Many of us don’t thank Allah for what he has bestowed upon us. Suleiman alayhi Salam who was granted so much by Allah, he calls out to Allah saying o Allah give me the ability to be thankful to you, SubhanAllah. Look at the calmness and contentment that brings to the heart when you say o my lord grant me the ability to be thankful.
فَتَبَسَّمَ ضَاحِكًا مِّن قَوْلِهَا وَقَالَ رَبِّ أَوْزِعْنِي أَنْ أَشْكُرَ نِعْمَتَكَ الَّتِي أَنْعَمْتَ عَلَيَّ وَعَلَىٰ وَالِدَيَّ وَأَنْ أَعْمَلَ صَالِحًا تَرْضَاهُ وَأَدْخِلْنِي بِرَحْمَتِكَ فِي عِبَادِكَ الصَّالِحِينَ – 27:19
Fatabassama dahikan min qawliha waqala rabbi awziAAnee an ashkura niAAmataka allatee anAAamta AAalayya waAAala walidayya waan aAAmala salihan tardahu waadkhilnee birahmatika fee AAibadika alssaliheena
So [Solomon] smiled, amused at her speech, and said, “My Lord, enable me to be grateful for Your favor which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents and to do righteousness of which You approve. And admit me by Your mercy into [the ranks of] Your righteous servants.” (27:19]
The contentment of the hereafter will be achieved by those who do good deeds and protect those good deeds.
Whoever comes [at Judgement] with a good deed will have better than it, and they, from the terror of that Day, will be safe. (27:89)
To protect yourself you need to make sure that you don’t harm others. You need to make sure that the good deeds don’t make you arrogant. They don’t make you haughty and proud.
In Surat al Qasas mentioned and this name Qasas, the stories named after the story of Musa alayhis salam when he went to Shuaib alehissalaam after he was chased out of the place he was at and he got to Shuaib (as) and you know what? He says to Shuaib (as) what happened to him.
in Islam we believe that the proposal is made by either party meaning to express the willingness or to express the desire to marry can come from any party and it’s either a yes or a No. we shouldn’t be upset if it’s a no and just as much we should be very very concerned if it is a yes to fulfill the rights of the spouse to be and all these new relatives that are suddenly related to you SubhanAllah.
Make marriage simple, keep it simple you will achieve contentment and happiness those around you will be happy with the way you handle things. Allah has taught you never to worry about what people think of you and what you’re doing for as long as it is correct for as long as Allah is pleased with it and Allah allows it. You can do it and you should lead the way others will follow you.
He said, “Indeed, I wish to wed you one of these, my two daughters, on [the condition] that you serve me for eight years; but if you complete ten, it will be [as a favor] from you. And I do not wish to put you in difficulty. You will find me, if Allah wills, from among the righteous.”[28:27]
Nikkah / Marraige is something that is so so simple yet we make it difficult. The more difficult you make it the less contentment you will have. The easier you make it the more you have guaranteed your contentment short term and long term. Your children are happy. You are happy. Everyone is happy and keep it simple. Don’t get complicated when it comes to marriage. Don’t make it too big. – Mufti Menk