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The Golden Advice To Be Nicer Person Around & for Long-Term Relationship | Or Six Salah won’t Help | Mufti Menk

None of us are the same even in our thinking. We won’t think the same so, why did Allah make us different? Why do I think differently? You might be married to a person who doesn’t like everything you like. In fact, it will be it has to be it must be, subhanallah. Why have you thought of it?

It’s part of the plan of Allah. He wants us to master the art of living with difference of opinion with differences in our likes and dislike.

Even if you are born of one mother and one father look at the evidence from the time of Abel and Cain, from the time of Adam and Eve, may Allah bless them.

Small issues today and what do we do? It starts off in the heart, we become abusive. We start belittling. We start making people feel inferior. We say words that are hurtful. We say words that are harmful. We say abusive, vulgar words. Do you really think that you’re going to go far by saying these bad things? You have actually lost the plot even if you are making six Salah a day, you’re going nowhere.

Learn to be the best human being you can take a look at the globe, we are suffering simply because we want to impose our own thinking on the rest of the world. That’s why we are struggling. You, don’t do that.

And that does not mean you water down your own opinion. When I’m a Muslim, I will remain Muslim. I will believe what’s right and wrong based on my convictions. But how will I treat someone who disagrees with me? That is something we don’t know and we’re lacking and to me that’s one of the biggest reasons why we are at War today. Not only with the globe but even amongst ourselves.

You should be yourself unique, you don’t compromise your faith what you believe is right. You don’t compromise that. That doesn’t mean you have to belittle someone Else who has thought differently, who’s used the brain Allah gave them to arrive at a conclusion that you consider wrong.

You have to address people with respect from the very beginning. We were taught that as humankind and thereafter as the ummah of the one who was sent as a mercy to the rest, SubhanAllah, salallahu alaihe wasalam.

Do you Shout, Scream, yell, abusive, this that in your house?  You don’t qualify. It’s not a house or a home. It’s just a dwelling.

When you qualify you will have a much better home. Subhanallah, you’re going to have a beautiful environment in that house. You will know how to speak, how to address people, how to tackle difference of opinion and so on.

We don’t even know how to talk to our own spouses. We have such a big disease as Muslims. I promise you, that when a divorce happens, it’s like the end of the world, go to the non-muslims and learn from them.

You have to have a big heart. You have to understand the children belong to both and fulfil their rights.

Trust me. We need to create an environment, we need to create an environment of respect of Love, of dignity.

Young man came to the prophet Peace be upon him He says o messenger give me advice the messenger peace be upon him told him don’t get angry.

We all need that advice because we get angry. When things don’t happen your way and you can calm down, you’re a true follower of that messenger Peace be upon him. You deserve his Intersession on the Day of Judgment. May Allah granted to us.

My brothers and sisters we get angry very fast when something in the home doesn’t happen, whether it’s the child or a spouse or a parent or a sibling, we could so upset us… and how we start venting bad words. And the Hadith is a True Believernever uses an abusive word.

You want Jannah, subhanallah tolerate the heat of the Dunya heat of the fire of jahannam. That to be considered the correct Muslim you must be disciplined, you have to be disciplined. If you’re not disciplined you’re going nowhere.

We belong to different sects as Muslims. How do we treat each other? simple your ego. Throw it out. Come out and say I’m sorry because the day will come when the almighty may not forgive you, subhanallah. – Mufti Menk

Every Father-In-Law&Mother-In-Law Of Indo-Pak Should Listen It – Mufti Menk

People saying that in their marriages because their in-laws were not happy about their spouses marrying who they ended up marrying………………………………….

Your children choose their spouses and sometimes it will not be according to your taste because you married already. They have a different taste. So your choice of a wife may not be the same as your child’s choice of a wife or husband. So you need to make sure that you leave them with that and you are happy for them, being happy for your children make it easy for them, make dua for them.

You need to let it happen knowing that this is the blessing that’s coming into our home. If you don’t want to interact much with the person you don’t have to interact so much but please make sure that you make life easy for them, Allah will make life easy for you.

 

Remember when people go into a home, there’s a stigma on both sides. Some people think badly about a mother-in-law even before giving her a chance. Any small thing they think negative of that mother-in-law and sometimes the mother-in-law thinks on similar lines regarding the daughter-in-law, they don’t give them a chance, they believe that whatever they do was not with a good intention. They stick to their child such that anything the wife says to the son, they feel that perhaps the wife is trying to separate them from their own son which is not true.

When the child was born you decided everything for the child. As the child grew up Allah took away your decision-making little by little. The child becomes a parent or a husband or a wife in his or her own right .you cannot then decide to have that control and be upset with who they married. Give them a chance; if the two of them are happy what makes you unhappy? Why are you unhappy to see the happiness of your child that is a disease? It’s a disease that is shows a weakness in faith as even happier. If they’re happy something makes them happy so what? Alhumdillah be happy for them- Mufti Menk

The Beauty Of Speaking & Saying Things In Relationships | Mufti Menk

In this lecture #MuftiMenk give importance on key points like communication, way of saying and know how to let it go through adjusting with situation in order to build in #relationship along with mentioning the virtues of selecting #spouse for a happy #marriage.

Mufti Menk Quotes in this lecture “we end up complaining about people and we promise that we don’t want to be like them and we end up becoming worse than them without realizing it because we’re pointing fingers not knowing that the way to change is actually to begin with yourself”.

Not Let Our Ego Come In Repairing Relations

#MuftiMenk mentions that this faith (Islam) and this religion is all about building bridges and it’s all about mending #relations. Leniency is a sign of the mercy of Allah when you are lenient with your family members; those who work for you; those who live with you those whom you interact with those of other faiths etc; when you are lenient and kind with them that is a sign of the mercy of Allah upon you. So don’t be mistaken.

Mufti quotes in this lecture “Those who are godly they promote harmony & peace and goodness & solution. They build bridges. They don’t destroy; a sign of closeness to Allah is you are softened”.

Build & Fix Your Relations With Your Spouse & Others In Ramadan

#MuftiMenk mentions that remove the hatred in your heart from others or of others #Ramadan is there to build relations (#spouse, family members ,neighbours, etc) to think about where you are and the building of a relationship requires both parties not just one.

Mufti Menk Quotes in this lecture “If we were true followers of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him we would learn something from the fact that as he ran down the first person- he embraced was this wife of his. How many of us when we feel that we need some form of reassurance we would go to our spouse…”

Stop Religious Blackmailing In Relationship “Be Fair”

To speak about how to resolve #problems in #relationship #MuftiMenk brings forward some points like selecting spouse before marriage, communication and the aim of husband and wife is the pleasure of Allah with view to achieving jannatul ferdous, automatically minimise the problems in relationship to understand the value of spouse.

“Religious blackmail to come up with something to tell their spouse well if you don’t do this you know Allah is gonna punish you and Allah is gonna do this and so when we talk of bringing Allah in the equation let’s be fair, let’s be very fair; you want Allah in the equation, Allah must be in the equation for both of us and we must be able to develop a relationship with Allah such that we realize who is this person and what is this relationship” – Mufti Menk