Category: Transforming Life

Why Divorce For Trivial Matters! Listen To Save The Next Person | Parents Reminders ~ Shaykh Hasan Ali

You know, you have to admire our father’s generation, grandfather’s Generations.  Despite Decades of them having marital problems they stay together till the end until death departed them.

20 year olds and 30 year olds getting married and then within two years within months…. They are ending the relationship for trivial matters, for small things. I said it one thing the reason why I feel this is happening is because this generation that we have now this generation is a lot about not facing difficulties from a young age.

So parents have also in the last 20, 25, 30, years not given difficulties to the children. …removed all difficulties, you know, made it really easy for them. by the time they have then they are getting the married after a few years, you know, they’re not prepared for life.

No one saying you know shout at children.. But at least you know, you can be firm with children, the firmness with children and if you if you’re showing strength with children, children if you show softness to children, children grow up to be soft. And that’s why too soft is get married they don’t know how to deal with life’s troubles and life’s chaos and problems and so on and therefore, the easiest of me ,just get divorced for the most trivial matters, for the most smallest things that have probably happened in their life. And they want divorce, they want out and our parents and grandparents they stayed in there all the way till the end.

You don’t know what how many problems you have. You’ve got to understand that it’s more important to try and you know get to the end. And keep to your vows and remember that you know, you took a vow in front of Allah Azawajal when you got married, it’s not a small thing.

Divorce is there’s an emergency exit and is needed by some people. Yes, we can definitely reduce the number of divorces if people were to, you know, take life more seriously. if they first  haven’t up bringing those more serious and if they then knew how to deal with life’s problems and their trivial matters and so on.

please get the message out, be more firm with children And at the same time be, you know, be people who are ready for marriage and who got a serious intention to stay together all the way to the end unless something major comes out. Don’t look at the emergency exits.

Be Careful! Don’t Let Religious Fanatics Brainwash You | Important Youth Reminders | Mufti Menk

I am a Muslim. I believe in Allah. He is the only one worthy of worship. We heard that I believe that Muhammad peace be upon Him is the final messenger of Allah. I believe that whatever was revealed is absolute and is final and I believe that I will stick to it as best as I can until I meet with Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam on the pond known as al kawthar by the Will of Allah in order to achieve jannatul firdaus.

My brothers and sisters that does not negate the fact that I need to be kind to the rest of humanity. It does not negate the fact that there are people who disagree with me. There are people who have chosen other faiths.

One of the challenges we face as youth is we become very impatient when people differ with us. We are responsible to carry the flag of goodness, to carry the flag of Deen. We are also responsible to reach out to the other creatures of Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala starting with mankind.

When we leave this earth, it’s our duty to have left it in a better way. How will we be able to lead  When we have not even set our own morals and values upon a high standard? My duty is not to spew hate. some people use this verse in order to spew hate and to hurl abuse at those  who don’t agree with them and they say you know, what, there is something known as Al-wala’ wa-l-bara’, we have to harm everyone who disagrees with us. That’s not the meaning of the term Al-wala’ wa-l-bara’ .

We love everything to do with Allah and we dislike that which is sinful indeed. You need to know uphold the peace, stability, security of your families, your communities, your Nations and the globe at large.

We can respectfully disagree and keep the disagreement exactly where it is Subhanallah.

All people are the creatures of Allah if they turn because of an effort that you’ve made towards the right path, towards the path Of goodness, then you have earned a great reward.

But today we are being brainwashed into believing that everyone on Earth is our enemy. That’s it is just me and my small little group. We are less tolerant of each other.

The beginning of disaster is when things bubble in the background and you don’t deal with them. You have to be smart enough to know what is bubbling in the background and deal with it.

People are using religion because the world is fed up. I promise you there is so much disaster, so much crime, so much of sin, so much of hardship, so much of poverty, so much of you know, so many disasters that are happening, drought and whatever else, people are fed up and that’s why they are turning towards Faith. As they’re turning towards faith in the Almighty, Sadly, There are people of religion who are seizing that opportunity to come and con the people to say, now that you’re a Godly person. You need to become violent in order to please that God.

It’s a crisis were facing in the youth. Don’t let anyone brainwash you in that regard.

There are problems in the ummah. We know what the problems are. The way we are being or some of the people are being taught to solve those problems is by creating 10 more problems that did not exist. Don’t solve it in a way that will create a bigger problem.

There is a small percentage of evil among the Muslims. Those who are perpetrating crime, small percentage but I tell you what? Because the media has put it out there, don’t you agree that we are all looked at as bad people?

If you carry yourself with utmost respect and you are identified as a Muslim, you will change that narrative people will say no. No, I know Muslims personally. They love their kind. The majority of them are so helpful. They are so courteous.

Each time a crime  is perpetrated anywhere in the world where people are being killed, subhanallah in the name of Islam, We all pay a price and we are not even a part of it. We don’t even agree.

There are some really really good people in all nationalities and in all Races and even in all faiths and religions. We’re all human beings. Every one of us is supposed to be honest and upright. In fact, the Muslims more so.- Mufti Menk

I Just Gave Her A Hug & She Burst Out Crying On My Shoulder | Amazing Story From A Niqabi Sister

I had to share something really beautiful that just happened I left the Quran classes at pgcc (Pillars ofGuidance Community Centre) and I came to Chloé to do some shopping, who helped while I was shopping. This lady actually asked me to get out because she said that how could you ever be allowed in this place with the thing (Niqab) on your face?

And it was amazing because she had so much hate in her Eyes, and she wanted to kill me if she could and I said, excuse me! What makes you think that you’re the one who can decide who comes in here and who doesn’t and she said no, you should not be allowed anywhere in public places in Australia with the thing (niqab) on your face. I don’t know what got into me.

I said sister Can I please give you a hug? and I just gave her a hug and I hugged her and subhanallah. It was amazing how she just burst out crying on my shoulder.

Then I just lifted up my niqab and I told her sister. I’m not doing this out of Oppression. I’m doing this out of my own choice and she started crying even more and I said, why do you …why are you so upset and she said because I just saw a documentary this morning about how Muslim women are forced and oppressed to wear the hijab and the thing (niqab) on your face and they’re raped and things like that.

I said, that’s exactly why you have so much hate because you are watching these things on the media and you believe what you see on the media.

Subhanallah … she had a completely different picture of us… Of Muslim women and she apologized to me. She hugged me she was so happy, SubhanAllah,

My reason of telling you guys this is it’s amazing.

What Akhlaq (the practice of virtue, morality and manners as highlighted in the Islamic teaching) can do…. It’s absolutely amazing what just a hug and just a smile can do.

I said; sister Can I please give you a hug? And I just gave her a hug. Subhanallah,  It was amazing how she just burst out crying on my shoulder. Have a good Akhlaq (the practice of virtue, morality and manners as highlighted in the Islamic teaching) you’ll conquer the world with that.

Character Litmus Test Question & Answer | How To Know About Yourself | Never Forget ~Mufti Menk

Every single one of us has been created in a way that we need the help of others in order to survive. Have you thought of that? Nobody is absolutely independent/ although; yes, we are dependent upon Allah and Allah alone to fulfill our needs but Allah requires and He sends to us those who will help us fulfill those needs. It doesn’t mean it’s not from Allah.

No matter, what? We need Allah definitely but together with that the plan of Allah includes the fact that we need each other.

The Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him says the Almighty will continue helping His slave as long as that slave continues to help another. Amazing!

You are just a number. That’s it. Don’t ever think that you’re better than the people you are speaking to and don’t ever think that you’re higher than anyone else because if that’s the case you will never be able to reach their hearts. Speak as though they are better than you. You just need to get a message to them.

We complain more than what we used to, when we did not have. Because that’s how materialism works, when you run behind the dunya guess what? It always runs faster than you. subhanAllah, you can never catch up.

When I came into this world I was naked, I had zero, and so whatever I have today is more than what I had the day I was born. That’s it that’s my motivation.

You want to know who is the closest to Allah. It is the person who has the most beautiful character. Your closeness to Allah is very closely reflected in your character. Those who are harsh and hard-hearted they cannot be close to Allah.

If you want to know the type of person you are, if you want to know more about yourself, your character, if you would like to know where do I fit in, there is a test- litmus tests, can test yourself, ask yourself, one question, the answer of it will tell you who you actually are? What’s the question?

The person whom the world considers, the lowest whom the world considers most insignificant, whom the world considers almost irrelevant, how you treat that person will determine who you are.

All those whom the world considers insignificant you should never consider them insignificant. It’s your test.

A lot of the people don’t want your money, they need you to just be kind be. — Mufti Menk

Why We Have Differences! First Chaos On Earth By Cain/Kane | Why We Are Failing ~ Mufti Menk

From the very beginning Adam alayhis-salam he had children. Every one of them had a different brain capacity. They thought  differently. They understood at different levels. Every one of them had a different eye ray, a different thumb print, a different identity, a different face, a different complexion etc, that is Allah.

This is the creation of Allah. Every one of us is totally and absolutely unique not only human beings but also every creature. No two will be exactly the same that is the creation of the Creator.

Naturally because we think differently. We will have differences. The first difference that Allah makes mention of right at the beginning in the same children of Adam, first generation of human beings. The story of the two sons of Adam they were both sons from different wombs but they were brothers, recite to them the story when they sacrificed something for the sake of Allah it was accepted from one of them and rejected from the other. so the one whom it was rejected from jealous look at the understanding, look at the brain capacity, look at the way he looked at things and he told him I will kill you.

look at what Qabil did Qabil is the name of the killer in the English language came the name Cain /kane is used Qabil, one of the sons of Adam, he was the son of the first of the creatures of Allah loved by Allah, adam alayhis-salam and Eve they were loved by Allah, Allah chose him to be the first our grandfather, the great great grandfather subhanAllah, he is the connection through which we are all brothers and sisters by the will of Allah. Allah (swt) tells us the story not for nothing for us to learn a lesson, Qabil comes about you know what he does? He decides I’m going to kill my brother. The brother is Habil, Habil in the English language Abel, so one is Cain /Kane, he is the killer and one is abel, he is the one who was killed, ok. What did Habil say to his brother just before he was killed?

It’s a very powerful statement that Allah mentions in the Quran Allah says the brother told his brother oh my brother, remember the brother just threatened to kill him right? oh my brother, if you are going to extend your arm to kill me I want to tell you I’m not going to extend my arm to kill you. because I fear Allah, i am conscious of Allah, who is lord of the worlds, I know. I don’t want to destroy my relationship with Allah by risking killing you.

Today people kill anyone and everyone in the name of the same Allah whom Allah says to us when Habil was making the statement he said I fear Allah who is Lord of the Worlds that’s why I’m not going to kill you. But today we kill the people thinking that we fear Allah. You see where we have gone upside down here and we use all sorts of different evidences to prove our point,

We are all creatures of Allah.  You’re a true mumin, you believe in Allah if you believe in Allah you will believe that the same Allah who made you, made them. And if you believe in Allah and you want Allah to love you, you will love what Allah created and you will want goodness for those you will want goodness.

Allah (swt) from that story has taught us that there will be differences if you deal with these differences wrongly, you will destroy yourselves and you will regret.

Allah says because of that we prescribed that you know what? Whoever is going to kill some innocent soul, whoever is going to cause that is equivalent to the one who has destroyed entire humanity and if you save one life that person is equivalent in reward and in good deed similar to he or she who has saved entire humanity.

No matter, how much I differ with you, I need to make sure that I respect the fact that you are a human being and that Allah gave you life. I differ. I am to respect the person’s life does not mean you agree with them.

May we be respectful to one another even though we may disagree. When you disagree very strongly with someone that is not reason to disrespect the fact that they are human beings and they are owed the right as human beings for you to respect that life. – Mufti Menk

Prompt! Stop Haram Things To Get A Better Replacement | Allah’s Promise ~ Ali Hammdua

Allah Almighty has promised those who courageously reject a sinful practice with that which is better. This is a promise that provides so much strength peace and solace and reassurance particularly to the young Muslim man or that young Muslim woman who may be struggling with a specific addiction of some sort or a particular private doing that they know will distance them from Allah and will distance them from success in the hereafter.

The prophet Muhammed (ﷺ)said “There is it anything that you leave for the sake of Allah, accept that He will replace you with something better”. That’s a promise and and Allah Almighty never fails in His promise.

Make the courageous decision from this moment onwards, to make amends to those habits, those relationships, those secret doings that you know need evicting from your life. Then, realize that the better replacement from Allah has already been dispatched and it is on its way, Allahu Akbar.

4 True Stories Revitalise You Instantly From Frustrations ~Shaykh Ali Hammuda

Proactivity is a universally admired trait even if we aren’t blessed to live by it. Minimally we admire those who do and we wish to be like them. Minimally we admire those who do and we wish to be like them. So, we ask if it is collectively admired, why is it that some of us still fail to live a proactive lifestyle?

Belittlement of oneself, yeah, so this is a person who genuinely desires to be an initiative taker and to live proactively with purpose vision and energy and motivation but he is shackled with the whisperings of who am I to do so like what value could I, could a person like me possibly add?

I wish to do now is offer a few examples which insha’Allah will pull the rug from beneath every such excuse.

Examples of proactivity that inspired imam to stay steadfast, that drove away enemies and broken alliance communities from destruction and saved other communities from medina that saved entire from the Hellfire at the hands of what and who? ..At the hands of a thief, at the hands of a new Muslim, the hands of an ant, the hands of a bird.

So with this we can really conclude that those who despite hearing all of that still insist that they’ve got nothing to offer, they have no reason to be a proactive, that person may in fact be accusing Allah Almighty of not giving them the necessary resources needed to attain the heights highest grades in paradise.

Proactivity has always been and will always be the fuel of the Dawa and reformation and revival and change. It is that vehicle that delivered Islam to Persia and Rome and Africa and the rest of the world.

Our history as Muslims describes a people of phenomenal proactivity which included the old and the young, the fit, the handicapped the male, the female, the scholar, the uneducated.

Allah Almighty alone knows of just how many people were heading for a nosedive into hell. if it wasn’t for certain proactive people who pulled them out and only Allah knows how many talents and skills would never have been discovered if it wasn’t for certain proactive people who uncovered them in these people and then channelled the skills for the cause of Islam and only Allah Almighty knows how many communities who were oppressed subjugated who would never have been liberated, had it not been for certain proactive people like yourselves who decided to carry this burden for the sake of Allah subhana WA Ta’ala. – Shaykh Ali Hammuda