We were asking a question; are you prepared or are you ready to be a spouse, whether it’s a husband or a wife? Do you have what it takes to be a spouse? Do you know the qualities that t are required for a person to qualify to be a spouse.
If you don’t have communication skills you cannot succeed in a marriage. You need to be very patient, patience is the cornerstone. Patience is a quality that is required for you to be qualified as a person ready to get married. If you don’t have patience, you don’t know how to talk to people.
So if you don’t have patience you end up divorcing people. You end up not realizing that the problems can be resolved.
You need to learn to be slightly selfless. if you’re selfish you’re not going to get along even with the best of the globe. If you address the matters in a beautiful way you will be able to succeed in your marriage.
You need to learn how to talk to people, you need to be patient. You need to be selfless to a great degree, learn to accommodate others.
Sometimes you don’t like to do certain things. You have to learn to like to do certain things that you may not ideally like to do, simply to put a smile on the faces of those whom you love.
So this is the reason why it’s important for us to actually develop these qualities before we get married.
We need to be very kind and kindness begins at home. You need to be generous, don’t be miserly, don’t waste.
How many times are you prepared to utter beautiful words to your spouse? Words of love, words of kindness, politeness, how many times do you look at your spouse and you actually say Beautiful words to them.
When you have an issue becomes a screaming and yelling match, lower your voice.
It’s important for us to know that when you haven’t developed yourself, you really are not ready to get married really. You need to make sure that that you develop your characteristics, your qualities have feeling within you, have mercy. if we don’t have mercy within you, the other person will not you know be merciful either. If you’re not merciful on your spouse you will never have the mercy of Allah (swt).
A spouse is someone whom you are ready to help; they’re ready to help you.- Mufti Menk