Category: Sort- Reminders

Beware! People Would Die To Be Married To Your Wife While You Are Alive – Mufti Menk

People are stressed you know what? They can’t show that stress to the people they work with because they’re big guys there. They want to impress the girls at work. so they don’t show them any bad habits, nothing but you go home first thing, you start swearing, you start screaming, you start shouting, you start showing your real self, subhanAllah.

SubhanAllah, that’s why the Prophet (saw) says you know who the best person is, the one who’s best to his family members, always the best. You know why? that person has shown the family that when I’m upset I’m still a good guy, when I’m angry I’m still a good guy, when I’m hungry I’m still a good guy, when I’ve suffered a bad day I’m still a good guy, when I’ve suffered the loss I’m still a good guy and I’m always a good guy. Then you’re really a good guy SubhanAllah. But if you’re a good guy outside the home and when you come back home then you’re not a good guy at all. Who knows better what type of a person you are? Those are at home. So that’s the reason why the prophet (saw) tells us watch who you are. You want to reallyknow who a man is, go ask his wife. You want to really know who a woman is ask the husband or ask the family members.

Be honest be upright, you lose a deal because of your honesty; no problem, Allah will give you Baraka, Baraka in it.

Blessings are snatched away when sins are committed remember that. You have the best spouse, the best person Allah chose for you as a husband or as a wife. You cannot see it because you know what? You’re involved in other sins. so you’re blinded. Blinded by whom? By Shaitaan, your home is no longer happy because your relationship with Allah is weak; your relationship with Shaitaan has become strong. Your relationship with Shaitaan becomes strong you become blind what happens to the blindness? The is the best wife on earth, I don’t want to say but perhaps I should.. Should I? People would die to be married to your wife and you’re still alive…

We couldn’t see that. we’re we’re blinded because there’s some sin blinded because there’s some sin happening either this Haram income there, either this Haram relationships there, either this Haram food there, either there’s something wrong happening there, either there’s no Salah; there’s no connection with Allah. So the coolness of the eyes will not be achieved because the heat of the sin has overtaken that saying, point number one: develop your relationship with Allah. – Mufti Menk

Softened Heart Is One Of The Clearest Signs Of The Closeness To Allah ~ Mufti Menk

Does that for Allah; see your family, and see your home becoming a happy home because you put Allah at the beginning. the one was develop your relationship with Allah, the other one was your character and conduct because that Allah has created everything else. Your relationship with all those things watch it, develop it that’s your jannah. Those two things; how you are with Allah and how you are with everything else.

you’ve got you’ve got to cleanse yourself, take out the jealousy, take out the malice, take out the Envy, take out the love you know everyone loves nice things but when that love for worldly items becomes so high you want it by hook or crook and both hooking and crooking are not allowed ,right? It’s not allowed. You can’t crook.

Let’s develop ourselves, many of us are lacking in character. We are Muslims; we’re an embarrassment to Islam a lot of the times. We.. our dealings are not honest and then we’re looking for happiness, sometimes the way we talk to people full of swear words, I promise you we can eradicate that, we can do without it. it doesn’t need to be there. you want a happy home, use respectful terms talk to people with love, with care, with respect in your home, listen to them, help them through their problems,

we want happiness we look… we’re searching for contentment, I promise you Islam has come with so much of ease, a lot of the people actually don’t follow it. They think they do. That’s why we say don’t judge a book by its cover.

Allah tests everyone with different types of tests. When Allah tests you with certain tests, it’s on your level; you’re going to need to ask yourself you know what? This is a test from Allah I need to pass it. It doesn’t mean because I look outwardly pious that suddenly I’m gonna pass all my tests then Shaytan attacks your heart by doing what: Messing it, becoming dirty. You start belittling people.

That’s why when you see a person who’s who’s really close to Allah, one of the clearest signs of the closeness to Allah is that your heart is softened. You feel mercy towards others, that’s from the Prophet Muhammad (saw),

It is because of the mercy of Allah that you are lenient towards everyone. You’re not hard-hearted. You’re not harsh. That’s the sign of the mercy of Allah when you are really close to Allah you become a soft person. In the sense that you care for others; You have mercy.

-Mufti Menk

Why Imperfections In Us? – Mufti Menk

This life and this world are full of imperfections.

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Do you know why? Why did Allah subhanahu wata’ala create this world with so much of hardship, difficulty and imperfections? When we say imperfections we mean even humankind as good as the posture maybe, it’s the best posture from all the creatures of Allah.

Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’ala tells us; We have created mankind in the best possible posture.

It means the positioning of every limb and organ of this particular species is absolutely the best.

There is no other position that you can ever come up with that is more superior to the norm that Allah has created.

Allah created us while He says mankind is created in the best of postures. He has allowed and catered for and made imperfections in us, guess why? But Allah had to have some flaws within us. Because Allah subhanahu wata’ala kept perfection for a totally different place, that’s why. If this world was perfect that other place would lose its value. What is that place? Jannah / paradise, mashallah. – Mufti Menk

When Is Allah Going To Stop This Wrong? – Mufti Menk

Many of us sometimes people do wrong to us and we wonder when is Allah going to stop this wrong, how can this person keep on doing wrong, how can they get away with murder, how can they get away with such evil deeds that they’re doing? Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’ala says in verse number 42 of surat Ibrahim:

And never think that Allah is unaware of what the wrongdoers do. He only delays them for a Day when eyes will stare [in horror]. (14:42)

When Allah (swt)’s punishment comes, nothing will stop it.

Allah says don’t think We don’t know what’s going on? We know what’s going on. We’re giving them time for many reasons. Some you may understand, Some you may not understand – Mufti Menk

Showing Off On Social Media Creates A Two-Way Problem- Mufti Menk

From the story of Yusuf (A.S)

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He said, “O my son, do not relate your vision to your brothers or they will contrive against you a plan. Indeed satan, to man, is a manifest enemy. (12:5)

When good things happen to you, you don’t need to tell the whole world. some people may not be happy.

In the age of social media we lose happiness. We lose contentment. We lose sleep for many reasons; one of them is we show off even the food that we’re eating, when we’re about to eat it. We show off places that we haven’t even been to. We show off so much and we make people burn. What contentment are you going to get?

Two-way problem: we show off a life we don’t live and we get jealous of a life that others are not living. It’s fake. Learn to live the real life.

Don’t boast, don’t brag, don’t show off and don’t be deceived by the boasting and the bragging and the showing off of others. – Mufti Menk

The Night Belongs To Your Spouse In Terms Of Companionship – Mufti Menk

      Be in truthful company

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The prophet peace be upon him says, “A person is known by the friends he or she keeps”. The circle that he rotates with, so be careful whom you befriend, the prophet (saw) said this.

Sometimes we have friends we need to change those friends. If your friends do not teach you how to prioritize then they are not true friends.

Why did you get married? What contentment would you like? You have a wife or a spouse waiting for you. You have children who are desperate for your time. If you don’t spend time with your family, with your wife, with your children after you are married and you spend it with your friends instead all the time, you will lose your contentment.

The company of the truthful they will in fact remind you to go home, they will all disperse early because the night belongs to your spouse, to the almighty obviously but in terms of companionship go back to your family.

Your friends should be better than you in character and conduct. Your friends should be better than you in the dedication that they have towards achieving goodness. – Mufti Menk

 

Pay Attention! Someone Is Addressing Your Life &Problems – Mufti Menk

Do you know when you are listening to the words of Allah subhanahu wata’ala you’re meant to be concentrating, you’re meant to be listening, you meant to be thinking, you’re meant to be paying attention?

So when the Qur’an is recited, then listen to it and pay attention that you may receive mercy. (7:204)

One very important factor that I wish to mention the Quran is so powerful that when you listen to its explanation it will seem as though someone is addressing you and your problems, your issues as though they knew your life and your problems, you will wonder; how this Person did know what exactly to address? The reality is it is from the Maker He knew, He knows, H will know and He created everyone. So the verses that are recited and explained coming to you will definitely impact upon you in a very very positive way regarding issues that you are facing in your life. that’s why Allah says listen attentively.

It will make sense and it will definitely impact upon you as though someone knew your life and your problems, yes Allah does know your life and He does know your problems. – Mufti Menk