Be in truthful company
The prophet peace be upon him says, “A person is known by the friends he or she keeps”. The circle that he rotates with, so be careful whom you befriend, the prophet (saw) said this.
Sometimes we have friends we need to change those friends. If your friends do not teach you how to prioritize then they are not true friends.
Why did you get married? What contentment would you like? You have a wife or a spouse waiting for you. You have children who are desperate for your time. If you don’t spend time with your family, with your wife, with your children after you are married and you spend it with your friends instead all the time, you will lose your contentment.
The company of the truthful they will in fact remind you to go home, they will all disperse early because the night belongs to your spouse, to the almighty obviously but in terms of companionship go back to your family.
Your friends should be better than you in character and conduct. Your friends should be better than you in the dedication that they have towards achieving goodness. – Mufti Menk
#MuftiMenk mentions what #virtues #male #spouse should have from the story of prophet #Moses (#Musa) regarding #marriage. These are – have a strong relationship with his #Maker (#Allah), #character&conduct, hard-working and having attitude of taking #responsibilities.
Mufti Menk Quotes in this clip “If you have married your daughter off to an honourable person who’s responsible he has character and conduct and he has a relationship with his Maker even if he doesn’t have all the glamorous things on earth; he’s going to look after her like a queen”.
#MuftiMenk mentions we need to make a #dua that Allah grant us spouses and children who will be the #coolness of our eyes.we need to make the following dua on a constant basis. The reason is if you are not married, Allah will grant you a #spouse who will be the coolness of your eyes together with #righteousness and if you are married Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala can help improve your condition as well as the condition of your spouse through the same dua and #supplication. The dua is in the following:
وَالَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا –
25:74 “Rab-ba-naa hab la-naa min ‘az-waa-ji-naa wa zur-ri-yaa-ti-naa qur-ra-ta ‘a`-yu-nin-waj-`al-naa lil-Mut-ta-qee-na ‘I-maa-maa.”
“Our Lord! Bestow on us from our #wives and our #offspring the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders of those who have #Taqwa.”
#MuftiMenk makes mentions of as a believing #female or a believing #male when your #spouse has done something wrong (#mistake), you need to sit and seek Allah’s forgiveness to begin with. Both of you ask Allah’s forgiveness when He forgives you and your slate is clean you will be able to think properly and extend your hand if they show a speck of #remorse in this clip.
Mufti Menk quotes in this clip “With your own spouse someone whom you took into your relationship, the most intimate relationship that they could be with the name of Allah you took that person and you hold every droplet of what they did against them; you have a sickness of doubt against your husband, against your wife; every small call, every small movement, every movement of the eye, every time they leave the house; that’s it he’s committing sin, she’s committing sin if that’s your attitude trust me you never be able to lead a life; it’s not going to happen.”
#MuftiMenk mentions that remove the hatred in your heart from others or of others #Ramadan is there to build relations (#spouse, family members ,neighbours, etc) to think about where you are and the building of a relationship requires both parties not just one.
Mufti Menk Quotes in this lecture “If we were true followers of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him we would learn something from the fact that as he ran down the first person- he embraced was this wife of his. How many of us when we feel that we need some form of reassurance we would go to our spouse…”
In this video clip #MuftiMenk speaks about how your #spouse (wife) would be #jannah (paradise) at time of describing #hoor in jannah. He said your own spouse will be changing as per the sweetness of your eye at its liking.