Tag: spouse

Islam, Marriage, Mufti Menk

Caught Illicit Affairs Of Spouse! No Forgiveness! Listen & Your Discretion ~ Mufti Menk

Oh people! The promise of the almighty is the truth. World deceive you. It is very temporary and it is very fake, subhanAllah, and don’t let the big deceiver deceive you, Shaitaan; the devil, the big deceiver.  He gonna come and try and make you do things that you’re not supposed to be doing. The almighty says its okay, Turn back to me as you turn back to the Almighty, He wipes out your sin. As He’s wiped out your sin the devil comes back and says no, you’re not forgiven. That almighty is not merciful.

The Almighty is not merciful. That’s a bigger sin than the sin you committed initially. Initially it was a sin out of your weakness. Now it’s a sin questioning who the Almighty is and denying one of His qualities known as the most merciful or the most forgiving, the most compassionate. So be careful be careful of the deception of this world.

Nobody from amongst us is perfect, not a soul, because part of the plan of the Almighty is human desire will lead you towards things that you’re not supposed to be doing. You may fall out of human weakness. Not because you’re defying Allah but you didn’t want to do it but you fell.

If you are walking here and you trip what would you do? Get up and do what? Keep walking, right? And even other persons coming and you turn around and see them what will you tell them? Be careful right? The winners are those who when they trip they get up and they keep going. We’re not perfect. Perfection is for the hereafter. When I am in here I shouldn’t lose hope number one but I need to keep trying to develop my relationship with Allah.

When you’re conscious of Allah and you have a relationship with Allah and you love Allah and that Allah is so close to you within your heart and you want to prove to Him that you love Him, wouldn’t you love everything that He has made? Even if you disagree with some of the people around you, your character will ensure that you don’t insult them or abuse them.

When I’m a pious person close to Allah I learned to love everyone to care for them, to treat them equally because they’re all the creatures of Allah. I will give them importance simply because they were created by the same one whom I’m trying to prove my love to. Be respectful; show it in your character.

Allah says in your life no matter what deeds you’ve done Allah says if you seek forgiveness I will forgive you.

When people are caught in immoral relations or illicit Affairs when they are married and the spouse catches them and says you know what? That’s the blessing of Allah that you were caught. You know why? Now you’re going to give it up, inshallah.

 

 

Nowadays people are not so forgiving, so if you’re caught, they’re gonna say I want out. I tell you my brothers and sisters not everyone who’s committed the sin is an evil person. They may have made a mistake. sometimes Allah wanted you to see something because he loved them so much and He knows by you making a big deal out of it that person’s gonna quit the habit and become such a better person, subhanAllah.

So it doesn’t mean that I need a divorce straight away. Don’t just listen to the world the world tells you the minute you catch your spouse doing something wrong that’s it, go home. I’ll tell you not necessarily means if the person is a good person, they taking care of you you’re taking care of each other, there’s a lot of respect, there’s kindness, there’s fulfilment of rights… mend it and keep the same Mercedes.

But if the person is evil and abusive and hurtful and they don’t fulfill their rights and they don’t dis and they don’t that and then you catch them doing X Y & Z then perhaps you might want to look into final separation that was the last stroke, gone.

Marriage, Mufti Menk, Sort- Reminders, Transforming Life

Beware! People Would Die To Be Married To Your Wife While You Are Alive – Mufti Menk

People are stressed you know what? They can’t show that stress to the people they work with because they’re big guys there. They want to impress the girls at work. so they don’t show them any bad habits, nothing but you go home first thing, you start swearing, you start screaming, you start shouting, you start showing your real self, subhanAllah.

SubhanAllah, that’s why the Prophet (saw) says you know who the best person is, the one who’s best to his family members, always the best. You know why? that person has shown the family that when I’m upset I’m still a good guy, when I’m angry I’m still a good guy, when I’m hungry I’m still a good guy, when I’ve suffered a bad day I’m still a good guy, when I’ve suffered the loss I’m still a good guy and I’m always a good guy. Then you’re really a good guy SubhanAllah. But if you’re a good guy outside the home and when you come back home then you’re not a good guy at all. Who knows better what type of a person you are? Those are at home. So that’s the reason why the prophet (saw) tells us watch who you are. You want to reallyknow who a man is, go ask his wife. You want to really know who a woman is ask the husband or ask the family members.

Be honest be upright, you lose a deal because of your honesty; no problem, Allah will give you Baraka, Baraka in it.

Blessings are snatched away when sins are committed remember that. You have the best spouse, the best person Allah chose for you as a husband or as a wife. You cannot see it because you know what? You’re involved in other sins. so you’re blinded. Blinded by whom? By Shaitaan, your home is no longer happy because your relationship with Allah is weak; your relationship with Shaitaan has become strong. Your relationship with Shaitaan becomes strong you become blind what happens to the blindness? The is the best wife on earth, I don’t want to say but perhaps I should.. Should I? People would die to be married to your wife and you’re still alive…

We couldn’t see that. we’re we’re blinded because there’s some sin blinded because there’s some sin happening either this Haram income there, either this Haram relationships there, either this Haram food there, either there’s something wrong happening there, either there’s no Salah; there’s no connection with Allah. So the coolness of the eyes will not be achieved because the heat of the sin has overtaken that saying, point number one: develop your relationship with Allah. – Mufti Menk

Marriage, Mufti Menk

Watch It Immediately If You Are Planning To Get Married ~ Mufti Menk

We were asking a question; are you prepared or are you ready to be a spouse, whether it’s a husband or a wife? Do you have what it takes to be a spouse? Do you know the qualities that t are required for a person to qualify to be a spouse.

If you don’t have communication skills you cannot succeed in a marriage. You need to be very patient, patience is the cornerstone. Patience is a quality that is required for you to be qualified as a person ready to get married. If you don’t have patience, you don’t know how to talk to people.

So if you don’t have patience you end up divorcing people. You end up not realizing that the problems can be resolved.

You need to learn to be slightly selfless. if you’re selfish you’re not going to get along even with the best of the globe. If you address the matters in a beautiful way you will be able to succeed in your marriage.

You need to learn how to talk to people, you need to be patient. You need to be selfless to a great degree, learn to accommodate others.

Sometimes you don’t like to do certain things. You have to learn to like to do certain things that you may not ideally like to do, simply to put a smile on the faces of those whom you love.

So this is the reason why it’s important for us to actually develop these qualities before we get married.

We need to be very kind and kindness begins at home. You need to be generous, don’t be miserly, don’t waste.

How many times are you prepared to utter beautiful words to your spouse? Words of love, words of kindness, politeness, how many times do you look at your spouse and you actually say Beautiful words to them.

When you have an issue becomes a screaming and yelling match, lower your voice.

It’s important for us to know that when you haven’t developed yourself, you really are not ready to get married really. You need to make sure that that you develop your characteristics, your qualities have feeling within you, have mercy. if we don’t have mercy within you,  the other person will not you know be merciful either. If you’re not merciful on your spouse you will never have the mercy of Allah (swt).

A spouse is someone whom you are ready to help; they’re ready to help you.- Mufti Menk

Family, Marriage, Mufti Menk, Sort- Reminders

The Night Belongs To Your Spouse In Terms Of Companionship – Mufti Menk

      Be in truthful company

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The prophet peace be upon him says, “A person is known by the friends he or she keeps”. The circle that he rotates with, so be careful whom you befriend, the prophet (saw) said this.

Sometimes we have friends we need to change those friends. If your friends do not teach you how to prioritize then they are not true friends.

Why did you get married? What contentment would you like? You have a wife or a spouse waiting for you. You have children who are desperate for your time. If you don’t spend time with your family, with your wife, with your children after you are married and you spend it with your friends instead all the time, you will lose your contentment.

The company of the truthful they will in fact remind you to go home, they will all disperse early because the night belongs to your spouse, to the almighty obviously but in terms of companionship go back to your family.

Your friends should be better than you in character and conduct. Your friends should be better than you in the dedication that they have towards achieving goodness. – Mufti Menk

 

Family, Marriage, Mufti Menk

What Type Of Man Will Treat You As A Queen | Mufti Menk

#MuftiMenk mentions what #virtues #male #spouse should have from the story of prophet #Moses (#Musa) regarding #marriage. These are – have a strong relationship with his #Maker (#Allah), #character&conduct, hard-working and having attitude of taking #responsibilities.

Mufti Menk Quotes in this clip “If you have married your daughter off to an honourable person who’s responsible he has character and conduct and he has a relationship with his Maker even if he doesn’t have all the glamorous things on earth; he’s going to look after her like a queen”.

 

Family, Important Duas / Supplications, Mufti Menk

Dua For Granting Righteous Spouse & Children | Mufti Menk

#MuftiMenk mentions we need to make a #dua that Allah grant us spouses and children who will be the #coolness of our eyes.we need to make the following dua on a constant basis. The reason is if you are not married, Allah will grant you a #spouse who will be the coolness of your eyes together with #righteousness and if you are married Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala can help improve your condition as well as the condition of your spouse through the same dua and #supplication. The dua is in the following:

وَالَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا –

25:74 “Rab-ba-naa hab la-naa min ‘az-waa-ji-naa wa zur-ri-yaa-ti-naa qur-ra-ta ‘a`-yu-nin-waj-`al-naa lil-Mut-ta-qee-na ‘I-maa-maa.”

“Our Lord! Bestow on us from our #wives and our #offspring the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders of those who have #Taqwa.”

Mufti Menk, Sort- Reminders

Spouse’s Mistake

#MuftiMenk makes mentions of as a believing #female or a believing #male when your #spouse has done something wrong (#mistake), you need to sit and seek Allah’s forgiveness to begin with. Both of you ask Allah’s forgiveness when He forgives you and your slate is clean you will be able to think properly and extend your hand if they show a speck of #remorse in this clip.

Mufti Menk quotes in this clip “With your own spouse someone whom you took into your relationship, the most intimate relationship that they could be with the name of Allah you took that person and you hold every droplet of what they did against them; you have a sickness of doubt against your husband, against your wife; every small call, every small movement, every movement of the eye, every time they leave the house; that’s it he’s committing sin, she’s committing sin if that’s your attitude trust me you never be able to lead a life; it’s not going to happen.”

Family, Islam, Marriage, Mufti Menk, Ramadan

Build & Fix Your Relations With Your Spouse & Others In Ramadan

#MuftiMenk mentions that remove the hatred in your heart from others or of others #Ramadan is there to build relations (#spouse, family members ,neighbours, etc) to think about where you are and the building of a relationship requires both parties not just one.

Mufti Menk Quotes in this lecture “If we were true followers of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him we would learn something from the fact that as he ran down the first person- he embraced was this wife of his. How many of us when we feel that we need some form of reassurance we would go to our spouse…”

Family, Marriage, Mufti Menk

How Will Your Spouse Look Like In Jannah!! Mufti Menk

In this video clip #MuftiMenk speaks about how your #spouse (wife) would be #jannah (paradise) at time of describing #hoor in jannah. He said your own spouse will be changing as per the sweetness of your eye at its liking.