How To Clear Your Doubts Do I Have Wudu Or Not~Mufti Menk

Shaitaan, when he cannot make you desert your prayer do you know what he does? He actually then makes you doubt your prayer and there are stages, I can quickly mention them. He first tries to make you not pray. ……

That wudu, you know the tap, it’s gonna be too cold and the water any excuse……

one of the devil’s plans to make you delay what you’re supposed to do so that you rush it or you end up not doing it as a result of the delay yet you intended to do it …..

He starts making you doubt, some people do I have wudu? Do I not have wudu? Trust me the last thing on your mind is valid. Allah doesn’t mean the fact that you are making wudu but you need it to fulfill the prayer.

People say I have very bad dreams. I say well you know you should try and do wudu before you sleep.

You don’t start doubting… don’t worry. The fact that you’ve tried to fulfill your prayer in the best possible way you could have. It’s accepted. Allah will not hold against you.for example if a person comes up and says do I have wudu or don’t I have wudu the hadith says well the last thing you can remember doing is valid.

If in the knowledge of Allah which you don’t know and may never know, If Allah knows that you didn’t really have wudu, he doesn’t mind at that juncture and he will still never hold it against you because you followed the other rule. The rule was whatever you remember last, la illah illa allah.

Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala knows none of us has a perfect salah, not a single one of us has an absolutely perfect salah but he also knows that we will all try our best. He will accept it from us just by the trial.

Don’t allow Shaitaan to make you doubt your good deed after you did it but don’t allow him to make you destroy it by harming others. – Mufti Menk

Why Marriages Go Wrong & Its Prevention [Powerful] ~ Mufti Menk

Differences are normal. You love your spouse. You will differ with your spouse. You love your children, your parents, your siblings whoever you love, you will never think exactly the same. There might be a little bit of common factor in thought but never 100% the same. That’s how the almighty made you. It’s how you deal with the difference that distinguishes the donkey from the horse.

That’s what distinguishes the one who is closer to the Almighty from the one who’s not. The way you react, the way you use your mind and the way your words come out it requires discipline. That will make you the best of people. Are you ready to speak with utmost respect in your home to begin with, refer to your loved ones as loved ones even if you had a difference?

Tell them how much you love them. the problem with us when things go wrong we open our mouths and we haven’t realized for 19 years things were going right.

The world is such today that people get married without knowing why they’re getting married. They don’t know what marriage is they’re coming together. The biggest sacrifice, that’s what marriage is.

But now it is very sadly and unfortunately the rate of divorce is so high? Can I tell you one of the reasons? When we get married and we don’t watch our tongues, things begin to go wrong because you didn’t watch your mouth and the Almighty warned you at the beginning when you were getting married watch your tongue.

We are not romantic enough but romance is being shown to those besides the one whom it is supposed to be shown to that I love you and the beautiful emoticons and emojis that are continuously being created on platforms that are increasing on a daily basis, all sent beautifully a thousand times mashallah but to the wrong number. That’s where we’re going wrong. If you had to send one tenth of those to the person they were supposed to go to you’d be having walima the following day la illah illa allah.

The prophet (saw) says it’s an act of charity: a good word is an act of charity which means it’s an act of worship. When you think before you speak you have actually worshiped Allah. Because you are using what he gave you and that’s your brain that’s what distinguishes man from animal is the brain, subhanAllah.

if you are really a pious person it shows in the softness of your character but if you’re reading one Quran every three days but you’re abusing someone that Quran you’re actually doing for someone else. watch your tongue, make people feel good, empower them,

If you would like to know maybe of the sisters here are being abused not just here but across the globe, by men who think that they are their bosses and you’re not. Our boss collectively is Allah. He is our maker. Fear Allah, be conscious on Him.

When you are hurting someone, when you’re abusing someone, when you are maltreating someone, remember it’s just a debt that shall be paid back in this world before the next. The Almighty will create someone one day to do exactly the same to you. if not you’re going to face the consequences on the day of judgment which will be even worse.

 

Moisten your tongue with the remembrance of Allah and you will never go wrong.

Remember one thing Islam is not only about five daily prayers, Islam is not only about going for Hajj, Islam is not only about giving charity, Islam is not only about fasting in Ramadan is is also and equally important protecting yourself from abusing others, from hurting others, from usurping their wealth, from doing something wrong to them as much as you have to fulfill the rights of Allah, you have to fulfill the rights of the rest of the creatures of Allah.

You want to change your life while you’re connecting to your Maker, learn to respect those whom the same Maker has created, starting with your spouse. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) says the best from amongst you is he or she who is best to his or her spouse. Am I the best? I need to aim for that.

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I Have A 50% Say – Mufti Menk

If you want to be helped help others. The hadeeth I mentioned the almighty tells us through the Blessed lips of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that Allah almighty continues to be in the assistance of those who continue to assist others.

It actually is the blessing within your life, the blessing, the Baraka, the contentment and over and above that on the Day of Judgment when you see the reward of it. It’s tremendous, it’s great, and you will never regret it. Charities have never depleted wealth. I have given someone from what the Almighty has given me and because I’ve decided it’s going to happen regularly. The Almighty has written their sustenance somewhere within mine.

A man comes to the messenger peace be upon him complaining about his brother.

We have in our families. We have brothers and so on the wives come in mashallah, all of them are lovely but you must remember each one has had a different upbringing. If brother and sister cannot see eye to eye what do you expect when the in-laws come in and so many.

So the brother comes and he says o Messenger my brother’s doing nothing. I’m spending on him. I’m giving him money. I’m giving him his monthly expense and I’m actually taking care of him and now I’m tired of this and I don’t know how long this is going to carry on and so on.

Doesn’t this happen in some of our families I mean you know in the extended families?

Sometimes in some homes the wife comes in and she says hey are you gonna keep on giving this guy, you know, subhanAllah?  And that’s where the brother has to chip in and say hey that’s my brother, leave me alone. She might argue and say well you know fifty percent of everything you have you know is arguably mine? subhanAllah so I have a 50% say.

It does happen that we tend to get irritated even on our own sometimes. Do you know what? The prophet (saw) responded to this man guess what he said? Powerful words: perhaps you are getting money because you’re spending on him la ilaha ilallah.

But Allah (swt) warns us about spending in a foolish way even if it is a charity. allah tells us you know don’t be miserly and don’t even give so much that you’re giving necessity that’s yours. you need to strike a middle path. – Mufti Menk

How To React If Parents Are Wrong – Mufti Menk

We came into existence because the Almighty made us. He decided that He wants to have us here. We did not decide that.

None of us chose to be here for example to be born where none of us chose the parents we have. None of us chose the children that we have in the case of those who have children. May the Almighty bless those who don’t have children with children, Ameen.

That itself already tells us that we are here on a mission. Because when you have an examination your questions are never chosen by you. It’s always someone else who decides to test you, to examine you by asking you things out of his will, not out of yours.

The Almighty chose I’m going to create you, I’m going to put you in a place without your choice, I’m going to throw you into the deep end to see what you do and part of the blessings of the Almighty is that he did not cause us to grow like trees but rather to have families and to be given birth to.

A family unit is actually a blessing from the Almighty. Today the world is drifting away from the family unit and teaching us that you know what? You do it alone. You don’t need your mom. You don’t need your dad. You don’t need your brothers and sisters. You don’t need this and so on and guess what’s happening? We’re becoming people who are not as content as we used to be. We are becoming people who are searching for contentment in every place and in everything. Besides we’re contentment lies.

I get people who complain to me my parents are very difficult. The first thing that comes to my mind is well that’s part of the test of the Almighty: what are you going to do about it? SubhanAllah and that doesn’t mean that I encourage parents to be difficult, because it is also a test for you when the Almighty’s blessed you with a child. you didn’t choose the exact child that you got. So don’t be so difficult my beloved parents.

Remember the world is changing. it’s part of your test to be polite, respectful, merciful, full of beautiful guidance and at the same time realizing that as time passes you will need to pass the baton to those children.

It’s not wrong to disagree with your parents respectfully where you feel that they are wrong, respectfully. When the Quran speaks about parents it emphasizes more on kindness and respect rather than obedience where the parents are wrong.- Mufti Menk

Have A Respectful Tongue If You Love Prophet Muhammed (ﷺ) – Mufti Menk

Remember one thing, if you want to know whether you really love the messenger (ﷺ) you only need to look at your lifestyle. Look at what you do, look at your ibadah?

A Mumin has a clean, polite, beautiful, respectful tongue at all times. Clean your tongue, say respectful words, be polite, be honorable, command respect by respecting yourself to begin with, automatically people will know you are respectful.

Dress in a way that if the messenger (ﷺ)  were to glance towards you he would be proud of the way you are dressing and speaking and what you are doing Masha’Allah, Tabarakallah.

May Allah strengthen us.

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How To Bring Tranquility & Mercy Of Allah Into Your Family~Shaykh Ali Hammuda

This is Bushra right, this is good news.

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “Any group of people that assemble in one of the Houses of Allah to recite the Book of Allah, learning and teaching it, tranquility will descend upon them, mercy will engulf them, angels will surround them and Allah will make mention of them to those (the angels) in His proximity.” [Muslim]. Arabic/English book reference: Book 9, Hadith 1023

Sakinah / tranquillity will come down upon them, tranquillity it feels as if all of the troubles of your life have been lifted at least for this hour. Rahmah (mercy of Allah) envelops them.

If the mercy of Allah touches you dear brother dear sister you have nothing to worry about in this life or the hereafter.

It is the promise of Allah (swt).

– Shaykh Ali Hammuda