Category: Family

“I Want Good For You” The Pain Of The Parents And Vice Versa – Shaykh Omar Suleiman

You will one day come to know what I have said to you.

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Allah (swt) guides whom he Wills. You don’t guide whom you loved and so you do your best but you disconnect yourself, you take responsibility, but at the same time you acknowledge your lack of control over the situation. you, leave that to God…

This person is being spoken to by their parents and saying look I want good for you. You’re going to remember this one day; I’m trying to guide you to a good path.

You’re trying to help someone and the case once your own children who you would do anything for them and they’re on a path of hurting themselves, harming themselves and you’re trying to tell them look it’s for your own good. I want you to think about the consequences of your actions.

When someone can’t hear your advice just let them know that you’re going to love them through their stubbornness.  I love you, and I’m going to pray for you and I’m here for you. The door is open.

I’m telling you something that hopefully will one day come back to you.

What will make your advice ugly is when you have ego in it, when it’s condescending, when it doesn’t,… maybe somewhere in there is some Noble intention but in the midst.. of your Noble intention is being lost. The ugliness of your words, right….

For both of these people; both the Giving that sincere advice and the one listening to that sincere advice, right the ego has to be removed from the picture and you’ve got to consider whether if you’re giving advice to someone, sincere advice to someone out of the love of Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala and out of wanting good for them.

Having Mental Illness Isn’t A Weakness In Faith, Get Help From The Experts| Sh. Yaser Birjas And Sh. Omar Suleiman

Going through a situation where people suffer from mental illness doesn’t mean Therefore if you going to talk to somebody about a mental health issue, you talk to The Experts. So don’t go on make an appointment with the Imam.

you need to go to the imam for Spiritual maybe support or you know that you…. going with a counsellor on the side, but … the imams, you know kind of like help as well to keep in sha Allah on track and so on, that’s good. But don’t depend on the imam primarily for an issue that other professionals who depend on the imam primarily for an issue that other professionals who are specialized in the field they can help you with Insha’Allah.

One thing is that you can’t just pray away a mental illness, A lot of people think that way in this is wrong and to burden someone else with that is also not appropriate. you have to treat it. And treating it is a form of a ibadah That’s a form of worship.

Mental illness hurts you, it hurts people around you. and when you seek to cure that so that you can be a better Muslim, be a better child to your parents, a better sibling a better spouse, whatever it may be that’s actually ibadah, that’s actually an act of worship.

What Lies Beneath Your Parents’ Feet Even After They Died with Five Sets Of Instructions | Shaykh Ali Hammuda

One of the greatest ways of erasing major sins is via the door of repentance that is found beneath the feet of your mother and father.

Abdullah Ibn Abbas (Ra) said I do not know of any good deed on the face of the earth. That is dearer to Allah Almighty than being good to your mother. And that is why Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal (rah) and other said erases even major sins.

Five things to honouring deceased parents:

Prophet Muhammed (saw) Making dua for them and asking Allah Almighty to erase their sins. Carrying out their last wishes after they have died, honouring their friends that they used to love, love, taking care of those ties of , Family Ties that you have because of them.

For This Insurance Allah Takes Care Of Your Children In This World And The Hereafter | Shaykh Ali Hammuda

For those who want to raise their children upon Islamic principles. One of the greatest forms of Islamic Insurance Halal, Islamic insurance that is that you can take out in order to safeguard and guarantee the safety of your children and their principles as Believers is the insurance known as your own righteousness.

Ensuring my own righteousness is one of the key means ensuring the righteousness of my children.

A person who is righteous, Allah Almighty will protect his children on his behalf from the story in suratul kahf, and that the worship that he does of Allah Almighty, It’s blessing will Encompass his children in the life of this world and the Hereafter.

Follow Up The Two Ingredients And See The Change In Your Relationship Marriage | Shaykh Ali Hammuda

If you don’t have a daily relationship with the Quran, then you are fooling yourself into thinking that you are doing good.

These are the Gatherings that will bring sakina upon a house that is fractured, that will erase the sins of a sinner that will illuminate the grave of a Muslim and we’ll take him or her by their hand and guide them to the highest grades in jannah.

Don’t Use Your Tongue And Verbal Expression To Harm Your Spouse | 3 Heart Touching Stories | Part 3.0 | Shaykh Ali Hammuda

Don’t use your tongue and your verbal expression to harm your spouse And remember the mawadda and the rahmah Allah jalla jalaluhu has placed between you something You dislike, don’t insult and don’t Mock and this could leave a lifelong scar that you will struggle later on to amend. – Shaykh Ali Hammuda

A Household Of Tranquility, Affection And Mercy | A Timeless Love- Prophet ﷺ And Khadijah (Ra) | Part 2.3 | Shaykh Ali Hammuda

By Allah, if these pillars of a marriage are there mentioned in the Ayah (Surah Ar-Rum [30:21]) that you just heard which is Sakina (Tranquility) mawadda (affection) Rahmah (Mercy), then this is a household that can deal with all of the obstacles and the challenges of life outside. And perhaps an undoubtedly rather I should say. This is one of the secrets behind the strength of our messenger Muhammad Sallallahu alayhi wasallam, because Allah jalla jalaluhu gave him a righteous wife called khadija ibn khuwaylid (Rah) who was the means of the Sakina the tranquility and the mawadda the affection and the rahmah therefore regardless of what he experienced outside from enmity from The jinns, from the ins, mankind or jinn kind.

He came home to a caring woman who was patting him on the back. I’m saying to him I believe in you. I accept your message. I will pray behind you, removing the intestines of animals that were placed on his back using her Blessed Hands and removing the dust from his beard and from his hair using her blessed hands, and he was able to continue that is why the day when she left it was a year of sorrow in the life of the messenger (saw). mawadda & rahmah was in this family and the gratitude that we need to have for our mother khadijah (ra) is beyond my ability to express it to tell you the truth, brothers and sisters for creating a home where by the messenger of Allah was able to propagate his mission till it came to our masjid in Cardiff mawadda and Rahmah was in that family.

Therefore not only does it help you as an individual find your feet in life and be happy as a married man or a woman it helps you find your akhirah, helps you convey the message of Allah when the home has within it, tranquility and affection and mercy and the opposite is just as true. Therefore, He sallallahu alehiwassallaam never forgot the virtue that she has over him in this department, even when she died because she was 15 years his senior. She had the whole world and the her hands and beneath her feet. She handed it over to her messenger and to her husband so that he could convey the word of God Almighty subhanahu wa’ta’ala. So when she passed away, he never forgot her and her mother Aisha radiallahu anna she would say even after she died.

She said in my life, I never felt more jealous towards any one of the wives of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, then the jealousy I felt towards khadijah (Ra), and I never met her. I never even met her. I think what I would say to him, she was an old woman jealousy sometimes causes a person to see irrational things. They are excused. That was just an old woman. Why are you so obsessed with her? He would say to happens Allah Almighty blessed me with her love. What can I do about it? Allah put her love in my heart. subhanallah al-azim, mawadda & Rahmah ayesh (ra) said that even after she died messenger (saw) sometimes slaughter a goat and he will say distribute the meat of the goat between the friends of Khadija. He never forgot her and one day when he heard a knock at the door and who was knocking at the door of the messenger (saw) So I sent him it was Halah bint Khuwailid, the sister of Khadija (ra) He heard her voice and he said is oh Allah it is halah because Her voice reminded him of the voice of Khadija (ra) his wife before she had passed away. subhanAllah, he was walking in the street in a group of old women came to him and he took off his shawl and he put it on the floor and he said sit down, how are you doing? And he he spoke with them and how is life after us? What happened? What did you do?

Aysha (ra) said messenger of Allah (saw) who are these old women you were speaking to? he said these used to be women who used to visit us during the days of Khadija. Look at those words. Like those amazing days of khadijah you read between the lines. Amazing Subhan Allah because she provided a home that was of Sakina and mawadda She can really set the mood of the house and she can do the opposite and and this will be an empowering part of the discussion. Abu al-As ibn al-Rabi, who was the husband of Zainab, who is Zainab? The daughter of the prophet Mohammed (saw) from Khadijah (ra) So this is their daughter of Zainab They married her to a man called al-As ibn al-Rabi who was a Muslim, but they were stuck in Mecca. They couldn’t emigrate, the pagans had left them there. They prevented them from coming to Medina. And so when the Battle of Badr took place what happened? What happened? What happened? Was that al-As was forced by the pagans to go and to fight with them against the Muslims. It was out of his will and so he was caught by the Muslims and taken to Medina. So he was now separated between him and his wife Zainab.

She still in Mecca. And so the pagans they began to send messages to Medina saying we need you to free our men and so the deal was that Every man who was able to teach the Muslims how to read and write we will let him free, the importance of Education teach how to read and write and that will be your Ransom. If you can’t teach us how to read and write then you will need to pay a ransom. So the meccans they began to pay ransoms sending it to Medina. What is Zainab going to provide? What is Zainab going to provide, what type of Ransom because the meccan are not going to help her because they know that her husband is an ally of the prophet (saw) So she had nothing to give but a bracelet. Which her mother had given to her on her wedding night, khadijah (ra) So she sent it to the Prophet Muhammad (saw) And when he came imagine, he receives his bag. He puts his hand inside and he hears that this is the ransom for the husband of your daughter. And he takes out to see what is she going to Ransom him win? Like how did we get into this scenario to begin with and he finds the bracelet that his Khadijah had given to her when she was still alive to marry her off to al-As to beautify herself for him and the necessary jewelry that a woman requires. The narration says the prophet (saw) became so emotional when he saw this and he cried so much turning it and tossing in his hand remembering the days of Khadija. Then he said to his companions if it is okay with you would it be all right for us to give them back this Ransom and to free him free of charge on the condition that he sends Zainab to Medina and they said of course. Look at how he never forgot her, dear brothers and sisters. One of the key reasons without a doubt is because of the Sakina, the mawadda, the affection, the rahmah, that she played a chief role in facilitating in his house. That enabled him to do what he needed to do as a prophet from Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala.

Miscarriage Or Losing A Child! The Barakah Of Trusting Allah | Powerful Reminders | Shaykh Hasan Ali

I know there are people outside there who’ve lost young children. It’s was a Qadr (decree) of Allah azza waja’llal, whether the young child was in the womb of the mother and was lost or whether it was born. And then after that last you gotta understand that these children, you know, they’ve never committed any sins. Allah Azza wajal has got a special place for him. What will happen is they are waiting for you on the other side. All you need to do is have stubborn patience.

These kids will be released on the Day of Judgment. They’re going to be looking for you. They will not they will say o Allah we want to go to Jannah (paradise) with our mothers and fathers. This is for anyone who’s lost any children under the age of puberty.

 

the prophet Muhammad (saw) says you remember Allah in your good times while you’re good and Allah will remember you or be there for you in your bad times.

A man can lose anything that he should not lose azawajal. The only thing you should never lose in your life is Allah azawajal. Because beyond this life and all things are finished, with All people’s connections are finished with you, when you are not belonging to anyone, when nobody is attributed to you or connected  it to you, only Allah azawajal exists. Keep your connection with Him.

A beautiful in surah 53 Ayah 28 on Words regarding those people who don’t believe in the Afterlife (akhirah) and who tell us to move away from the Quran…. – Shaykh Hasan Ali

 

How Iblis Devil Sows The Seed Of Marital Discords | Impact On Children | Shaykh Ali Hammuda

When the shatiaan has given this topic [marriage] so much attention, why should we not give marriage this type of attention when shaitaan has given this topic so much more attention? It seems that shaitaan has a vested interest in separating husband and wife. And it’s one of those things that he celebrates a lot more with respect to sins that him and his troops they achieve and this was mentioned categorically in a Hadith.

The Prophet (S.A.W.S) said:

“Iblis places his throne upon water; he then sends detachments (for creating dissension between people); the nearer to him in rank are those who are most notorious in creating dissension. One of them comes and says: “I did so and so.” And he says: “You have done nothing.” Then one amongst them comes and says: “I did not spare so and so until I sowed the seed of discord between a husband and a wife.” Shaytaan goes near him and says: “You have done well.” He then embraces him”

(Sahih Muslim and narrated by Jabir Ibn ‘Abdullah).

The fact that, divorce is on the rise. in my own personal and short experience in the Islamic Council of Europe out of every 10 cases That are supposed to be mediating between people in every Avenue of life whether Financial, marital or whatever It may be out of every ten or so cases. I would say maybe nine of them are our divorce related, maybe more so we have a problem, shaitaan is working and many of these marriages could have been fixed. This is our motto We want to mend it rather than ending it. We want to find Solutions and divorced undoubtedly is a window that Allah has provided if all other options fail.

Look at what happens to the children? Iain Duncan Smith said Who emerge from broken homes are nine times more likely to commit crime then those children who come out from stable homes. That is a worrying statistic.

Look at the individual cost that happens when a husband and wife are falling out. Look at what happens to him what heart from an emotional psychological perspective.

 

The Perfect relationship between husband and wife doesn’t exist, why? Because, that doesn’t exist in Dunya. It exists in Jannah, but not in Dunya. – Shaykh Ali Hammuda

Really Hurts! Preference For A Materialistic Degree Over Hadith By Parents | Selecting A Spouse | Mufti Menk

The brightest children are not always the most successful on Earth and I want to tell you something else to prove that your education and your wealth are not necessarily connected… Allah makes some of the wealthiest from amongst us, some of the least educated, do you guys agree?

This is why you know what?  I really feel hurt when people sometimes see a successful businessman, A person who is doing really well and then they make an issue out of the fact that this person has not gotten a degree or whatever else so they cannot marry our daughter.

But what was the point of going to school in the first place to earn a living? This man earns the living without having gotten that degree.

Work hard inshallah as best as you can and enjoy the days you have, even if you’re at a workplace things are tough.

Life will be challenging. people will judge you. It’s not your fault. It’s not you who is sick. It is them.

A proposal has come in your direction from a person whom you are satisfied with their level of Deen which means their closeness to Allah, their religion, they don’t have to be you know, so Pious but on an acceptable level perhaps they read their Salah, they are responsible in their relationship with Allah and secondly, Their character and conduct is of an acceptable level. If you have those two then let it happen.

And you know what the Hadith says if you don’t oh, this is We say it we repeat it and we see parents do exactly the opposite and face the same consequences mentioned by the prophet (saw) and they blame everyone else.

So the Hadith says if good character came to you with decent deen. Now what has good character meant? you need a responsible guy, responsible person. Mashallah, they’re responsible and they have Deen, they’re good character.

I always say you will not even know that your choice of a Spouse shapes your future until you get married. Your choice of a spouse actually determines a lot of your future. Don’t choose with your hormones.

I’ve always said the two most powerful organs the heart and the mind, don’t ever give anyone the control of those two because they will hurt you.

In fact prior to marriage, is this person fit to be the mother of my children? Is this person fit to be a father to the children I expect to have? Will they be a role model? – Mufti Menk