Category: Family

Don’t Use Your Tongue And Verbal Expression To Harm Your Spouse | 3 Heart Touching Stories | Part 3.0 | Shaykh Ali Hammuda

Don’t use your tongue and your verbal expression to harm your spouse And remember the mawadda and the rahmah Allah jalla jalaluhu has placed between you something You dislike, don’t insult and don’t Mock and this could leave a lifelong scar that you will struggle later on to amend. – Shaykh Ali Hammuda

A Household Of Tranquility, Affection And Mercy | A Timeless Love- Prophet ﷺ And Khadijah (Ra) | Part 2.3 | Shaykh Ali Hammuda

By Allah, if these pillars of a marriage are there mentioned in the Ayah (Surah Ar-Rum [30:21]) that you just heard which is Sakina (Tranquility) mawadda (affection) Rahmah (Mercy), then this is a household that can deal with all of the obstacles and the challenges of life outside. And perhaps an undoubtedly rather I should say. This is one of the secrets behind the strength of our messenger Muhammad Sallallahu alayhi wasallam, because Allah jalla jalaluhu gave him a righteous wife called khadija ibn khuwaylid (Rah) who was the means of the Sakina the tranquility and the mawadda the affection and the rahmah therefore regardless of what he experienced outside from enmity from The jinns, from the ins, mankind or jinn kind.

He came home to a caring woman who was patting him on the back. I’m saying to him I believe in you. I accept your message. I will pray behind you, removing the intestines of animals that were placed on his back using her Blessed Hands and removing the dust from his beard and from his hair using her blessed hands, and he was able to continue that is why the day when she left it was a year of sorrow in the life of the messenger (saw). mawadda & rahmah was in this family and the gratitude that we need to have for our mother khadijah (ra) is beyond my ability to express it to tell you the truth, brothers and sisters for creating a home where by the messenger of Allah was able to propagate his mission till it came to our masjid in Cardiff mawadda and Rahmah was in that family.

Therefore not only does it help you as an individual find your feet in life and be happy as a married man or a woman it helps you find your akhirah, helps you convey the message of Allah when the home has within it, tranquility and affection and mercy and the opposite is just as true. Therefore, He sallallahu alehiwassallaam never forgot the virtue that she has over him in this department, even when she died because she was 15 years his senior. She had the whole world and the her hands and beneath her feet. She handed it over to her messenger and to her husband so that he could convey the word of God Almighty subhanahu wa’ta’ala. So when she passed away, he never forgot her and her mother Aisha radiallahu anna she would say even after she died.

She said in my life, I never felt more jealous towards any one of the wives of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, then the jealousy I felt towards khadijah (Ra), and I never met her. I never even met her. I think what I would say to him, she was an old woman jealousy sometimes causes a person to see irrational things. They are excused. That was just an old woman. Why are you so obsessed with her? He would say to happens Allah Almighty blessed me with her love. What can I do about it? Allah put her love in my heart. subhanallah al-azim, mawadda & Rahmah ayesh (ra) said that even after she died messenger (saw) sometimes slaughter a goat and he will say distribute the meat of the goat between the friends of Khadija. He never forgot her and one day when he heard a knock at the door and who was knocking at the door of the messenger (saw) So I sent him it was Halah bint Khuwailid, the sister of Khadija (ra) He heard her voice and he said is oh Allah it is halah because Her voice reminded him of the voice of Khadija (ra) his wife before she had passed away. subhanAllah, he was walking in the street in a group of old women came to him and he took off his shawl and he put it on the floor and he said sit down, how are you doing? And he he spoke with them and how is life after us? What happened? What did you do?

Aysha (ra) said messenger of Allah (saw) who are these old women you were speaking to? he said these used to be women who used to visit us during the days of Khadija. Look at those words. Like those amazing days of khadijah you read between the lines. Amazing Subhan Allah because she provided a home that was of Sakina and mawadda She can really set the mood of the house and she can do the opposite and and this will be an empowering part of the discussion. Abu al-As ibn al-Rabi, who was the husband of Zainab, who is Zainab? The daughter of the prophet Mohammed (saw) from Khadijah (ra) So this is their daughter of Zainab They married her to a man called al-As ibn al-Rabi who was a Muslim, but they were stuck in Mecca. They couldn’t emigrate, the pagans had left them there. They prevented them from coming to Medina. And so when the Battle of Badr took place what happened? What happened? What happened? Was that al-As was forced by the pagans to go and to fight with them against the Muslims. It was out of his will and so he was caught by the Muslims and taken to Medina. So he was now separated between him and his wife Zainab.

She still in Mecca. And so the pagans they began to send messages to Medina saying we need you to free our men and so the deal was that Every man who was able to teach the Muslims how to read and write we will let him free, the importance of Education teach how to read and write and that will be your Ransom. If you can’t teach us how to read and write then you will need to pay a ransom. So the meccans they began to pay ransoms sending it to Medina. What is Zainab going to provide? What is Zainab going to provide, what type of Ransom because the meccan are not going to help her because they know that her husband is an ally of the prophet (saw) So she had nothing to give but a bracelet. Which her mother had given to her on her wedding night, khadijah (ra) So she sent it to the Prophet Muhammad (saw) And when he came imagine, he receives his bag. He puts his hand inside and he hears that this is the ransom for the husband of your daughter. And he takes out to see what is she going to Ransom him win? Like how did we get into this scenario to begin with and he finds the bracelet that his Khadijah had given to her when she was still alive to marry her off to al-As to beautify herself for him and the necessary jewelry that a woman requires. The narration says the prophet (saw) became so emotional when he saw this and he cried so much turning it and tossing in his hand remembering the days of Khadija. Then he said to his companions if it is okay with you would it be all right for us to give them back this Ransom and to free him free of charge on the condition that he sends Zainab to Medina and they said of course. Look at how he never forgot her, dear brothers and sisters. One of the key reasons without a doubt is because of the Sakina, the mawadda, the affection, the rahmah, that she played a chief role in facilitating in his house. That enabled him to do what he needed to do as a prophet from Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala.

Miscarriage Or Losing A Child! The Barakah Of Trusting Allah | Powerful Reminders | Shaykh Hasan Ali

I know there are people outside there who’ve lost young children. It’s was a Qadr (decree) of Allah azza waja’llal, whether the young child was in the womb of the mother and was lost or whether it was born. And then after that last you gotta understand that these children, you know, they’ve never committed any sins. Allah Azza wajal has got a special place for him. What will happen is they are waiting for you on the other side. All you need to do is have stubborn patience.

These kids will be released on the Day of Judgment. They’re going to be looking for you. They will not they will say o Allah we want to go to Jannah (paradise) with our mothers and fathers. This is for anyone who’s lost any children under the age of puberty.

 

the prophet Muhammad (saw) says you remember Allah in your good times while you’re good and Allah will remember you or be there for you in your bad times.

A man can lose anything that he should not lose azawajal. The only thing you should never lose in your life is Allah azawajal. Because beyond this life and all things are finished, with All people’s connections are finished with you, when you are not belonging to anyone, when nobody is attributed to you or connected  it to you, only Allah azawajal exists. Keep your connection with Him.

A beautiful in surah 53 Ayah 28 on Words regarding those people who don’t believe in the Afterlife (akhirah) and who tell us to move away from the Quran…. – Shaykh Hasan Ali

 

How Iblis Devil Sows The Seed Of Marital Discords | Impact On Children | Shaykh Ali Hammuda

When the shatiaan has given this topic [marriage] so much attention, why should we not give marriage this type of attention when shaitaan has given this topic so much more attention? It seems that shaitaan has a vested interest in separating husband and wife. And it’s one of those things that he celebrates a lot more with respect to sins that him and his troops they achieve and this was mentioned categorically in a Hadith.

The Prophet (S.A.W.S) said:

“Iblis places his throne upon water; he then sends detachments (for creating dissension between people); the nearer to him in rank are those who are most notorious in creating dissension. One of them comes and says: “I did so and so.” And he says: “You have done nothing.” Then one amongst them comes and says: “I did not spare so and so until I sowed the seed of discord between a husband and a wife.” Shaytaan goes near him and says: “You have done well.” He then embraces him”

(Sahih Muslim and narrated by Jabir Ibn ‘Abdullah).

The fact that, divorce is on the rise. in my own personal and short experience in the Islamic Council of Europe out of every 10 cases That are supposed to be mediating between people in every Avenue of life whether Financial, marital or whatever It may be out of every ten or so cases. I would say maybe nine of them are our divorce related, maybe more so we have a problem, shaitaan is working and many of these marriages could have been fixed. This is our motto We want to mend it rather than ending it. We want to find Solutions and divorced undoubtedly is a window that Allah has provided if all other options fail.

Look at what happens to the children? Iain Duncan Smith said Who emerge from broken homes are nine times more likely to commit crime then those children who come out from stable homes. That is a worrying statistic.

Look at the individual cost that happens when a husband and wife are falling out. Look at what happens to him what heart from an emotional psychological perspective.

 

The Perfect relationship between husband and wife doesn’t exist, why? Because, that doesn’t exist in Dunya. It exists in Jannah, but not in Dunya. – Shaykh Ali Hammuda

Really Hurts! Preference For A Materialistic Degree Over Hadith By Parents | Selecting A Spouse | Mufti Menk

The brightest children are not always the most successful on Earth and I want to tell you something else to prove that your education and your wealth are not necessarily connected… Allah makes some of the wealthiest from amongst us, some of the least educated, do you guys agree?

This is why you know what?  I really feel hurt when people sometimes see a successful businessman, A person who is doing really well and then they make an issue out of the fact that this person has not gotten a degree or whatever else so they cannot marry our daughter.

But what was the point of going to school in the first place to earn a living? This man earns the living without having gotten that degree.

Work hard inshallah as best as you can and enjoy the days you have, even if you’re at a workplace things are tough.

Life will be challenging. people will judge you. It’s not your fault. It’s not you who is sick. It is them.

A proposal has come in your direction from a person whom you are satisfied with their level of Deen which means their closeness to Allah, their religion, they don’t have to be you know, so Pious but on an acceptable level perhaps they read their Salah, they are responsible in their relationship with Allah and secondly, Their character and conduct is of an acceptable level. If you have those two then let it happen.

And you know what the Hadith says if you don’t oh, this is We say it we repeat it and we see parents do exactly the opposite and face the same consequences mentioned by the prophet (saw) and they blame everyone else.

So the Hadith says if good character came to you with decent deen. Now what has good character meant? you need a responsible guy, responsible person. Mashallah, they’re responsible and they have Deen, they’re good character.

I always say you will not even know that your choice of a Spouse shapes your future until you get married. Your choice of a spouse actually determines a lot of your future. Don’t choose with your hormones.

I’ve always said the two most powerful organs the heart and the mind, don’t ever give anyone the control of those two because they will hurt you.

In fact prior to marriage, is this person fit to be the mother of my children? Is this person fit to be a father to the children I expect to have? Will they be a role model? – Mufti Menk

The Golden Advice To Be Nicer Person Around & for Long-Term Relationship | Or Six Salah won’t Help | Mufti Menk

None of us are the same even in our thinking. We won’t think the same so, why did Allah make us different? Why do I think differently? You might be married to a person who doesn’t like everything you like. In fact, it will be it has to be it must be, subhanallah. Why have you thought of it?

It’s part of the plan of Allah. He wants us to master the art of living with difference of opinion with differences in our likes and dislike.

Even if you are born of one mother and one father look at the evidence from the time of Abel and Cain, from the time of Adam and Eve, may Allah bless them.

Small issues today and what do we do? It starts off in the heart, we become abusive. We start belittling. We start making people feel inferior. We say words that are hurtful. We say words that are harmful. We say abusive, vulgar words. Do you really think that you’re going to go far by saying these bad things? You have actually lost the plot even if you are making six Salah a day, you’re going nowhere.

Learn to be the best human being you can take a look at the globe, we are suffering simply because we want to impose our own thinking on the rest of the world. That’s why we are struggling. You, don’t do that.

And that does not mean you water down your own opinion. When I’m a Muslim, I will remain Muslim. I will believe what’s right and wrong based on my convictions. But how will I treat someone who disagrees with me? That is something we don’t know and we’re lacking and to me that’s one of the biggest reasons why we are at War today. Not only with the globe but even amongst ourselves.

You should be yourself unique, you don’t compromise your faith what you believe is right. You don’t compromise that. That doesn’t mean you have to belittle someone Else who has thought differently, who’s used the brain Allah gave them to arrive at a conclusion that you consider wrong.

You have to address people with respect from the very beginning. We were taught that as humankind and thereafter as the ummah of the one who was sent as a mercy to the rest, SubhanAllah, salallahu alaihe wasalam.

Do you Shout, Scream, yell, abusive, this that in your house?  You don’t qualify. It’s not a house or a home. It’s just a dwelling.

When you qualify you will have a much better home. Subhanallah, you’re going to have a beautiful environment in that house. You will know how to speak, how to address people, how to tackle difference of opinion and so on.

We don’t even know how to talk to our own spouses. We have such a big disease as Muslims. I promise you, that when a divorce happens, it’s like the end of the world, go to the non-muslims and learn from them.

You have to have a big heart. You have to understand the children belong to both and fulfil their rights.

Trust me. We need to create an environment, we need to create an environment of respect of Love, of dignity.

Young man came to the prophet Peace be upon him He says o messenger give me advice the messenger peace be upon him told him don’t get angry.

We all need that advice because we get angry. When things don’t happen your way and you can calm down, you’re a true follower of that messenger Peace be upon him. You deserve his Intersession on the Day of Judgment. May Allah granted to us.

My brothers and sisters we get angry very fast when something in the home doesn’t happen, whether it’s the child or a spouse or a parent or a sibling, we could so upset us… and how we start venting bad words. And the Hadith is a True Believernever uses an abusive word.

You want Jannah, subhanallah tolerate the heat of the Dunya heat of the fire of jahannam. That to be considered the correct Muslim you must be disciplined, you have to be disciplined. If you’re not disciplined you’re going nowhere.

We belong to different sects as Muslims. How do we treat each other? simple your ego. Throw it out. Come out and say I’m sorry because the day will come when the almighty may not forgive you, subhanallah. – Mufti Menk

Their Pain Was Completely Silent! A True Emotional Story of Father’s Love | Special People | Shaykh Omar Suleiman

Allah tests you with something So severe, so harsh and And you turn to Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala and you seek His pleasure through that. Allah takes something away from you that you thought you could not live without.

Allah says you’ll be tested with your safety, will be tested with your health, you we tested with your family, You’ll be tested with your sustenance, Your.. all of this uncertainty things are going to be… things are going to be all over the place… give Glad Tidings to the patient .

Their pain was completely silent. No one knows what that person’s been through. could run into someone in front of the majid of the prophet (saw), praying next to someone in Masjid al-Haram, you don’t know what that person’s been through and you don’t know why Allah chose them to be there, why Allah chose you to be there or what They’re calling upon Allah with or what their status with Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala is.

You don’t know that person’s status. You don’t know their circumstances and they call upon Allah and invoke Allah subhanaw Taala, and no one knows who’s around them.

You know, who are there this year in hajj: The families of the martyrs of Christchurch, New Zealand and some of the survivors. These are people that put their loved ones in the ground for Allah And Allah called them to hajj This year.

the brother, wasim who Iwas in a coma when we went to ChristChurch because he daughter and when the massacre happened and he was shot nine times, holding his daughter And the last memory he had before he went into a coma was getting to the hospital and his daughter was in Blood and he was in Blood and he said take my daughter Don’t worry about me and then he collapsed and he went into a coma. When he woke up three weeks later, He started shouting for his daughter. And when they told him that your daughter is okay, because Alhumdillah She survived he didn’t believe them, he had to see her. And she turned five in the hospital, right there in a hospital and they were in hajj this year.

If Allah is shy from the hands of a servant who could have disobeyed Him and turn to Him for those few moments. Then what about that person who gave it all for Allah and there are people the prophet (saw) mentioned… a martyr that could be walking and those people were there saying Allahumma and they could have been right next to and you didn’t even know…… Shaykh Omar Suleiman.