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Every Father-In-Law&Mother-In-Law Of Indo-Pak Should Listen It – Mufti Menk

People saying that in their marriages because their in-laws were not happy about their spouses marrying who they ended up marrying………………………………….

Your children choose their spouses and sometimes it will not be according to your taste because you married already. They have a different taste. So your choice of a wife may not be the same as your child’s choice of a wife or husband. So you need to make sure that you leave them with that and you are happy for them, being happy for your children make it easy for them, make dua for them.

You need to let it happen knowing that this is the blessing that’s coming into our home. If you don’t want to interact much with the person you don’t have to interact so much but please make sure that you make life easy for them, Allah will make life easy for you.

 

Remember when people go into a home, there’s a stigma on both sides. Some people think badly about a mother-in-law even before giving her a chance. Any small thing they think negative of that mother-in-law and sometimes the mother-in-law thinks on similar lines regarding the daughter-in-law, they don’t give them a chance, they believe that whatever they do was not with a good intention. They stick to their child such that anything the wife says to the son, they feel that perhaps the wife is trying to separate them from their own son which is not true.

When the child was born you decided everything for the child. As the child grew up Allah took away your decision-making little by little. The child becomes a parent or a husband or a wife in his or her own right .you cannot then decide to have that control and be upset with who they married. Give them a chance; if the two of them are happy what makes you unhappy? Why are you unhappy to see the happiness of your child that is a disease? It’s a disease that is shows a weakness in faith as even happier. If they’re happy something makes them happy so what? Alhumdillah be happy for them- Mufti Menk

EP29 | Contentment from Revelation | Ramadan Series 2019 | Mufti Menk

Whenever we listen to something futile, there is a waste of time. We should actually turn away from it. If we don’t there will be a seed sown within our system that will germinate into a tree of sadness, a tree of something that is not beneficial.

And when they hear ill speech, they turn away from it and say, “For us are our deeds, and for you are your deeds. Peace will be upon you; we seek not the ignorant.” (28:55)

So Allah is telling you if you want contentment protect yourself from toxic people. There is a fine line between those who are toxic and those who need help and are willing to actually receive the help. You can help people who are open to you, helping them or you can try to help if you’re a professional or you think you can help but the moment you believe that this is going to affect me walk away because not everyone is so strong.

Allah is telling us the difference between those who have conviction, those who are convinced about what they have been promised by Allah.

Then is he whom We have promised a good promise which he will obtain like he for whom We provided enjoyment of worldly life [but] then he is, on the Day of Resurrection, among those presented [for punishment in Hell]? (28:61)

I might not have things in this world but I know I’m going to have in the Hereafter and I know that the promise of Allah will come to pass and I am definitely going to get it and that when I get it, it will be everlasting, with conviction you attain contentment remember that

But seek, through that which Allah has given you, the home of the Hereafter; and [yet], do not forget your share of the world. And do good as Allah has done good to you. And desire not corruption in the land. Indeed, Allah does not like corrupters.” (28:77)

It’s not wrong to aim for a reasonably comfortable life or a little bit of comfort. It’s not wrong to achieve things within the means that Allah has provided you but don’t forget Allah- Mufti Menk

 

 

EP28 | Contentment from Revelation | Ramadan Series 2019 | Mufti Menk

Many of us don’t thank Allah for what he has bestowed upon us. Suleiman alayhi Salam who was granted so much by Allah, he calls out to Allah saying o Allah give me the ability to be thankful to you, SubhanAllah. Look at the calmness and contentment that brings to the heart when you say o my lord grant me the ability to be thankful.

فَتَبَسَّمَ ضَاحِكًا مِّن قَوْلِهَا وَقَالَ رَبِّ أَوْزِعْنِي أَنْ أَشْكُرَ نِعْمَتَكَ الَّتِي أَنْعَمْتَ عَلَيَّ وَعَلَىٰ وَالِدَيَّ وَأَنْ أَعْمَلَ صَالِحًا تَرْضَاهُ وَأَدْخِلْنِي بِرَحْمَتِكَ فِي عِبَادِكَ الصَّالِحِينَ – 27:19

Fatabassama dahikan min qawliha waqala rabbi awziAAnee an ashkura niAAmataka allatee anAAamta AAalayya waAAala walidayya waan aAAmala salihan tardahu waadkhilnee birahmatika fee AAibadika alssaliheena

So [Solomon] smiled, amused at her speech, and said, “My Lord, enable me to be grateful for Your favor which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and to do righteousness of which You approve. And admit me by Your mercy into [the ranks of] Your righteous servants.” (27:19]

The contentment of the hereafter will be achieved by those who do good deeds and protect those good deeds.

Whoever comes [at Judgement] with a good deed will have better than it, and they, from the terror of that Day, will be safe. (27:89)

To protect yourself you need to make sure that you don’t harm others. You need to make sure that the good deeds don’t make you arrogant. They don’t make you haughty and proud.

In Surat al Qasas mentioned and this name Qasas, the stories named after the story of Musa alayhis salam when he went to Shuaib alehissalaam after he was chased out of the place he was at and he got to Shuaib (as) and you know what? He says to Shuaib (as) what happened to him.

in Islam we believe that the proposal is made by either party meaning to express the willingness or to express the desire to marry can come from any party and it’s either a yes or a No. we shouldn’t be upset if it’s a no and just as much we should be very very concerned if it is a yes to fulfill the rights of the spouse to be and all these new relatives that are suddenly related to you SubhanAllah.

Make marriage simple, keep it simple you will achieve contentment and happiness those around you will be happy with the way you handle things. Allah has taught you never to worry about what people think of you and what you’re doing for as long as it is correct for as long as Allah is pleased with it and Allah allows it. You can do it and you should lead the way others will follow you.

He said, “Indeed, I wish to wed you one of these, my two daughters, on [the condition] that you serve me for eight years; but if you complete ten, it will be [as a favor] from you. And I do not wish to put you in difficulty. You will find me, if Allah wills, from among the righteous.”[28:27]

Nikkah / Marraige is something that is so so simple yet we make it difficult. The more difficult you make it the less contentment you will have. The easier you make it the more you have guaranteed your contentment short term and long term. Your children are happy. You are happy. Everyone is happy and keep it simple. Don’t get complicated when it comes to marriage. Don’t make it too big. – Mufti Menk

EP26 | Contentment from Revelation | Ramadan Series 2019 | Mufti Menk

Allah says in order to achieve mercy, you should establish your prayer, you should give from what Allah has given you and you should follow the messenger. If you do these three things you will achieve the mercy of Allah.

And establish prayer and give zakah and obey the Messenger – that you may receive mercy. (24:56)

In surat al-furqan Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’ala makes mention of many factors, the ability and the capacity to distinguish between right and wrong. When we’re in good company and when we are trying to obey Allah and Allah’s instructions we will definitely be able to distinguish between right and wrong.

And the Day the wrongdoer will bite on his hands [in regret] he will say, “Oh, I wish I had taken with the Messenger a way. Oh, woe to me! I wish I had not taken that one as a friend. He led me away from the remembrance after it had come to me. And ever is Satan, to man, a deserter.” (25:27-29)

Your circle of friends makes you or breaks you. It’s up to you to decide what you’d like. Make sure you have friends who are better in values and morals than you, their relationship with their maker than you.

Who are the blessed, who are the worshipers of the most merciful?

And the servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk upon the earth easily, and when the ignorant address them [harshly], they say [words of] peace. (25:63)

وَالَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا – 25:74

Waallatheena yaqooloona rabbana hab lana min azwajina wathurriyyatina qurrata aAAyunin waijAAalna lilmuttaqeena imaman

And those who say, “Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.” (25:74)

Those will be awarded the Chamber for what they patiently endured, and they will be received therein with greetings and [words of] peace. (25:75)

 

 

EP25 | Contentment from Revelation | Ramadan Series 2019 | Mufti Menk

Many times people accuse us of things we have not done,. Sometimes people falsely accuse us in various ways, these false accusations that people level either against us or against others. How do we navigate through them with contentment, with happiness? It’s surely very difficult.

surah An Nur in the Quran Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’ala speaks about this precisely this and Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’ala gives us the ingredient for contentment and achieving of that calmness that were meant to be achieving even through false accusations.

Indeed, those who came with falsehood are a group among you. Do not think it bad for you; rather it is good for you. For every person among them is what [punishment] he has earned from the sin, and he who took upon himself the greater portion thereof – for him is a great punishment.(24:11)

It’s good for you because number one: Allah will elevate your status, be calm, number two: Allah will grant you forgiveness and Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala will increase the good deeds that you have by taking people’s good deeds away, after having depleted your other sins that you’ve committed.

If we falsely accuse others or we have spread that rumour,we’ve been a vehicle of spreading. Didn’t Allah say we will punish those who spread the tale? Well, we’re being purnished. Remember this don’t accuse people, don’t spread rumour, don’t forward messages of accusation to others.

Allah (Swt) warns us even in verse number 21 about the devil, the path of the devil and not following it.

O you who have believed, do not follow the footsteps of Satan. And whoever follows the footsteps of Satan – indeed, he enjoins immorality and wrongdoing. And if not for the favor of Allah upon you and His mercy, not one of you would have been pure, ever, but Allah purifies whom He wills, and Allah is Hearing and Knowing. (24:21)

if you are a person who’s engaged in a sin it’s your weakness, the minute you encourage others or promote that sin in any way you are now going to lose long-term contentment. if it was your weakness and you sought the forgiveness of Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’ala, definitely Allah will grant you goodness

Allah says when you accuse the innocent believing females especially you are cursed. Allah says the curse is upon you.

Indeed, those who [falsely] accuse chaste, unaware and believing women are cursed in this world and the Hereafter; and they will have a great punishment (21:23)

Allah (swt) tells the believing males to lower their gazes and cover yourself for the sake of Allah.

Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what they do.

And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof and to wrap [a portion of] their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers, their brothers’ sons, their sisters’ sons, their women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants

having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed. (24:30-31)

From Mufti Menk

 

How To Increase Concentration In Salah Automatically At Maximum Level- Mufti Menk

#MuftiMenk makes mention of the opening verse 1&2 from Surah Al Mu’minin (23) where Allah (swt) says how to increase #concentration in salah/ #prayer at one’s #maximum level automatically by following and doing specific activities.

you want contentment work on your concentration in Salah. How will I achieve that? So Allah continues to say those who stay away from, those who turn away from that which is futile, that which is futile, you stay away from it. Those who give zakah, those who cleanse themselves, those who purify themselves, those who give charity to the poor, they reach out to those who don’t have with what they have, those who protect their private parts; they don’t commit adultery. Those who fulfil their trust, they fulfil what Allah has entrusted them with and what people have entrusted them with, those who fulfil their five daily prayers. So when we do all of these things we will automatically be increasing the concentration in Salah.

Remember cut out that which is futile. it doesn’t benefit you. It’s a waste of time. Anything that’s a waste of time learn to cut it out, you’ll be happy. Do that which is constructive. Use your time responsibly and see what happens? Allah will open your doors in the dunya and the akhira –Mufti Menk

 

EP24 | Contentment from Revelation | Ramadan Series 2019 | Mufti Menk

When the prophets of Allah went through hardship they called out to Allah and never ever gave up.

So We responded to him, and We gave to him John, and amended for him his wife. Indeed, they used to hasten to good deeds and supplicate Us in hope and fear, and they were to Us humbly submissive. (21:90)

And [mention] Noah, when he called [to Allah ] before [that time], so We responded to him and saved him and his family from the great flood.(21:76)

And [mention] Job, when he called to his Lord, “Indeed, adversity has touched me, and you are the Most Merciful of the merciful.”(21:83)

So, We responded to him and removed what afflicted him of adversity. And We gave him [back] his family and the like thereof with them as mercy from Us and a reminder for the worshippers [of Allah ].(21:84)

When you make dua to Allah there is a contentment that should overtake your heart. You should be overcome by this beautiful contentment because you know I’ve called out to the most merciful. He knows what’s better for me. If He hasn’t given me, it’s not good for me but I must keep on calling out to Him because if you’ve called out to Him; by virtue of the calling you may be granted paradise.

If you’d like contentment learn to respect those things, those times and those places that Allah has given respect to.

Hajj is [during] well-known months, so whoever has made Hajj obligatory upon himself therein [by entering the state of ihram], there is [to be for him] no sexual relations and no disobedience and no disputing during Hajj. And whatever good you do – Allah knows it. And take provisions, but indeed, the best provision is fear of Allah . And fear Me, O you of understanding. (2:197)

That [is so]. And whoever honors the symbols of Allah – indeed, it is from the piety of hearts.(22:32)

When Allah has given a place virtue, you need to remember if your heart has a little bit of piety in it, a connection with Allah you will grant that place. it’s deserved respect.

Surah al mu’minin masha’Allah, the opening verses of this surah will bring about a lot of contentment if we were to read it and adopt it and teach it to others.

Certainly will the believers have succeeded: They who are during their prayer humbly submissive (23:1-2)

Anything that’s a waste of time learn to cut it out you’ll be happy – Mufti Menk