Tag: Family

Say Alhamdulillah Twice When Thing Doesn’t Go Your Way ~Mufti Menk

We’re searching for happiness, for contentment for goodness for success, guess who is the owner of all those? Allah, so if start off by knocking the right door. Develop your relationship with Allah; develop your relationship with the word of Allah.

Ultimately where do we want to reach? jannatul ferdous it means paradise. Ultimately I want to reach paradise.

There is a direction straight it will lead you to a specific goal and you know that but the problem is you know we’re too engrossed in the world. There is a balance between this dunya and akhira (this worldly life and the Hereafter).  Those who  tell you to divorce yourself from this world have not understood the world and those who tell you to enjoy it to the degree that you’ve forgotten where you’re going to go, had also not understood the reality of the world. The powerful dua is in the following:

وَمِنْهُم مَّن يَقُولُ رَبَّنَا آتِنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةً وَفِي الْآخِرَةِ حَسَنَةً وَقِنَا عَذَابَ النَّارِ – 2:201

Wa minhum mai yaqoolu rabbanaaa aatina fid dunyaa hasanatanw wa fil aakhirati hasanatanw wa qinaa azaaban Naar

But among them is he who says, “Our Lord, give us in this world [that which is] good and in the Hereafter [that which is] good and protect us from the punishment of the Fire.”

أُولَٰئِكَ لَهُمْ نَصِيبٌ مِّمَّا كَسَبُوا ۚ وَاللَّهُ سَرِيعُ الْحِسَابِ – 2:202

Ulaaa’ika lahum naseebum mimmaa kasaboo; wal laahu saree’ul hisaab

Those will have a share of what they have earned, and Allah is swift in account.

Do you know that if sometimes if the plan you had for your own life was granted exactly as you wanted it perhaps you would not have seen that the successes that you have seen as a result of doors being closed by Allah for you.

When something happens your way say alhamdulillah, when it doesn’t happen your way say alhamdulillah twice because it’shappened the way Allah wanted it anyway. it’s amazing. Don’t become despondent..

The hadith I was saying, one of my favorite. So the prophet (saw) was asked what are the characteristics of those who are in Jannah /Paradise what would be the reasons that got them into paradise.  He just said two words; you need two things… the people of Jannah have two: the consciousness of Allah meaning the relationship with Allah and secondly greatness in character and conduct is meaning the relationship with the rest of the creatures of the same Allah.

When you realize that everything happens according to Allah and when he’s given you the capacity to do something the energy, the mental ability, the intellect that the opportunities seize them, make use of them. Don’t be lazy, don’t sit back and say well if Allah wants it will happen. Allah gave you the capacity, Allah gave you everything you needed to get up to do it and Allah would have opened the doors for you but because you didn’t the doors remain closed.

If after you’ve done everything about it the doors were all closed and everything was closed and even the big black gate in the front became closed then you know what you got to say Allah didn’t want it and walk away. – Mufti Menk

A Lack Of Romance ! Be Inspired From The Story Of An Imam ~Mufti Menk

End of surat al-Furqan Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala talks about certain prayers that are made by those who are close to Allah. One of them is in the 25th surah, Surah Furqan, verse 74.

Imagine a guy married for 20 years. Following his wife just looking at her face and smiling, la ilaha illaallah that that is real mashallah, what’s wrong with it? When you do something like that it’s actually a Ibadah (prayer). Someone feel worthwhile with as they develop the wrinkles on their faces, you adored them more, and you made them feel worthwhile. You know what? If she is aging you’re aging too, subhanAllah.

You need to look, you need to appreciate, you need to acknowledge, and you need to say good words, try it out at home today.

A lot of us lack romance in our homes, the prophet (SAW) talks the prophet (SAW) talks about it.

I’ve had people come to complain saying you know what we haven’t been intimate in two years.

The prophet Muhammed (saw) said to be intimate with your spouse is an act of worship and an act of charity.

Appreciate your spouse; they sacrificed a lot for you.

Towards a happy family you need to know say good words to your children; tell them how much you love them. no matter how old you are. Learn to respect others. Learn to respect the people, your own family members, talk to them, and communicate with them. Open your heart to them, help them, help them to achieve anything they want to achieve for as long as it’s not Haram let it be, Allah will guide, Allah will open the rest of the doors of the entire Ummah. . – Mufti Menk

What Type Of Man Will Treat You As A Queen | Mufti Menk

#MuftiMenk mentions what #virtues #male #spouse should have from the story of prophet #Moses (#Musa) regarding #marriage. These are – have a strong relationship with his #Maker (#Allah), #character&conduct, hard-working and having attitude of taking #responsibilities.

Mufti Menk Quotes in this clip “If you have married your daughter off to an honourable person who’s responsible he has character and conduct and he has a relationship with his Maker even if he doesn’t have all the glamorous things on earth; he’s going to look after her like a queen”.

 

The Seed Of A Blessed Marriage | Mufti Menk

In this lecture #MuftiMenk explains the fiqh of courtship and #marriage.We know that character conduct and deen, the deen meaning the level of religion; the level of character; the level of conduct etc; the level of responsibility is also included in that person is responsible with great character and conduct and they know their duty unto Allah because of that responsibility mashallah they are fit to be married but you need to look at them.

Mufti Menk Quotes in this lecture “You don’t have to have a huge engagement whereby you know people are getting bank loans and borrowing because they want to compete with the who’s who in order to show the world that we’ve had a very big engagement; no, those that waste wealth; they are void of Baraka; they’re void of blessings. What is an engagement in Islam- at the point where both the boy and the girl are happy the parents announced that inshallah we have now set a date of Nika. Don’t let that date be two years from now because in those two years Shaitaan will come and spoil the sowing be sown of the seed in a halal way by making it be sown in a Haram way”.

The Beauty Of Speaking & Saying Things In Relationships | Mufti Menk

In this lecture #MuftiMenk give importance on key points like communication, way of saying and know how to let it go through adjusting with situation in order to build in #relationship along with mentioning the virtues of selecting #spouse for a happy #marriage.

Mufti Menk Quotes in this lecture “we end up complaining about people and we promise that we don’t want to be like them and we end up becoming worse than them without realizing it because we’re pointing fingers not knowing that the way to change is actually to begin with yourself”.

Let The Women At Home Have A Day Off

In this short reminders from #Mufti Menk quotes that everyone lives together, you have to have a big heart, you have to be very very accommodating and you have to understand your view is only but an opinion that’s all it’s not to be dictated upon; you make others who live with you happy and you shall be very happy. Learn to respect people give them their freedom don’t burden them with something extra over and above and let the women at home have a day off.

Powerful Dua For The Protection Of Family & Peace | Ep #6 SFR | Ramadan 2018

In the episode Number 6 of “Supplications From Revelation” (SFR) #Ramadan2018 series #MuftiMenk makes mention of duas / Supplications by the prophet Abraham / Ibrahim (A.S) for peace, protection, security, provision, family and Ummah. These duas are given in the following: 

dua for peace, stability, security and provision by the Prophet Abraham / Ibrahim (A.S)
رَبِّ اجْعَلْ هَٰذَا بَلَدًا آمِنًا وَارْزُقْ أَهْلَهُ مِنَ الثَّمَرَاتِ مَنْ آمَنَ مِنْهُم بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ
rabbi ijAAal hatha baladan aminan waorzuq ahlahu mina alththamarati man amana minhum biAllahi waalyawmi al-akhir
(2:126)

Dua For halal provision / susteancee by Prophet Mohammed (saw)
للَّهمَّ اكفني بِحلالِكَ عن حرامِكَ ، وأغنِني بِفَضلِكَ عَن سواكَ'
'Allahummak-finee be halaaleka ‘an haraamek, wa ‘aghnenee befaDleka ‘an sewaak'
“O Allah, suffice me with what You have allowed instead of what You have forbidden , and make me independent of all others besides You.”

Prophet Ibrahim’s Dua for the protection of his family and the Muslim Ummah

رَبِّ إِنَّهُنَّ أَضْلَلْنَ كَثِيرًا مِّنَ النَّاسِ ۖ فَمَن تَبِعَنِي فَإِنَّهُ مِنِّي ۖ وَمَنْ عَصَانِي فَإِنَّكَ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ
Rabbi innahunna adlalna katheeranmina annasi faman tabiAAanee fa-innahu minneewaman AAasanee fa-innaka ghafoorun raheem
My Lord, indeed they have led astray many among the people. So whoever follows me - then he is of me; and whoever disobeys me - indeed, You are [yet] Forgiving and Merciful.
رَّبَّنَا إِنِّي أَسْكَنتُ مِن ذُرِّيَّتِي بِوَادٍ غَيْرِ ذِي زَرْعٍ عِندَ بَيْتِكَ الْمُحَرَّمِ رَبَّنَا لِيُقِيمُوا الصَّلَاةَ فَاجْعَلْ أَفْئِدَةً مِّنَ النَّاسِ تَهْوِي إِلَيْهِمْ وَارْزُقْهُم مِّنَ الثَّمَرَاتِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَشْكُرُونَ
Rabbana innee askantu min thurriyyateebiwadin ghayri thee zarAAin AAinda baytika almuharramirabbana liyuqeemoo assalata fajAAalaf-idatan mina annasi tahwee ilayhim warzuqhummina aththamarati laAAallahum yashkuroon
Our Lord, I have settled some of my descendants in an uncultivated valley near Your sacred House, our Lord, that they may establish prayer. So make hearts among the people incline toward them and provide for them from the fruits that they might be grateful.