Category: Trials and tribulations

No Suffering Is Punishment If You Do This But Remember 2 Things! Mufti Menk

Seek the forgiveness of Allah on a daily basis, so many times a day because you need to have good news.

The Quran tells you that for as long as you’re seeking the forgiveness of Allah; whatever Calamity comes in your direction is not a punishment from Allah.

If the Almighty has given you an opportunity to seek forgiveness and to make amends and to build a relationship with Him and to exchange your love with Allah, what that means is you’ve had an opportunity of rushing towards Him…..

One Mistake Or When People Misunderstood You! Mufti Menk

Sometimes you will always get people who misunderstand you. Sometimes you can’t do that The person went away with the wrong perception of who you are.

The first interaction that you had with someone and they really think you’re a disaster. Not realizing that my man, 10,000 times I’ve done this, the one time that I didn’t, now I’m judged.

At some point in our lives, you’re a lovely person. You give so much way to so many people and you’ve really been so polite on the road that you’re late for work all the time. But the ones that you did not give someone way and you cut someone up, it happened to be your boss.

I tell you, human beings are required to do their best and remember it’s between you and Allah.

People will hate you even though you’re a much better person than they are. People will hate you even though you may be closer to Allah than they are.

It’s okay. It’s one of those, did you try your best? Did you give it your best shot? Did you try to resolve matters? Did you try?

How Your Will Heal From Your HeartBreak | Mufti Menk

Question: why is my heartbroken and how can you heal from my heartbreak or from the diseases of the heart over time

Remember, the One Who heals the heart is none other than the One Who made it. In fact, nobody, nothing, whether it is material or in the form of people, can ever heal your heart. The only one that will heal your heart is its Maker.

So the more you attach with your Maker, the better your heart shall be, the stronger it will be.

It will be healed not only from heartbreak, but from the diseases of the heart.

Indeed, Those who believe their hearts are comforted by the remembrance of Allah.

Chapter (13 :28) sūrat l-raʿd (The Thunder)

Allow Those Tears To Roll From The Great Reply Of Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) | Mufti Menk

Allah Almighty knows that which is happening, that which happened, that which will happen, that’s the knowledge of Allah. But beyond that, that which will not happen, If it were to happen, how it would have happened is the knowledge of Allah.

Without the help of Allah, there’s never going to be any form of comforts. Allah alone will comfort you for your loss.

The Prophet Muhammed (pbuh) shed tears when Ibrahim, his son, passed away. So when the Sahaba / Companions (ra) and whom saw the tears, they questioned, what is this, subhanallah, as though you are not supposed to cry?

So it was quickly clarified these tears are not a sign of questioning Allah. These tears are not a sign of disagreeing with Allah. They are not a sign of being upset at Allah’s decrees (Qada’) and destiny (Qadr) but rather, these tears are a sign of the mercy that Allah puts in the hearts of those who are merciful to a degree.

Cry when you have to, cry when you need to, to cry when it’s about to come, when you hold back sometimes it’s not as good a feel as when you allow those tears to roll, allow those tears to roll. Allah created tear glands, and Allah gave them a purpose. And Allah allows them to be release when certain emotions happen to be up and down, it’s a human mechanism of coping.

Why Allah Tests Me A Bit More | Mufti Menk

When calamity strikes in your life and it has to strike at some point, the first thing a believer should do is connect to Allah.

Allah describes the believers and Allah says, those whom when calamity strikes, when difficulty and hardship befalls them, the first thing they say and they utter is ‘we belong to Allah and unto Him we shall all return.’

If you are content at calamity that struck you, inshallah, you’re a good person. But if you are struggling and you are really battling and it’s changed you in the negative way and it’s made you even worse, you have to look at yourself.

Ask yourself the first question have you ever harmed someone?

Allah Will Replace Your Irreplaceable Loss With Something Better In Sha Allah | Mufti Menk

That the day we are tested with sadness, we can navigate through it by developing a beautiful relationship with Allah.

Sadness has come to me. It has come to you. It will come to me. It will come to you in greater way. You’re a human. You’re allowed to feel sad. May Allah Almighty help us to become closer to Him.
It is only with prayer and it is only with patience that Allah Almighty will open your doors and alleviate the sadness.
So remember, bear patience upon what has befallen on you. Think of the positives while you’re in the negative.
And we know something; Things we say not replaceable but Allah will replace it with something better in the hereafter.
When you see the reward of your Sabr / patience, In Sha Allah, you won’t be let down.

What Is The Point Of Making Dua If Allah Predestined My Sufferings Or Hardships | Mufti Menk

When Allah Almighty created us, He has already predestined several things about us in a little bit of detail. Allah knows about the future because the knowledge of Allah is unique, unlike yours and mine. What will happen in the future, Allah knows exactly how it will pan out. He knows exactly the what choices people will make.

Allah almighty is great. And we’ve got to continue having hope and calling out to Allah.

That’s the Hadith, prophet, peace be upon him, says the greater the test, naturally, the greater the reward, the more difficult the examination, naturally, the greater the certificate.

Why should I even ask Allah if it’s already predestined? The Hadith says one thing that can move your predestined matters to a degree is dua and another is charity.

Alalh says, you desperately sought a certain thing from Us which we didn’t give you because we didn’t give that to you, We loved the way you asked Us and your sincerity and the way you worshipped Us By asking Us, We will give you paradise in return.


A Life Changing Analogy Of Overcoming Sufferings From The Importance Of Hajj By Mufti Menk

Ibrahim (a.s) sacrificed a lot, yet he was known as Kalilulah, the friend of Allah. Allah has proven to us that closeness to Allah has nothing to do with how famous you are, how popular you are, how powerful you are, how much wealth you have, how much strength you have, what your looks are like, or your body, et cetera.

The closer you are to Allah, the more challenges you will face in your life. The closer you are to Allah, the more people will make your life difficult. Because, Allah wants you to trust Him fully.

The greater the trust, the greater the challenge and the bigger the miracle, the day that happens, Allahu akbar….

This yaqeen and conviction of Ibrahim (a.s) is what is being celebrated over and above, his dedication to Allah alone. He worshiped Allah alone.

We never ever compromise our relationship with Allah for anything that comes first.

How You Can Meet With Your Loved One After Death By Giving The Best Gifts | Mufti Menk

Life and death is in the hands of Allah. Allah is the giver of life, and Allah is the one who decides when a person is going to pass away. And indeed, if Allah wills, something is brought into life.

We are taught as a Sunnah to say We belong to Allah and we are going to return to Allah (swt), all of us.

Everything that is created by Allah has an expiry date, meaning it has a time tag.

It is very important for us to realize you will lose. It is part of the plan of Allah. So prepare for that day

So what is the test?

The test is no matter what has happened to you if it brings you closer to Allah, it was your gift. And if it takes you away from Allah, it was your punishment or it was something, a challenge, a test for you and you’re failing it because it’s drifting you away from Allah.