Don’t Chase After The Latest Of Everything

#Materialism is taking over very fast. People really are following the latest of everything. we are drowning with that; cut it, that’s a sign of the anger of Allah .if that wealth came with the #arrogance of karun, it is a punishment and if it came with the obedience of Suleiman (as) it is actually the mercy of Allah. Be happy with what Allah has given you.

“Don’t rush behind that when you get too attached to something and it is coming between you and Allah and your heart is beginning to love it so much that it’s now getting between you and Allah , cut it. – #MuftiMenk

Beware! People Would Die To Be Married To Your Wife While You Are Alive – Mufti Menk

People are stressed you know what? They can’t show that stress to the people they work with because they’re big guys there. They want to impress the girls at work. so they don’t show them any bad habits, nothing but you go home first thing, you start swearing, you start screaming, you start shouting, you start showing your real self, subhanAllah.

SubhanAllah, that’s why the Prophet (saw) says you know who the best person is, the one who’s best to his family members, always the best. You know why? that person has shown the family that when I’m upset I’m still a good guy, when I’m angry I’m still a good guy, when I’m hungry I’m still a good guy, when I’ve suffered a bad day I’m still a good guy, when I’ve suffered the loss I’m still a good guy and I’m always a good guy. Then you’re really a good guy SubhanAllah. But if you’re a good guy outside the home and when you come back home then you’re not a good guy at all. Who knows better what type of a person you are? Those are at home. So that’s the reason why the prophet (saw) tells us watch who you are. You want to reallyknow who a man is, go ask his wife. You want to really know who a woman is ask the husband or ask the family members.

Be honest be upright, you lose a deal because of your honesty; no problem, Allah will give you Baraka, Baraka in it.

Blessings are snatched away when sins are committed remember that. You have the best spouse, the best person Allah chose for you as a husband or as a wife. You cannot see it because you know what? You’re involved in other sins. so you’re blinded. Blinded by whom? By Shaitaan, your home is no longer happy because your relationship with Allah is weak; your relationship with Shaitaan has become strong. Your relationship with Shaitaan becomes strong you become blind what happens to the blindness? The is the best wife on earth, I don’t want to say but perhaps I should.. Should I? People would die to be married to your wife and you’re still alive…

We couldn’t see that. we’re we’re blinded because there’s some sin blinded because there’s some sin happening either this Haram income there, either this Haram relationships there, either this Haram food there, either there’s something wrong happening there, either there’s no Salah; there’s no connection with Allah. So the coolness of the eyes will not be achieved because the heat of the sin has overtaken that saying, point number one: develop your relationship with Allah. – Mufti Menk

Softened Heart Is One Of The Clearest Signs Of The Closeness To Allah ~ Mufti Menk

Does that for Allah; see your family, and see your home becoming a happy home because you put Allah at the beginning. the one was develop your relationship with Allah, the other one was your character and conduct because that Allah has created everything else. Your relationship with all those things watch it, develop it that’s your jannah. Those two things; how you are with Allah and how you are with everything else.

you’ve got you’ve got to cleanse yourself, take out the jealousy, take out the malice, take out the Envy, take out the love you know everyone loves nice things but when that love for worldly items becomes so high you want it by hook or crook and both hooking and crooking are not allowed ,right? It’s not allowed. You can’t crook.

Let’s develop ourselves, many of us are lacking in character. We are Muslims; we’re an embarrassment to Islam a lot of the times. We.. our dealings are not honest and then we’re looking for happiness, sometimes the way we talk to people full of swear words, I promise you we can eradicate that, we can do without it. it doesn’t need to be there. you want a happy home, use respectful terms talk to people with love, with care, with respect in your home, listen to them, help them through their problems,

we want happiness we look… we’re searching for contentment, I promise you Islam has come with so much of ease, a lot of the people actually don’t follow it. They think they do. That’s why we say don’t judge a book by its cover.

Allah tests everyone with different types of tests. When Allah tests you with certain tests, it’s on your level; you’re going to need to ask yourself you know what? This is a test from Allah I need to pass it. It doesn’t mean because I look outwardly pious that suddenly I’m gonna pass all my tests then Shaytan attacks your heart by doing what: Messing it, becoming dirty. You start belittling people.

That’s why when you see a person who’s who’s really close to Allah, one of the clearest signs of the closeness to Allah is that your heart is softened. You feel mercy towards others, that’s from the Prophet Muhammad (saw),

It is because of the mercy of Allah that you are lenient towards everyone. You’re not hard-hearted. You’re not harsh. That’s the sign of the mercy of Allah when you are really close to Allah you become a soft person. In the sense that you care for others; You have mercy.

-Mufti Menk

Say Alhamdulillah Twice When Thing Doesn’t Go Your Way ~Mufti Menk

We’re searching for happiness, for contentment for goodness for success, guess who is the owner of all those? Allah, so if start off by knocking the right door. Develop your relationship with Allah; develop your relationship with the word of Allah.

Ultimately where do we want to reach? jannatul ferdous it means paradise. Ultimately I want to reach paradise.

There is a direction straight it will lead you to a specific goal and you know that but the problem is you know we’re too engrossed in the world. There is a balance between this dunya and akhira (this worldly life and the Hereafter).  Those who  tell you to divorce yourself from this world have not understood the world and those who tell you to enjoy it to the degree that you’ve forgotten where you’re going to go, had also not understood the reality of the world. The powerful dua is in the following:

وَمِنْهُم مَّن يَقُولُ رَبَّنَا آتِنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةً وَفِي الْآخِرَةِ حَسَنَةً وَقِنَا عَذَابَ النَّارِ – 2:201

Wa minhum mai yaqoolu rabbanaaa aatina fid dunyaa hasanatanw wa fil aakhirati hasanatanw wa qinaa azaaban Naar

But among them is he who says, “Our Lord, give us in this world [that which is] good and in the Hereafter [that which is] good and protect us from the punishment of the Fire.”

أُولَٰئِكَ لَهُمْ نَصِيبٌ مِّمَّا كَسَبُوا ۚ وَاللَّهُ سَرِيعُ الْحِسَابِ – 2:202

Ulaaa’ika lahum naseebum mimmaa kasaboo; wal laahu saree’ul hisaab

Those will have a share of what they have earned, and Allah is swift in account.

Do you know that if sometimes if the plan you had for your own life was granted exactly as you wanted it perhaps you would not have seen that the successes that you have seen as a result of doors being closed by Allah for you.

When something happens your way say alhamdulillah, when it doesn’t happen your way say alhamdulillah twice because it’shappened the way Allah wanted it anyway. it’s amazing. Don’t become despondent..

The hadith I was saying, one of my favorite. So the prophet (saw) was asked what are the characteristics of those who are in Jannah /Paradise what would be the reasons that got them into paradise.  He just said two words; you need two things… the people of Jannah have two: the consciousness of Allah meaning the relationship with Allah and secondly greatness in character and conduct is meaning the relationship with the rest of the creatures of the same Allah.

When you realize that everything happens according to Allah and when he’s given you the capacity to do something the energy, the mental ability, the intellect that the opportunities seize them, make use of them. Don’t be lazy, don’t sit back and say well if Allah wants it will happen. Allah gave you the capacity, Allah gave you everything you needed to get up to do it and Allah would have opened the doors for you but because you didn’t the doors remain closed.

If after you’ve done everything about it the doors were all closed and everything was closed and even the big black gate in the front became closed then you know what you got to say Allah didn’t want it and walk away. – Mufti Menk

A Lack Of Romance ! Be Inspired From The Story Of An Imam ~Mufti Menk

End of surat al-Furqan Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala talks about certain prayers that are made by those who are close to Allah. One of them is in the 25th surah, Surah Furqan, verse 74.

Imagine a guy married for 20 years. Following his wife just looking at her face and smiling, la ilaha illaallah that that is real mashallah, what’s wrong with it? When you do something like that it’s actually a Ibadah (prayer). Someone feel worthwhile with as they develop the wrinkles on their faces, you adored them more, and you made them feel worthwhile. You know what? If she is aging you’re aging too, subhanAllah.

You need to look, you need to appreciate, you need to acknowledge, and you need to say good words, try it out at home today.

A lot of us lack romance in our homes, the prophet (SAW) talks the prophet (SAW) talks about it.

I’ve had people come to complain saying you know what we haven’t been intimate in two years.

The prophet Muhammed (saw) said to be intimate with your spouse is an act of worship and an act of charity.

Appreciate your spouse; they sacrificed a lot for you.

Towards a happy family you need to know say good words to your children; tell them how much you love them. no matter how old you are. Learn to respect others. Learn to respect the people, your own family members, talk to them, and communicate with them. Open your heart to them, help them, help them to achieve anything they want to achieve for as long as it’s not Haram let it be, Allah will guide, Allah will open the rest of the doors of the entire Ummah. . – Mufti Menk

Watch It If You Feel Helpless Losing Loved One – Mufti Menk

If you were to look at the reason behind the creation of mankind, Allah (swt) mentions a few things primarily He says I have not created mankind of jinkind except for them to worship Me, for them to worship Allah subhanahu wata’ala primarily that’s the purpose of creation.

Someone put us here. We will also not choose to die, he will take us back when the examination is over, because one of the other purposes is to be able to worship Allah through the tests that He puts us through in our lives. This is why nobody’s life ever has been free of tests.

 

Allah says We will take away the life, the life of what, of who.. people around you who you love perhaps, people around you whom you see and witness, family, community whoever else, however We want to take it We will take it. People say why are innocent children dying?

The one Who gave them the life loves them more than the people who gave birth to them. People say the mother’s love is the highest. Actually Allah’s love is higher than that.

Do you understand that Allah’s plan, they might be the means of your entry into Jannah.

Allah says we will always do you a favor, you don’t know the future, we know the future, the knowledge.

On the day of qiyamah, there will be a caller who is going to call where are those who used to thank Allah in tough times and in good times, bring them come forth, VIPs.

You are here to be tested. Don’t become despondent because of one or two challenges in your life or a hundred or a thousand challenges and you.

Allah says behold! The help of Allah is very near, don’t lose hope. So Allah says  seek assistance, seek help through what? Patience and prayer… – Mufti Menk

Powerful Duas Between Sons & Mothers Will Bring Tears To Your Eyes ~ Shaykh Omar Suleiman

What does it mean to actually get the dua of your mother? When your mom or your parents will actually say oh Allah and they’ll have something that is favorable to you implied in that dua.

Allah has ordered excellence to both of your parents and then specifying the mother that she carried you in pain, she gave birth to you in pain, she fed you in pain, she nurtured you in pain, and she went through all of that for you. She deserves that honor .

 

oh my lord honor him and have mercy on him the way  that he has dignified me and obeyed me in my old age – Mother of abu hurairah (ra)

That singled dua is so precious I there is no limit to that dua, no limit to that supplication of appearance.

The dua of a mother could even get you the companionship of a prophet. And more than all of that, it could bring barakah in your life and acceptance in the hereafter in ways that nothing else can.

That blessing is induced through natural service, do things that will naturally induce a good dua,

if your parents are not alive then just as when they are alive you are to honor them with that goodness then honor them with good deeds in their name that sadaqah jariyah and those deeds will reach them and on the day of judgment they will be holding those good deeds that you did on their behalf and testifying in front of Allah (swt) for you.

If the dua of a mother can bring that much baraka on a person’s life, you better want your spouse to get that dua from their mother. husband and wife part of your making your spouse a more complete Muslim and getting that dua, and getting that baraka in life that potential … pleasure in the hereafter is when they get those duas from their parents. don’t see your mother-in-law as an opponent in that sense of Kadima because it may be the kidma that your husband or wife gives to their mother that brings that Baraka in your married life and in your life in general and your acceptance in the hereafter, don’t see them as opponents, help your spouse honor their parents.

Shaykh Omar Suleiman

 

Watch It Immediately If You Are Planning To Get Married ~ Mufti Menk

We were asking a question; are you prepared or are you ready to be a spouse, whether it’s a husband or a wife? Do you have what it takes to be a spouse? Do you know the qualities that t are required for a person to qualify to be a spouse.

If you don’t have communication skills you cannot succeed in a marriage. You need to be very patient, patience is the cornerstone. Patience is a quality that is required for you to be qualified as a person ready to get married. If you don’t have patience, you don’t know how to talk to people.

So if you don’t have patience you end up divorcing people. You end up not realizing that the problems can be resolved.

You need to learn to be slightly selfless. if you’re selfish you’re not going to get along even with the best of the globe. If you address the matters in a beautiful way you will be able to succeed in your marriage.

You need to learn how to talk to people, you need to be patient. You need to be selfless to a great degree, learn to accommodate others.

Sometimes you don’t like to do certain things. You have to learn to like to do certain things that you may not ideally like to do, simply to put a smile on the faces of those whom you love.

So this is the reason why it’s important for us to actually develop these qualities before we get married.

We need to be very kind and kindness begins at home. You need to be generous, don’t be miserly, don’t waste.

How many times are you prepared to utter beautiful words to your spouse? Words of love, words of kindness, politeness, how many times do you look at your spouse and you actually say Beautiful words to them.

When you have an issue becomes a screaming and yelling match, lower your voice.

It’s important for us to know that when you haven’t developed yourself, you really are not ready to get married really. You need to make sure that that you develop your characteristics, your qualities have feeling within you, have mercy. if we don’t have mercy within you,  the other person will not you know be merciful either. If you’re not merciful on your spouse you will never have the mercy of Allah (swt).

A spouse is someone whom you are ready to help; they’re ready to help you.- Mufti Menk