, shorter than you very thin.. huge. No problem. Greet them, smile at them, make them feel important, give them that empowering the sense of belonging, it will help them and guess what? more than it helps them. You did yourself a favor, Allah says o you who believe, do not destroy the reward of your Charities by bragging about it and by harming Those after you have been charitable. That means if I give you a charity and I brag about it. I’m just Nullified the reward of it. I’m supposed to humble myself.

I’m supposed to make you feel more important than I, even though the world might think you did a favor, the person might also believe you did a favor, but you know, what? if you are refined, you look at it in a different way, humble yourself. Humble yourself, bring yourself to the understanding that you’re supposed to be upon. Never ever Maltreat people based on their financial standing social standing, Sometimes we only greet the Rich and Famous Sometimes we’re only you know, acknowledging people who look a certain way, the day you can acknowledge people who look totally different, people who are from perhaps a totally different background, Different race, different nationality, different Religion, different background the day you can acknowledge them and respect them for the fact that they’re human, They share with you the common factor, the common forefather subhanallah. Who was your greatest grandfather? Adam (a.s) So we’re related. Mashallah. You have to acknowledge if you’re a refined human being. After all, we are brothers and sisters in humanity, the day you acknowledge that that’s the day you inched towards understanding who your maker is. Because that it’s the same maker who made them made you, I’m trying to impress the same Creator who created everyone else. So if he created everyone else and I am so loving and kind to all his creatures, surely you’ll be impressed with me.

And if I’m nasty to one creature of the almighty, do you think he’s going to be impressed with me? He made that creature. you follow what I’m saying? And we call ourselves religious? See what I’m saying? Understand Allah. That’s why the prophet Muhammad peace be upon Him tells us the almighty will not have mercy on the one who doesn’t have mercy on the rest of mankind as a starting point. to what extent did the prophet Muhammad peace be upon him make people feel important? Let me explain the companions say that’s by far one of the most powerful statements when it comes to seeing how the prophet (saw) made people feel around him. It says the companions are saying none of those in his company ever felt that there was anyone more honored than himself to the prophet. Wow, that’s a miracle. That is a miracle. Imagine, I’m sitting with a thousand people and every one of the Thousand believes This guy likes me the most, How’s that?

The prophet Muhammad peace be upon him made everyone feel so important. The brothers, the sisters meaning the men, the women, the children the old, the others, I give you one example Bilal ibn Rabah (Ra) was a man from habesha. habesha is somewhere where Ethiopia is today, So he was an African from Africa, habesha. He was before Islam, A slave and Islam Taught the companions to free the slaves, free them until they were all free. They were all set free. It started off with Abu Bakr the same man Abdullah ibn Uthman (ra) he used to buy the slaves and the free them, buy them from an owner, one of the people of quraysh buy them and then Free them, buy them and then free them and in that way the prophet Muhammad peace be upon Him says that whoever does that they freed themselves on the day of judgment. If you wanted to be free from a punishment, you had to buy one of these people who were oppressed completely unacceptably and free them, you know people don’t talk about this, but that’s Islam. So Abu Bakr as-siddiq (ra) decided to buy Bilal ibn Rabah (ra) free him, he was a slave when he freed him, the honor and the dignity that he got as a Muslim. He was one of the Champions when the prophet Muhammad peace be upon him went up in Mi’raj and Allah showed him jannah and jahannam meaning Heaven and Hell and the heavens and whatever else he came back onto the Earth. And guess what He said? He says imagine everyone is sitting and waiting to listen, you know, what is he going to say? He’s going to describe for us his journey. He started describing and he says where is Bilal out of all the people where is Bilal, imagine you looking for a person subhanallah who was a slave. Probably the darkest in complexion, but the prophet (saw) says is where is bilal? he says Bilal he says when I was in Jannah. I heard your footsteps, la illah ila allah Look at this. I heard your footsteps. It goes to show that entry into Paradise has nothing to do with your color. It’s going to do with your heart in that’s a statement of the Prophet Muhammad Peace be upon him. He says Allah does not look at what you look like. And your body, straight, Allah does not look at your body is what you look like. He looks at your deeds and your hearts. That’s what the prophet Muhammad peace be upon Him taught us. I want you to change your life, my brothers and sisters make people feel important.

Islam, Mufti Menk

Mufti Menk’s Joke on A Real Accountant | Technical Mind

whenever I give the example of one plus one, something comes to my mind. It was a lesson of honesty that we learned many many years ago. And you know, they say initially they had picked on certain colors and races. But as I refined it, we removed the colors and races because even when you are joking you shouldn’t say the Pakistani and the Indian and this .., No, if it’s derogatory take that out. Refine yourself, you know when I was a little bit younger and we were not Not yet as refined. We sometimes used to laugh at these things.

Now, I actually send a message back to the brothers on my phone or whoever it was I said, you know what? think about what was said? you could have joked without an insult. may Allah forgive me and all of us and make us more conscious of it. So they say there were three guys, they went to apply for a job as an accountant right? by the way I was told recently that accounting is going to be taken over by computers very very soon, anyone becoming a CA, you know the lifespan of it, you’re going to have to go into crypto very soon. may Allah forgive you and forgive me. I might be totally wrong. Okay, it’s not my topic. I should keep quiet, right? mashallah, mashallah, so three guys going to the interview. What did they want the job as the accountant?

So the first guy walks in and he comes out in a minute. So the other two said what happens? and I don’t know I walked in, he said what’s one plus one? I said two and he said you can leave. I said why? So the other two now knew that hey is something wrong. The next guy goes in and comes out in a minute. So the third guy sitting and said what happened? He said he did the same thing to me. Yeah, but you’re such a fool if you knew two was wrong. Why did you…? he says, no, I didn’t say two because I knew two wrong, right? I said 11 because one and one technically you put the two together.

It makes 11 so, you know technical mind, I might get the job. He said you can leave, the third guy says haha. This guy probably needs a different answer. So he enters like I told you the initial joke has nationalities next to it. Don’t put nationalities. We leave it blank. You’ll still have a good laugh. Right? Why are you laughing bro? I haven’t even told you the joke. So he walks in. And he gets the job. He got the job guess why he got the job. the boss says, what’s one plus one? He says wait, let me close the curtains. he Closed the curtains and I turned off the lights, I turned offt he lights. Okay, let me whisper in your ear. He said okay, what would you like it to be? they say that’s a real accountant, Masha’allah, Allah forgive us. may Allah forfgive us, did you hear that? We see laugh, Masha’allah May Allah forgive us. Obviously. That’s a joke guys. That’s a total joke. It’s got nothing. You know what you have to be upright. Please don’t whisper in people’s ears and start doctoring all your accounts. Mashallah.

Sheikh Omar Suleiman, Transforming Life

What Is The Greatest Test Of Good Character | Heart-Touching Reminders | Shaykh Omar Suleiman

The prophet salallahu alihi wasalam said that the example of people upon whom the Revelation Falls are like the different types of lands. Some people are like hard lands that shaped in a way That’s like a rock. The rains is hits it. It doesn’t absorb it. The rock doesn’t absorb it. The surface doesn’t absorb it nor does it benefit anybody or anything else around it. Then the prophet (saw) said but there’s then a surface that’s like it’s hard but it’s bowl-shaped or it’s shaped in a way that I could carry some water but none of the water is absorbed. then he (saw) said there is surface, That’s like soil.

It takes in the water. It absorbs it. And you know if you think about this in terms of benefit, by the way, right? the the bowl shaped surface that carries water right away offers an immediate sense of gratification and benefit to everything but itself. but once the water is gone, it’s just like the first type of land, right? it’s exposed for its bareness and for its hardness, that type of person the prophet (saw) said is like a person who benefits others with the Revelation but does not benefit themselves, meaning for a short while you’re able to get something out of it and you’re able to offer something from it, but the water gets drunk really quick and then there is nothing left to it. You never actually absorbed it you, just gave others something of it to benefit from. but that other person that’s like soil when the soil absorbs the water. That means that first and foremost. The primary beneficiary of that water, of that Revelation is the person themselves.

That it went deep inside of me, it penetrated. The other implication of that is that it’s going to bear fruit and bear vegetation in the long run. So while the surface that carries the water and that’s a hard surface in the short-term gives people an immediate sense of benefit. The soil doesn’t provide immediate benefit put it provides long-term benefits. And that type of benefit is not just to other parties but it starts off with you. You soak it in, your heart gets saturated by it. And subhanallah, you know, what else? That type of vegetation whatever comes out of that, you might be able to break a branch or break a tree. But it’s so deeply rooted in the soil of your heart that even if people are able to get you momentarily. You’ll just grow something else back. When you talk about how you are meant to represent Islam, I recognize the immense pressure upon young people in particular to have to represent Islam, especially when they have not been able at times to absorb it and it’s most beautiful sense. Make sure that as you’re interacting with religion. in a time when people immediately hear and speak; receive and show; make sure that you’re taking some quiet time to actually try to absorb and appreciate the profound transformative nature of this message. Make sure that you’re actually taking time for yourself, Make sure that before you preach it you practice it, you know with every other form of knowledge. You learn it and then you teach it and Islam you learn, you implement, Then you teach, you learn, Implement, teach and that process never can be interrupted. It has to be that in between your learning and your teaching there is some level of implementation and for a person that has to interact with a broader society that has such ugly Impressions about this beautiful religion what that means is making sure that you allocate some time to read by yourself, to meditate upon the meanings of this religion by yourself at times. No social structure is going to fill that void of your own,. your own ability to sit and to ponder upon the meanings of the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet (saw) what the …..not does is it reinvigorates you it motivates you, it gives you the tools so that you can do that on your own, but Take a step back. And actually try to absorb it. To be a person of substance.

Because if the only way you’ve interacted with the Quran is listening and reciting and the only way you’ve interacted with the Sunnah of the Prophet (saw) is treating it like a reference so that you go and you get the Hadith that you need or you get the lecture that you need so that you can give it to somebody else, at no point in that process. Was there a moment for you to actually absorb it to sit with yourself and actually absorb it. you know, a lot of people think that the reason why I don’t need to do that is because I’m already living or demonstrating some of those meanings. But the reality is that you you’re just that bowl that’s giving water to other people but you haven’t given it a chance to actually penetrate deep into your heart. sometimes even in your hardest moments Allah gives you an opportunity for growth, to grow out of that hard moment. And the idea here is that you don’t really know that you’re a person of substance or What You’re Made Of until you’re put through something that shakes you. And that’s where it comes out. You know anything about good character and Sunnah when I say the word Sunnah. usually it’s something that is external and its nature and the practices of the prophet (saw) the external practices are important. the sunnah as we understand them are important. I am not saying the deen does not Encompass those in that.. They’re not important part of our religion. Your exterior does matter, you know, there is something about it, but When the prophet (saw) was described what that you are upon an exalted standard of character and the prophet salallahu alaihe wasalam was described as Mission as that. I was sent only to perfect good manners.

There’s something deeper about his person, the character of the prophet (saw) was special. But as I said, you don’t really know what you’re made of until your shook, right? You want to know what the greatest test of good character is? the greatest test of your good character is how you deal with people with bad character. Imam al-ghazali (rah) said the greatest test of good character is how you deal with people with bad character. If you think about the person of the Prophet salallahu alihi wasalam his character shines brightest when it was challenged. It’s very easy to be nice to someone who’s being nice to you. It’s very easy to embody Ramah and mercy when it’s with someone who’s really deserving of Mercy around you. It’s very easy to embody empathy when it’s someone that naturally gives off a sentiment solicit that sympathy just by there being, it’s very easy to be for justice. When it forces someone that’s on your team, when you like the person that you’re standing justice for when it’s a popular cause of Justice, all of that is easy, but when you’re challenged and the only incentive that you have is to please Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala and you have to access that inner self. That’s when you know what you’re made of. That’s when you know whether you’re a person of substance or not. How do I get there?

I recognize that I am constantly Muslim in training, the word for a person who does ehsan is what? moshen All of the qualities that the prophet (saw) embodies, you have to ask yourself. Look. I’m not at the moment. I don’t think that many of us have Abu jahal in our lives. If you do you need help. All right, like I don’t think any of us are experiencing some of the major episodes of challenge that the prophet (saw) experienced and a lot of times. Here’s the disconnect. There are two sides to this. One of them is there are words of what you’re supposed to do and say if you are in a situation that test your character in a major way, words that you’re supposed to recite, words that you’re supposed to do, words that are stories that are good metaphors that are good analogies that a good parable, that are good examples for you, if you end up in this difficult situation or the situation that challenges your character, challenges your substance.

The disconnect is this, every single day of your life is a chance to actually Bridge those two worlds to where you act upon those words. In the most simple ways and in your daily life so that when that comes to you and really test what’s on the inside, just like a person that’s been lifting weights. You’ve been building character. You’ve been building character along the way, you know inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon is not something you just say when somebody dies. Inna ma’al usri yusra (Indeed, with hardship [will be] ease) is not just with hardship comes ease is not just when a major tragedy strikes you, patience is not just when you have a life-altering tragedy in your life, gratitude is not just when someone gives you an out of the ordinary gift or bestows a blessing upon you in that way.

Prophet Sallallahu wasallam said whoever doesn’t thank Allah for the small things. It’s not going to be able to thank Allah for the big things. Whoever doesn’t daily or practice gratitude on a daily level, Is it going to understand how to really thank Allah subhanaw Taala when major things happened? Why is it that every single time you eat You say alhamdulillah? Why is it that every single time you wake up in the morning, And you say alhamdulillah you start off your day with praise? And a lack of entitlements, Alhamdulillaahillazi ahyaanaa ba’da maa amaata-naa wa ilaihinnushuur”.

All Praises be to Allah who gave us life after death and to him as the ultimate return. you start off your day with a sense of praise and with no expectation or entitlement of the day the tests that come to you the moments that offer opportunities for gratitude our patients the ability to practice the Sunnah of the Prophet (saw) that our character oriented that are not in the capacity of someone trying to kill you or someone killing your family, all of those things Bridge those two together the word and those major virtues that the prophet salallahu alaihe wasalam was able to capture what this means for how we interact with the world around us, dear brothers and sisters enough talking about the prophets. It’s time to act like the prophets, enough expecting people to Understand who the prophet (saw) was just because he was factually amazing and more of demonstrating those virtues of the prophet Salallahu alaihe wasalam in Your Capacity as a follower of the Prophet salallahu alaihe wasalam .remember yourself as a moshen in training. We ask Allah subhanaw Taala to make us all people who Excel, to make us all from the Mosheneen, to make us able representatives of the Prophet salallahu Alihi wasalam, to allow us to be the prophet salallahu alayhi wasalaam what he was to the Quran, to allow people to see him in us and in seeing him in US be attached to that which generated the beauty in him and us in the Holy Quran, Allahuma ameen.

Family, Islam, Marriage

A Household Of Tranquility, Affection And Mercy | A Timeless Love- Prophet ﷺ And Khadijah (Ra) | Part 2.3 | Shaykh Ali Hammuda

By Allah, if these pillars of a marriage are there mentioned in the Ayah (Surah Ar-Rum [30:21]) that you just heard which is Sakina (Tranquility) mawadda (affection) Rahmah (Mercy), then this is a household that can deal with all of the obstacles and the challenges of life outside. And perhaps an undoubtedly rather I should say. This is one of the secrets behind the strength of our messenger Muhammad Sallallahu alayhi wasallam, because Allah jalla jalaluhu gave him a righteous wife called khadija ibn khuwaylid (Rah) who was the means of the Sakina the tranquility and the mawadda the affection and the rahmah therefore regardless of what he experienced outside from enmity from The jinns, from the ins, mankind or jinn kind.

He came home to a caring woman who was patting him on the back. I’m saying to him I believe in you. I accept your message. I will pray behind you, removing the intestines of animals that were placed on his back using her Blessed Hands and removing the dust from his beard and from his hair using her blessed hands, and he was able to continue that is why the day when she left it was a year of sorrow in the life of the messenger (saw). mawadda & rahmah was in this family and the gratitude that we need to have for our mother khadijah (ra) is beyond my ability to express it to tell you the truth, brothers and sisters for creating a home where by the messenger of Allah was able to propagate his mission till it came to our masjid in Cardiff mawadda and Rahmah was in that family.

Therefore not only does it help you as an individual find your feet in life and be happy as a married man or a woman it helps you find your akhirah, helps you convey the message of Allah when the home has within it, tranquility and affection and mercy and the opposite is just as true. Therefore, He sallallahu alehiwassallaam never forgot the virtue that she has over him in this department, even when she died because she was 15 years his senior. She had the whole world and the her hands and beneath her feet. She handed it over to her messenger and to her husband so that he could convey the word of God Almighty subhanahu wa’ta’ala. So when she passed away, he never forgot her and her mother Aisha radiallahu anna she would say even after she died.

She said in my life, I never felt more jealous towards any one of the wives of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, then the jealousy I felt towards khadijah (Ra), and I never met her. I never even met her. I think what I would say to him, she was an old woman jealousy sometimes causes a person to see irrational things. They are excused. That was just an old woman. Why are you so obsessed with her? He would say to happens Allah Almighty blessed me with her love. What can I do about it? Allah put her love in my heart. subhanallah al-azim, mawadda & Rahmah ayesh (ra) said that even after she died messenger (saw) sometimes slaughter a goat and he will say distribute the meat of the goat between the friends of Khadija. He never forgot her and one day when he heard a knock at the door and who was knocking at the door of the messenger (saw) So I sent him it was Halah bint Khuwailid, the sister of Khadija (ra) He heard her voice and he said is oh Allah it is halah because Her voice reminded him of the voice of Khadija (ra) his wife before she had passed away. subhanAllah, he was walking in the street in a group of old women came to him and he took off his shawl and he put it on the floor and he said sit down, how are you doing? And he he spoke with them and how is life after us? What happened? What did you do?

Aysha (ra) said messenger of Allah (saw) who are these old women you were speaking to? he said these used to be women who used to visit us during the days of Khadija. Look at those words. Like those amazing days of khadijah you read between the lines. Amazing Subhan Allah because she provided a home that was of Sakina and mawadda She can really set the mood of the house and she can do the opposite and and this will be an empowering part of the discussion. Abu al-As ibn al-Rabi, who was the husband of Zainab, who is Zainab? The daughter of the prophet Mohammed (saw) from Khadijah (ra) So this is their daughter of Zainab They married her to a man called al-As ibn al-Rabi who was a Muslim, but they were stuck in Mecca. They couldn’t emigrate, the pagans had left them there. They prevented them from coming to Medina. And so when the Battle of Badr took place what happened? What happened? What happened? Was that al-As was forced by the pagans to go and to fight with them against the Muslims. It was out of his will and so he was caught by the Muslims and taken to Medina. So he was now separated between him and his wife Zainab.

She still in Mecca. And so the pagans they began to send messages to Medina saying we need you to free our men and so the deal was that Every man who was able to teach the Muslims how to read and write we will let him free, the importance of Education teach how to read and write and that will be your Ransom. If you can’t teach us how to read and write then you will need to pay a ransom. So the meccans they began to pay ransoms sending it to Medina. What is Zainab going to provide? What is Zainab going to provide, what type of Ransom because the meccan are not going to help her because they know that her husband is an ally of the prophet (saw) So she had nothing to give but a bracelet. Which her mother had given to her on her wedding night, khadijah (ra) So she sent it to the Prophet Muhammad (saw) And when he came imagine, he receives his bag. He puts his hand inside and he hears that this is the ransom for the husband of your daughter. And he takes out to see what is she going to Ransom him win? Like how did we get into this scenario to begin with and he finds the bracelet that his Khadijah had given to her when she was still alive to marry her off to al-As to beautify herself for him and the necessary jewelry that a woman requires. The narration says the prophet (saw) became so emotional when he saw this and he cried so much turning it and tossing in his hand remembering the days of Khadija. Then he said to his companions if it is okay with you would it be all right for us to give them back this Ransom and to free him free of charge on the condition that he sends Zainab to Medina and they said of course. Look at how he never forgot her, dear brothers and sisters. One of the key reasons without a doubt is because of the Sakina, the mawadda, the affection, the rahmah, that she played a chief role in facilitating in his house. That enabled him to do what he needed to do as a prophet from Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala.

Marriage, Shaykh Ali Hammuda

How To Know He/She Is Righteous To Marry | Part 2.2 | Shaykh Ali Hammdua

the second principle, I would like to share with you. is where Allah, subhanahu wa’ta’ala he said in Surah 24 where he said subhanahu wa’ta’ala instructing us who to get married? who to get married to? he said Mary those single ones from amongst you and the righteous ones whether male or female The keyword here, I want us to highlight your brothers and sisters is As-Salihin the righteous ones Look at the criteria That was set by Allah jalla Jalaluhu We are not seeing by the way and this is a short disclaimer. I mentioned here before we proceed, we are not saying to dismiss other important factors like… compatibility between the spouses. And other personal desires or request things that you wish for as a man or as a woman in this person. We are talking about the Bedrock.

We are talking about the pillar of the marriage. We are talking about what we last and survive the test of time. And that is salah… righteousness in the pair. Allah says marry the righteous ones from amongst you whether male or female, life, dear brothers and sisters or rather marriage marriage is a journey that is filled with challenges where you are required to make some very tough decisions sometimes in that marital relationship. And we as human beings we make decisions on the basis of values that we have and as Muslims the most important value for us Islam and the pleasure of Allah therefore the more Islam you share with your spouse the easier it will be to make those difficult decisions in life because you’re both singing from the same hymn sheet.

You’re both in the same Waters. But when the Bedrock of religion is missing or you guys are at completely different levels. Because you didn’t take into consideration when getting married making those decisions in life becomes very complicated, basic questions, They cause a dispute like which school are we going to send our children to? Are we going to save up money for Hajj next year or not? Are we going to dedicate a space in the house to pray together as a family? Yeah, basic questions like Halal and Haram food, Where should we be eating from? income, How are we making money in this household, but you see questions becomes a source of fighting because this second principle of a successful marriage was overlooked, when Allah said the righteous ones, From your people. Look at how the messenger sallallahu alehiwassallaam has emphasized the importance of finding righteousness in male, finding righteousness in the female.

As for the men the messenger sallallahu alehiwassallaam, He said if a man comes to you. Wanting the hand of your daughter in marriage and you are satisfied with his religious commitment and you are satisfied with his manners then accept that person. then accept that person what was the condition for the husband aklaq, manners and religion Subhanallah, strange.. that both of them have come hand in hand. And he the relationship cannot truly be successful and properly Prosper islamically. If one of those two are missing. it’s not enough to say this man is on the deen But there’s no manners with the people. And it’s also the opposite scenario is probably more more likely or a sister. She may say to her family. I’m interested in this individual. He has such good manners, but he’s not praying at the moment. Inshallah. He will change. Prophet (saw) said you are happy with his religion and you’re happy with his conduct with people with aklaq. This is a person to marry. That is what he said about the husbands. What did he say about wives something very similar, a parallel Hadith bukhari and Muslim narrated on the authority, abu hurairah that the messenger salallahu alihi wasalam said in the famous Hadith, He said women are usually married on the basis of several matters either because of her beauty or her lineage or her money or her religion. Then the prophet salallahu alaihe wasalam said I advise you o Muslims to marry their religiously committed one may you prosper, may you prosper Allahu akbar, see many issues that later arise between husband and wife could have been resolved. If this principle number two was observed. When they came to tie the knot. right? Is this the type of person I see raising my children? Is this the type of man?

She may say who I see myself with in another 40 years from now. And sometimes we only realize that we have made the wrong decision not too long after those passionate expressions of love and the roller coaster of emotions has finally settled we realized that oh my God, I didn’t apply principle, Number two when Allah Almighty as Salah righteousness as a condition. Yeah many issues could have been resolved. If we had been a little bit more diligent and did the background checks and forth with our brains not with other parts of our body Marry, those who are righteous Allah Almighty Allah Almighty instructs, Maybe you have also experienced it where a brother may go to a particular family. Having an interest in the daughter of that family. And then you see the level of importance that is placed just by virtue of the questions that are asked. Yes, so the question maybe do you have a job? are you working? And he says something along the lines off, I’m in the process or I’m looking for work or something like that and because of that it’s a blanket rejection. Nothing else investigated. Now, I appreciate that fathers would like to take care of the prosperity of their daughters and they want them protected, I have no issues with that. My main issue is with the other scenario. Now if we flip around the scenario where they may ask him, Are you working? He says yeah, I’m working. and I have a house and I have a car, everything’s in place. Dr. Architect, whatever it may be. And the News comes to the family. That is Man doesn’t pray.

This man is just a one shot hit Friday jummah, salah, They say inshallah. He’ll start praying……. He will change ..(strange)… so when it comes to the conditions about Dunya were very rigid and uncompromising, but when it comes to religion, we’re very relaxed and then we wonder subhanAllahil azim, why a few months into this relationship or a few years. We get the phone call that your daughter has just been battered. She’s been hit She’s been broken or bruised or we he starts complaining for example that she has no idea about his rights and then in the house and he doesn’t feel like he’s being treated as a king of the home. Well, there was a basic rule here that was overlooked by all of those involved in this scenario, which is that if this person is unable to give Allah Almighty has basic rights. What makes you think he’s going to give your daughter her rights? Honestly use that as a benchmark, it solves so many issues and it gives you an indicator of the person at hand regardless of the smiles and what they may say about themselves. Allah Almighty, is basic rights and we can never fulfill his rights of Salah, siyam … No, in sha Allah I will make him pray in sha Allah. I will make her wear the hijab don’t you worry about that will get there together in sha Allah. Yeah, good luck. May Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala give you tawfiq, really brothers and sisters it could happen and it has happened and there are good examples of relationships that got off on the wrong foot. Don’t get me wrong and Allah has mercy upon them. But this is not the default, the default is look for those people of righteousness, messenger sallallahu Alehiwassallaam He said, The companions they said to him yeah Rasulullah type of what type of wealth should we seek to acquire? He gave them an answer that they were not expecting. He said to them the wealth that you should seek to attain is this and he gave them an answer that they were not expecting. You should seek to attain a heart that is grateful to Allah and a mouth that is praising Allah and a righteous spouse who will help you in your journey to the Hereafter Allahu akbar. a life is an enjoyment the best enjoyment that this world could offer is a righteous wife, la illah ila allah a disclaimer, I would like to add here by the way. What is your understanding of a righteous wife and of of righteous Husband, by the way? Just so that we’re not disappointed. It is our understanding of a righteous spouse that Allah wants from us is a is a woman who was in a black Abaya from head to toe and her face is covered nikab, you can’t see an inch of her body. Is this the religious .. that you looking for? What do you understanding of a religious woman? And I am not belittling that, the hijab is part of the deen and the niqab is part of the deen. No one can take that away from the religion regardless of how many tedx talks. They would like to give. But I am talking about what is the religion in your eyes? …that you’re not disappointed later on in your relationship. Gloves and socks and face cover.

This is the religion limited, limited exclusive to this. I think you’ll find out that this woman behind this Veil that has impressed you is backstabbing. She’s a backstabbing lying woman or she is one who moves between people spreading gossip to spread corruption and break relationships, or she is an individual who has many different faces. Mashaallah, if she set with the religious group and she can sing with them, if she sat with sat with the people of Dunya and maybe haram she knows how to communicate. That level is well. She may be somebody who doesn’t pray. She may be somebody who has all sorts of extra religious activity and we have seen this over and over again, brothers and sisters and the same I will say for our sisters. What is your understanding of a religious brother, was a long beard and a miswak in his pocket and a short thobe (garment above ankles) and don’t get me wrong. This is from the religion and no one can belittle that or take it away, but I’m saying what is your understanding of a religious man? He may be dressed … He may have videos on YouTube. And a huge following on social media, but he’s an addict to pornography. he’s an addict to other types of substances that he’s injecting or inhaling or selling even, la illah ila allah, it’s not possible? He could be a man who has has so much Envy towards other people. He may have fallen out with his mom and dad. She may not be speaking with her parents either What is your understanding of a religious person, outward appearance, but no internal. No internal quality, part of the deen, akhi, is manners. Did Rasulullah (saw) not say that the heaviest thing that will be weighed on the day of judgment is manners?

What is your understanding of religiosity, you know, you know person that you’re looking for, religion is is not cheating people with regards to their wealth not conning them out of their money not bringing in haram money into the house, that’s religion, religion is when you sister … you guard your tongue, you don’t speak about people behind their backs. You don’t show envy towards something gift.. that others have Allah has given some and you want to take it away from them, religion is about having a pure heart. Clean heart, that doesn’t Harbor enmity towards a Believer purifying your tongue, purifying your hands from the harm of others. This is also part of the religion. So ensure just so that you’re not disappointed. I do appreciate your spouse that you have now. She may not be doing certain things that are required. From an appearance perspective. We ask Allah Almighty to guide and to guide him if he is if he is susceptible to this as well. But at the same token look at the blessing Allah has given you, have they not protected you with regards to you’re honoring, your children, They have reserved they love to you and they lower their gaze when they see the haram, see things from a from a larger perspective, brothers and sisters lastly with regards to this principle before we move on. How can we ensure that The person we are looking to marry is a righteous person? What do we do? There are several things that we can do and we have to ultimately rely upon Allah, one of those things that we can do from a practical perspective is make Dua now. If you are not a married person particularly and even if you’re married make the quranic dua Surah Al-Furqan [25:74] oh Allah give us from our spouses and from our children those who will be the coolness of our eyes and ask many of those brothers and sisters who are living some of the happiest days of their lives, today They will tell you We used to make this dua religiously back when we were bachelors. dua, second thing when married gets a little bit more real right? istikhara, the prayer of consultation, learn how to pray it if you are not sure, pray it over and over again and don’t wait for a dream. Don’t wait for any Vision, number three background checks, references. Don’t get caught up in the moment. Love at first sight, we have to get married regardless of who agrees or disagrees. So your peace of mind and to spare you a headache, do your background checks, test the religion of that person one way or another in what is suitable and appropriate, give it time why I personally have a big issue marrying Sister, for example with a brother who has decided to take his shahada on the day of the The Marriage Aqd (Contract) I’m not doubting his sincerity, got who am I to do that? He may be better than every one of us in the city in the eyes of Allah, but I’m talking now from a marriage perspective. Have you done your checks? Are you confident that this is.. the marriage that could last? you have no indication, the fella at had his only two and a half minutes old as a Muslim. And then you wonder why later on he may have left the religion, or he may have pushed you to leave the religion or you are striving to make him a better person but his friends of the past are pulling him back and vice versa. a brother who says she is the one akhi, she is the one , we heard that there are certain issues.

I’m going to change that inshallah allah tala , do your background checks and be patient and take this principle. Number two, very serious, very seriously Dear brothers and sisters principle number three is where Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala he said in Ar-Rum Surah 30 Ayah, 21 he has placed, Allah, he has placed between you love and mercy. Well, let us translate it as affection and mercy Allah has placed between you affection and mercy. How do we bring about the affection and the mercy we will discuss this next week. by the will of Allah, let us just quickly introduce this principle. First of all, what is the difference between love? And what Allah describes in this aya as Mawadda (affection) He said we have placed between the affection and mercy. He didn’t say we put love and mercy between you although love is undoubtedly there. What is the difference between the two, does anybody know? So you can guess, love and affection .. some of the scholars have mentioned that one of the differences between affection and love is that, love is the name of the feeling that you have towards that individual. Yeah. That’s the attraction.

That’s the the care the the longing the yearning for them is that I think that may even keep you up at night, in the early parts of your marriage perhaps or your engagement. It’s that Fire that burns within you that’s the love, however the affection which allows speaks about in the ayah here is what Allahu Alem in reference to what you then do about that love, how you show the love that is the affection. So the gift, the smile, the hug, the intimacy, the time spent together and so on and so forth. This is the expression of the love. This is the Mawadda. And undoubtedly Mawadda therefore is different to love because it involves interaction. There is a communication between the two, they are in each other’s presence and therefore here we have to be careful and that’s why Allah says we have also placed Mercy between you and it is true that some people they harm Those whom they love them because of love. Where that love becomes unbridled, uncontrolled completely out of its Lane and and they end up harming that person because of obsessive love agreed? So Allah says we have placed affection and mercy between you just like a child because I want a person who is obsessively in love with can have childlike Tendencies and a child. He has a toy he loves his toy and wherever he goes the toy is with him, right? It’s next when he’s asleep, next to him when he’s eating. But he will also have no problem lobbying that toy from the top of the stairs to the bottom and experimenting with that toy. And some people they do that. So Allah says we have placed between you affection and what else? rahma, mercy Allahu Akbar, and therefore that Mercy is what controls that love and keeps it within check and within reason.

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Safety Precautions With Boosting Immune System During Epidemics | Not Panic Buying | Mufti Menk

You and I know that across the globe there is a scare. the scare of something that cannot be seen by the naked eye. The scare of a germ, a virus that is actually contaminating so much and it is spreading faster than a wild fire. my brothers and sisters the prophet Muhammad peace be upon Him taught us years Ago centuries ago about everything. no goodness, except the prophet Muhammad taught us about it, salallahu alayhi wasalam no evil, No harm except that he mentioned it. He taught us about it. Number one. He taught us about cleanliness and about making sure that we are always clean if you look at the ablution or wudu that we are Supposed to be engaging in before we pray, it entails washing your hands thoroughly five times a day in such a way that the middle of your fingers and the bottom of your nails supposed to be washed. It teaches us about the toes and how to wash the middle of your toes, how to wash your face, your hands and so on keep yourself extremely clean. He has taught us about out how to wash up after using the bathroom and this is something that we should not be ashamed of, it is actually such a beautiful teaching. If only we knew and if only we understood.

so cleanliness is something that is very very important in Islam to the degree that the prophet sallallahu wasallam says your cleanliness is half of your faith, so much of importance given to it and obviously when we speak of cleanlinessthe first thing that comes to the mind is the cleanliness that is physical to do what your water, to do with your bathing, to do with, you know, cleaning yourself and showing your presentable looking neat at cetera. But it also includes cleaning your thoughts, cleaning your dealings and cleaning everything else or social living and so on. all of that is included, but there is another thing that the prophet Muhammad peace be upon Him taught us. He said that if you hear of a plague in a certain land, don’t go there and if you are in a place where the plague is, there is an outbreak then don’t exit from it. In fact in narrartion, the Prophet sallallahu alehiwassallaam speaks about how a person who knows that his Sabr (patience), has been affected by a plague and decides to leave it running away from it. He is a blight like a Person who ran away from a war zone when he was supposed to defend his own Nation. So he says you don’t run away.

The reason is you won’t be able to tell if you are affected or contaminated and if you don’t know chances are there is a possibility that you are and if you were, you would be carrying it to other places. So this whole concept of quarantine is actually from the Sunnah and the teaching Of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him more than 1400 years back. when he says if you’re affected. You don’t leave and you don’t let anyone come in, amazing. My brother’s my sisters We know that the world has become a global village. We know that because of communication and transport at a very Advanced stage. This virus has flown from the East to the west, from the north to the South, there were people at the beginning saying that perhaps it’s Hoax ,maybe it is nothing serious. Perhaps It is something that people don’t need to worry about. it’s just an ordinary flu, all that in its place.

The reality is it is spreading, people are dying. It’s look at what’s happening on the ground, huge Nations have decided no more flights coming in or out from many countries of the globe. People are in quarantine. Not just ordinary people on the streets, but no matter Who you are? My brothers and sisters is your duty to take it. Seriously. Thank Allah that today We are seated here in this Masjid for salahtul Jummah, thank Allah Allahumma rabbil al ameen Do you know that there are places that have stopped the Salah in the Masjid simply because of contamination from the masajid and contamination from places of worship. Now what might say Muslim I have taught to read the dua, “Bismillahi alladhi la yadurru ma’ ismihi shai’un [arabic in the description] fil-ardi wa-laa fil-samaa’i wa huwa al-Samee’u al-‘Aleem” the meaning of which is I am taking the name of Allah, in the name of Allah with whose name nothing in the sky or on Earth can harm at all, Nothing can harm around me. He is indeed the all-hearing, the all-knowing. so they say once I say this prayer three times which by the way Is a Sunnah you must say the prayer. It is important to say that dua and many other duas but that does not mean that you don’t do what is known by … you need to make sure you have taken heed the means that you have to avoid contamination and to avoid being affected and to avoid this from spreading you need to make sure that you have taken every precaution. So some muslim says if I have said that dua it’s okay.

I can go for jummah, I can go for jamah (congregation), I can go for anything else because that is a Sunnah or that is a teaching of Islam Etc, not realizing if you are unwell, it is haram to go at a time like this when you know, you could be affected by the virus and affect so many others totally forbidden. How could I ever knowingly go to a public place, And I know there is a plague around and I know that the symptoms are XYZ, or I know I’ve been to a Zone where it was a Red Zone and they were… there are so many cases that and I think “At-Tawakkul ‘ala Allah“ (In Allah We Trust) I am going, azubillah, I’m hoping that you cannot do that. my brothers and sisters take it seriously. if the Health Inspectors or whichever Department Is responsible decides that you know, what there will be no more public Gatherings for any reason because of this virus, They are Justified. Did you hear what I said? We have to say from the pulpit. They are Justified because they are trying to contain the outbreak, are trying to contain it from getting worse. You have to understand if there is no jummah next week we will do salatul zuhr at home and we will thank Allah, at least we’re okay.

Say in the morning and in the evening (thrice): Amazing DUA بِسـمِ اللهِ الذي لا يَضُـرُّ مَعَ اسمِـهِ شَيءٌ في الأرْضِ وَلا في السّمـاءِ وَهـوَ السّمـيعُ العَلـيم “Bismillahi alladhi la yadurru ma’ ismihi shai’un fil-ardi wa-laa fil-samaa’i wa huwa al-Samee’u al-‘Aleem” Remove and Protect from Evil of Everything “In the Name of Allah, with Whose Name nothing on the earth or in the heaven can cause harm, and He is the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing.”

So it’s not like you have to come even if you’re sick or ill, I know of a brother very sick and he says no that is jummah,I have to go it’s my duty as a Muslim, my brother, when you are sick, you don’t even need to fast, when you are sick and ill, you don’t even need to go for Hajj. when you know, you’re unwell you it’s not like Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala wants You to do certain things knowing that you are unwell. so let’s not fool ourselves. Let’s not fool ourselves. If you are unwell participate in what is known as self quarantine, which means you make sure you don’t mix with others to make sure you have your mask, you make sure you clean, your make sure you let you know those around you know …. because I’m not well I would like to keep a bit of a distance and thereafter make sure you Get yourself tested and now comes the big one. May Allah protect all of us say ameen, if you are tested positive, you may suffer Financial loss. You may suffer various other loss. All those losses are okay. Don’t worry. The financial loss is never ever bigger than the protection of humanity, Remember that. many of us have planned holidays. We planned meetings, we planned… travels, we planned Journeys. that may not happen, some of us in our businesses, our companies, We will lose a lot of money. take this seriously, very seriously. Make sure you know, when we greet each other, the sunnah is to greet as-salam-o-alaikum walaikum, Wa alaykumu s-salam We don’t have to shake hands, especially when it comes to some time of the sort where you know, they could be contamination and as clean as you think you are, it just requires a small contamination for you to be affected before your you know, your entire family to be affected and so many others to be affected just because you thought I must shake hands because I really want to fulfill.. I must hug, is the hug fard, is it compulsory?

The answer is no, so at the time like this, even if I just greeted you, you greeted Each other with the greeting of a hand from a distance. It is fine. There’s nothing wrong with that, get used to it for a while to put on a mask or to put something on this is not wrong Subhanallah. In fact, you would have two at a certain point. We are fortunate in this particular City. It’s not that bad but who knows how bad it is? It takes a few days before you can actually figure out what has happened. So I’ve chosen to speak about this today because From the pulpit of the Friday. It’s important that we educate our people, there may come a day when authorities decide we will not be able to gather in large Gatherings or whatever purpose it is that they might come very soon. It has already happened in other countries. people started asking is it permissible for them to say you cannot gather for jummah. I promise you my brothers and sisters if there is a plague of this nature and There is a need it is definitely permissible for them to impose on us and we’re not allowed to gather. The idea is to save Humanity, remember this, it’s not a personal thing and you iman does not negate the fact that you have to stay away and you have to protect yourself. Like I see some people think I’m a Muslim. I read quran every day. I make dua every day, nothing will affect me, my brothers and sisters don’t fool. Yourself, don’t fool yourself. There are people who read quran and Salah and they make their dua, They have still been affected and some have even died of diseases be this one or another one. So don’t fool yourself. Don’t think you know what and a Pious man. I have not missed my Salah in the first sub. So, how can I miss it now?

I haven’t missed, you know something all my life. How can I miss it now? I promise you the reward for protecting humanity is greater than the reward for your individual acts of worship. Remember that. the reward for protecting humanity is greater than the reward of your individual acts. So may Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala grant us all goodness at ease and remember everything is in the hands of Allah. Let’s pray that Allah protect us. Let’s pray for those who are affected that Allah Grant and cure. It is a serious matter. Don’t be excited when you hear That countries affected, this countries affected, don’t ever be excited because it’s a matter of time before it comes to you and I. similarly my brothers and sisters, sleep Well, sleep. Well, do you know why if you would like your immune system to be strengthened put your phone away and go to bed those who have a sound sleep at night have a better immune system than those who have not had proper sleep. So sleep well. Eat healthy, make sure that you are having your vitamins and minerals, make sure that you are fit, make sure that you have boosted your immune system somehow because together with making duaa to Allah and praying to him you and I need to make sure that we have done something within our capacity to save ourselves.

Similarly, Never ever become people. Who do what is known as Panic buying, what is Panic buying? which means over there might be a lock down in two weeks. So let me go and buy two tons of baked beans because I love baked beans. So everyone goes instead of buying one tin or two tins they buy ten cases and they want to bring it back and before you .. there is nothing left for anyone. subhanAllah, don’t do Panic buying, things will be okay by the will of Allah, things will be okay by the will of Allah also, let us never ever discriminate, Based on race, simply because we heard that this outbreak could have started maybe in China, people Look at anyone who looks like a Chinese and maltreat them but literally unacceptably treat them in a way that is tantamount to a crime against humanity. That’s unfair. that is unIslamic.

It is uncalled for, it is wrong. It doesn’t mean that anyone who looks this way suddenly has the virus. That’s not true. The person doing this type of discrimination could be the one who’s the carrier? Who knows and he’s laughing at others. That’s why they say don’t ever show excitement when someone else is inflicted or affected with negativity because perhaps Allah might have mercy on them, cure them, give them goodness and you know what he might test you with the same. So Brothers and Sisters Let’s Learn to be caring for one another at this juncture. Humanity is struggling. This virus knows no faith. No race. No nationality. It is traveling the globe just like that anyone can be affected at any time. No matter how Pious you are. No matter how distant you are from Allah. all of that to a certain extent you and I know that Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala has tested us. Let’s learn to pass those tests. I ask Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala to protect us. I ask Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala have mercy on us and I ask Allah (swt) to open our doors and to make us from those who can reach out to the rest of humanity. – Mufti Menk

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The Best Way To Deal With Ignorant People! An Amazing Incident From (ﷺ) Prophet And Abu Bakr (Ra) | Mufti Menk

You see in reality Allah speaks about heaven and hell. Allah  if you lived your life in a criminal way and you think the long arm of the law is not going to get…., subhanallah I am not gonna get to you. You’re wrong. It will catch up with you at some stage or another.

Allah says, you know what, if you were to perpetrate a crime you need to be penalized. When He says that is a sign that He is fair and just.

there was a Hadith of the prophet (saw) where He was seated with Abu Bakr as-siddiq (ra) and the man kept on you know, Bad-mouthing Abu Bakr (Ra)  in front of him,  speaking badwords. vulgar words, it was hurting him.  But Abu Bakr (ra) kept smiling and he was quiet. and the prophet (saw) kept smiling and he was looking at Abu Bakr as-siddiq (ra) And so something amazing and interesting happened.

A little while later, Abu bakr (ra) could not manage. You know, he’s a human. a bit of steam, he had to let off and so what happened is The prophet’s (saw)’s smile vanished and he got up and quietly walked away.

So when Abu Bakr as-siddiq (ra) went to the prophet peace be upon him and told him you walked away.  He said you know what? When you were silent the Angels were there, defending you. The minute you open your mouth, they went away.

I was smiling at the fact that wow, because what was being said was not harmful. Your bones were not being hurt. It was someone’s words.

When someone utters bad words, what does it show? When someone says you’re a dog, astaghfirullah. in reality It says more about Them than yourself. Imagine think about think about it carefully if you were to smile and walk away. Honestly you have understood what Allah says. When the True Believers are addressed by the ignorant they just say peace and they walk away. Don’t waste your time.  – Mufti Menk