When calamity strikes in your life and it has to strike at some point, the first thing a believer should do is connect to Allah.
Allah describes the believers and Allah says, those whom when calamity strikes, when difficulty and hardship befalls them, the first thing they say and they utter is ‘we belong to Allah and unto Him we shall all return.’
If you are content at calamity that struck you, inshallah, you’re a good person. But if you are struggling and you are really battling and it’s changed you in the negative way and it’s made you even worse, you have to look at yourself.
Ask yourself the first question have you ever harmed someone?