Recite this Dua / Supplication daily when you wake up in the Morning and make it practicing in the Family!
Category: Mufti Menk
A very Powerful Quranic Dua / supplication For Istighfar (the act of seeking forgiveness from Allah) made the prophet Adam (A.S) to get Allah’s mercy to get rid of any type of danger, calamity, problem, etc.
The dua which Allah taught Prophet Adam (A.S) for asking forgiveness is given in the following: رَبَّنَا ظَلَمْنَا أَنفُسَنَا وَإِن لَّمْ تَغْفِرْ لَنَا وَتَرْحَمْنَا لَنَكُونَنَّ مِنَ الْخَاسِرِينَ Rabbana thalamna anfusana wain lam taghfir lana watarhamna lanakoonanna mina alkhasireena “Our Lord! We have wronged ourselves. If You forgive us not, and bestow not upon us Your Mercy, we shall certainly be of the losers.” Al-Qur’an, 007.023 (Al-Araf [The Heights])
The prophet Muhammad peace be upon Him always made people feel very very important, everyone. when he saw a child He actually paused for a moment and gave the child such importance that the child felt empowered, subhanallah Are you a good Muslim? We are supposed to be having decent character and conduct to say the least, right? My brothers, my sisters, If you’re a true Muslim if you want to be a follower of Islam, we know the pillars of Islam, Five Pillars,
we know them but sometimes we behave in a way that is actually so embarrassing. On one hand, we claim to be the ambassador of this beloved beautiful messenger and on the other hand, We are such an embarrassment that people dislike Islam and they dislike, astagfirullah, the messenger peace be upon Him simply because of the way we behave, we behave in a ridiculous way. If someone is darker than you in complexion, all that is required of you is never ever comment about their complexion, I don’t even want to ask you how many of you have ever commented about others complexions because I think I’ll be embarrassed. People are worried about how fair they are And how dark they are. I tell you the almighty says it clearly, your entry into Paradise has nothing to do with your race. Nothing to do with your color. Nothing to do with the size or shape of your body or how much you weigh Imagine you weigh and you strive to lose one stone, half a stone you strive, you struggle I promise you if you had struggled. Half of that dedication if you had to struggle just a little bit not even a struggle to get closer to the almighty You shed some of your spiritual baggage far quicker than you would shed your own weight. And by the way, it’s not bad. It’s not bad. To what? To be a few kilos this way and that way nothing wrong. Don’t get too obsessed. I remember visiting a country. and they were talking about one of the girls who want to get married and obviously every culture has its own taste and has its own understanding and so on and they were talking about a certain girl getting married and one of the brothers said she won’t find a husband. This was somewhere in Africa, by the way. And I was shocked I said brother You cannot say that, you know astagfirullah…. He said no man. She’s nothing, she must eat potatoes and whatever… in our culture you can only get married if you are 70 kilos or more. have you ever heard that? I looked at him I said, in my culture most of the girls would be disqualified, SubhanAllah, may Allah grant us forgiveness protection. Something you look at as positive others. Look at is negative. You see, it’s a matter of where you come from your culture. Allah says, I’m not gonna judge you by your weight. Try your best.
You must be fit. Don’t say I’m a Muslim. Like I said, it’s okay. It’s okay. I can weigh as much as I want. No, you cannot, you must take pride in what you look like in what you feel like in your health. You must learn to do something about it, but don’t become obsessed. That’s what we are saying, Obsession means now it stresses you just because of one pimple on your face. Not at all. I’ve got 10 by the way, it’s fine. My brothers and sisters, let’s refine ourselves. You see someone darker than you, taller than you, shorter than you very thin.. huge. No problem. Greet them, smile at them, make them feel important, give them that empowering the sense of belonging, it will help them and guess what? more than it helps them. You did yourself a favor, Allah says o you who believe, do not destroy the reward of your Charities by bragging about it and by harming Those after you have been charitable. That means if I give you a charity and I brag about it. I’m just Nullified the reward of it. I’m supposed to humble myself.
I’m supposed to make you feel more important than I, even though the world might think you did a favor, the person might also believe you did a favor, but you know, what? if you are refined, you look at it in a different way, humble yourself. Humble yourself, bring yourself to the understanding that you’re supposed to be upon. Never ever Maltreat people based on their financial standing social standing, Sometimes we only greet the Rich and Famous Sometimes we’re only you know, acknowledging people who look a certain way, the day you can acknowledge people who look totally different, people who are from perhaps a totally different background, Different race, different nationality, different Religion, different background the day you can acknowledge them and respect them for the fact that they’re human, They share with you the common factor, the common forefather subhanallah. Who was your greatest grandfather? Adam (a.s) So we’re related. Mashallah. You have to acknowledge if you’re a refined human being. After all, we are brothers and sisters in humanity, the day you acknowledge that that’s the day you inched towards understanding who your maker is. Because that it’s the same maker who made them made you, I’m trying to impress the same Creator who created everyone else. So if he created everyone else and I am so loving and kind to all his creatures, surely you’ll be impressed with me.
And if I’m nasty to one creature of the almighty, do you think he’s going to be impressed with me? He made that creature. you follow what I’m saying? And we call ourselves religious? See what I’m saying? Understand Allah. That’s why the prophet Muhammad peace be upon Him tells us the almighty will not have mercy on the one who doesn’t have mercy on the rest of mankind as a starting point. to what extent did the prophet Muhammad peace be upon him make people feel important? Let me explain the companions say that’s by far one of the most powerful statements when it comes to seeing how the prophet (saw) made people feel around him. It says the companions are saying none of those in his company ever felt that there was anyone more honored than himself to the prophet. Wow, that’s a miracle. That is a miracle. Imagine, I’m sitting with a thousand people and every one of the Thousand believes This guy likes me the most, How’s that?
The prophet Muhammad peace be upon him made everyone feel so important. The brothers, the sisters meaning the men, the women, the children the old, the others, I give you one example Bilal ibn Rabah (Ra) was a man from habesha. habesha is somewhere where Ethiopia is today, So he was an African from Africa, habesha. He was before Islam, A slave and Islam Taught the companions to free the slaves, free them until they were all free. They were all set free. It started off with Abu Bakr the same man Abdullah ibn Uthman (ra) he used to buy the slaves and the free them, buy them from an owner, one of the people of quraysh buy them and then Free them, buy them and then free them and in that way the prophet Muhammad peace be upon Him says that whoever does that they freed themselves on the day of judgment. If you wanted to be free from a punishment, you had to buy one of these people who were oppressed completely unacceptably and free them, you know people don’t talk about this, but that’s Islam. So Abu Bakr as-siddiq (ra) decided to buy Bilal ibn Rabah (ra) free him, he was a slave when he freed him, the honor and the dignity that he got as a Muslim. He was one of the Champions when the prophet Muhammad peace be upon him went up in Mi’raj and Allah showed him jannah and jahannam meaning Heaven and Hell and the heavens and whatever else he came back onto the Earth. And guess what He said? He says imagine everyone is sitting and waiting to listen, you know, what is he going to say? He’s going to describe for us his journey. He started describing and he says where is Bilal out of all the people where is Bilal, imagine you looking for a person subhanallah who was a slave. Probably the darkest in complexion, but the prophet (saw) says is where is bilal? he says Bilal he says when I was in Jannah. I heard your footsteps, la illah ila allah Look at this. I heard your footsteps. It goes to show that entry into Paradise has nothing to do with your color. It’s going to do with your heart in that’s a statement of the Prophet Muhammad Peace be upon him. He says Allah does not look at what you look like. And your body, straight, Allah does not look at your body is what you look like. He looks at your deeds and your hearts. That’s what the prophet Muhammad peace be upon Him taught us. I want you to change your life, my brothers and sisters make people feel important.
whenever I give the example of one plus one, something comes to my mind. It was a lesson of honesty that we learned many many years ago. And you know, they say initially they had picked on certain colors and races. But as I refined it, we removed the colors and races because even when you are joking you shouldn’t say the Pakistani and the Indian and this .., No, if it’s derogatory take that out. Refine yourself, you know when I was a little bit younger and we were not Not yet as refined. We sometimes used to laugh at these things.
Now, I actually send a message back to the brothers on my phone or whoever it was I said, you know what? think about what was said? you could have joked without an insult. may Allah forgive me and all of us and make us more conscious of it. So they say there were three guys, they went to apply for a job as an accountant right? by the way I was told recently that accounting is going to be taken over by computers very very soon, anyone becoming a CA, you know the lifespan of it, you’re going to have to go into crypto very soon. may Allah forgive you and forgive me. I might be totally wrong. Okay, it’s not my topic. I should keep quiet, right? mashallah, mashallah, so three guys going to the interview. What did they want the job as the accountant?
So the first guy walks in and he comes out in a minute. So the other two said what happens? and I don’t know I walked in, he said what’s one plus one? I said two and he said you can leave. I said why? So the other two now knew that hey is something wrong. The next guy goes in and comes out in a minute. So the third guy sitting and said what happened? He said he did the same thing to me. Yeah, but you’re such a fool if you knew two was wrong. Why did you…? he says, no, I didn’t say two because I knew two wrong, right? I said 11 because one and one technically you put the two together.
It makes 11 so, you know technical mind, I might get the job. He said you can leave, the third guy says haha. This guy probably needs a different answer. So he enters like I told you the initial joke has nationalities next to it. Don’t put nationalities. We leave it blank. You’ll still have a good laugh. Right? Why are you laughing bro? I haven’t even told you the joke. So he walks in. And he gets the job. He got the job guess why he got the job. the boss says, what’s one plus one? He says wait, let me close the curtains. he Closed the curtains and I turned off the lights, I turned offt he lights. Okay, let me whisper in your ear. He said okay, what would you like it to be? they say that’s a real accountant, Masha’allah, Allah forgive us. may Allah forfgive us, did you hear that? We see laugh, Masha’allah May Allah forgive us. Obviously. That’s a joke guys. That’s a total joke. It’s got nothing. You know what you have to be upright. Please don’t whisper in people’s ears and start doctoring all your accounts. Mashallah.
You and I know that across the globe there is a scare. the scare of something that cannot be seen by the naked eye. The scare of a germ, a virus that is actually contaminating so much and it is spreading faster than a wild fire. my brothers and sisters the prophet Muhammad peace be upon Him taught us years Ago centuries ago about everything. no goodness, except the prophet Muhammad taught us about it, salallahu alayhi wasalam no evil, No harm except that he mentioned it. He taught us about it. Number one. He taught us about cleanliness and about making sure that we are always clean if you look at the ablution or wudu that we are Supposed to be engaging in before we pray, it entails washing your hands thoroughly five times a day in such a way that the middle of your fingers and the bottom of your nails supposed to be washed. It teaches us about the toes and how to wash the middle of your toes, how to wash your face, your hands and so on keep yourself extremely clean. He has taught us about out how to wash up after using the bathroom and this is something that we should not be ashamed of, it is actually such a beautiful teaching. If only we knew and if only we understood.
so cleanliness is something that is very very important in Islam to the degree that the prophet sallallahu wasallam says your cleanliness is half of your faith, so much of importance given to it and obviously when we speak of cleanlinessthe first thing that comes to the mind is the cleanliness that is physical to do what your water, to do with your bathing, to do with, you know, cleaning yourself and showing your presentable looking neat at cetera. But it also includes cleaning your thoughts, cleaning your dealings and cleaning everything else or social living and so on. all of that is included, but there is another thing that the prophet Muhammad peace be upon Him taught us. He said that if you hear of a plague in a certain land, don’t go there and if you are in a place where the plague is, there is an outbreak then don’t exit from it. In fact in narrartion, the Prophet sallallahu alehiwassallaam speaks about how a person who knows that his Sabr (patience), has been affected by a plague and decides to leave it running away from it. He is a blight like a Person who ran away from a war zone when he was supposed to defend his own Nation. So he says you don’t run away.
The reason is you won’t be able to tell if you are affected or contaminated and if you don’t know chances are there is a possibility that you are and if you were, you would be carrying it to other places. So this whole concept of quarantine is actually from the Sunnah and the teaching Of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him more than 1400 years back. when he says if you’re affected. You don’t leave and you don’t let anyone come in, amazing. My brother’s my sisters We know that the world has become a global village. We know that because of communication and transport at a very Advanced stage. This virus has flown from the East to the west, from the north to the South, there were people at the beginning saying that perhaps it’s Hoax ,maybe it is nothing serious. Perhaps It is something that people don’t need to worry about. it’s just an ordinary flu, all that in its place.
The reality is it is spreading, people are dying. It’s look at what’s happening on the ground, huge Nations have decided no more flights coming in or out from many countries of the globe. People are in quarantine. Not just ordinary people on the streets, but no matter Who you are? My brothers and sisters is your duty to take it. Seriously. Thank Allah that today We are seated here in this Masjid for salahtul Jummah, thank Allah Allahumma rabbil al ameen Do you know that there are places that have stopped the Salah in the Masjid simply because of contamination from the masajid and contamination from places of worship. Now what might say Muslim I have taught to read the dua, “Bismillahi alladhi la yadurru ma’ ismihi shai’un [arabic in the description] fil-ardi wa-laa fil-samaa’i wa huwa al-Samee’u al-‘Aleem” the meaning of which is I am taking the name of Allah, in the name of Allah with whose name nothing in the sky or on Earth can harm at all, Nothing can harm around me. He is indeed the all-hearing, the all-knowing. so they say once I say this prayer three times which by the way Is a Sunnah you must say the prayer. It is important to say that dua and many other duas but that does not mean that you don’t do what is known by … you need to make sure you have taken heed the means that you have to avoid contamination and to avoid being affected and to avoid this from spreading you need to make sure that you have taken every precaution. So some muslim says if I have said that dua it’s okay.
I can go for jummah, I can go for jamah (congregation), I can go for anything else because that is a Sunnah or that is a teaching of Islam Etc, not realizing if you are unwell, it is haram to go at a time like this when you know, you could be affected by the virus and affect so many others totally forbidden. How could I ever knowingly go to a public place, And I know there is a plague around and I know that the symptoms are XYZ, or I know I’ve been to a Zone where it was a Red Zone and they were… there are so many cases that and I think “At-Tawakkul ‘ala Allah“ (In Allah We Trust) I am going, azubillah, I’m hoping that you cannot do that. my brothers and sisters take it seriously. if the Health Inspectors or whichever Department Is responsible decides that you know, what there will be no more public Gatherings for any reason because of this virus, They are Justified. Did you hear what I said? We have to say from the pulpit. They are Justified because they are trying to contain the outbreak, are trying to contain it from getting worse. You have to understand if there is no jummah next week we will do salatul zuhr at home and we will thank Allah, at least we’re okay.
Say in the morning and in the evening (thrice): Amazing DUA بِسـمِ اللهِ الذي لا يَضُـرُّ مَعَ اسمِـهِ شَيءٌ في الأرْضِ وَلا في السّمـاءِ وَهـوَ السّمـيعُ العَلـيم “Bismillahi alladhi la yadurru ma’ ismihi shai’un fil-ardi wa-laa fil-samaa’i wa huwa al-Samee’u al-‘Aleem” Remove and Protect from Evil of Everything “In the Name of Allah, with Whose Name nothing on the earth or in the heaven can cause harm, and He is the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing.”
So it’s not like you have to come even if you’re sick or ill, I know of a brother very sick and he says no that is jummah,I have to go it’s my duty as a Muslim, my brother, when you are sick, you don’t even need to fast, when you are sick and ill, you don’t even need to go for Hajj. when you know, you’re unwell you it’s not like Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala wants You to do certain things knowing that you are unwell. so let’s not fool ourselves. Let’s not fool ourselves. If you are unwell participate in what is known as self quarantine, which means you make sure you don’t mix with others to make sure you have your mask, you make sure you clean, your make sure you let you know those around you know …. because I’m not well I would like to keep a bit of a distance and thereafter make sure you Get yourself tested and now comes the big one. May Allah protect all of us say ameen, if you are tested positive, you may suffer Financial loss. You may suffer various other loss. All those losses are okay. Don’t worry. The financial loss is never ever bigger than the protection of humanity, Remember that. many of us have planned holidays. We planned meetings, we planned… travels, we planned Journeys. that may not happen, some of us in our businesses, our companies, We will lose a lot of money. take this seriously, very seriously. Make sure you know, when we greet each other, the sunnah is to greet as-salam-o-alaikum walaikum, Wa alaykumu s-salam We don’t have to shake hands, especially when it comes to some time of the sort where you know, they could be contamination and as clean as you think you are, it just requires a small contamination for you to be affected before your you know, your entire family to be affected and so many others to be affected just because you thought I must shake hands because I really want to fulfill.. I must hug, is the hug fard, is it compulsory?
The answer is no, so at the time like this, even if I just greeted you, you greeted Each other with the greeting of a hand from a distance. It is fine. There’s nothing wrong with that, get used to it for a while to put on a mask or to put something on this is not wrong Subhanallah. In fact, you would have two at a certain point. We are fortunate in this particular City. It’s not that bad but who knows how bad it is? It takes a few days before you can actually figure out what has happened. So I’ve chosen to speak about this today because From the pulpit of the Friday. It’s important that we educate our people, there may come a day when authorities decide we will not be able to gather in large Gatherings or whatever purpose it is that they might come very soon. It has already happened in other countries. people started asking is it permissible for them to say you cannot gather for jummah. I promise you my brothers and sisters if there is a plague of this nature and There is a need it is definitely permissible for them to impose on us and we’re not allowed to gather. The idea is to save Humanity, remember this, it’s not a personal thing and you iman does not negate the fact that you have to stay away and you have to protect yourself. Like I see some people think I’m a Muslim. I read quran every day. I make dua every day, nothing will affect me, my brothers and sisters don’t fool. Yourself, don’t fool yourself. There are people who read quran and Salah and they make their dua, They have still been affected and some have even died of diseases be this one or another one. So don’t fool yourself. Don’t think you know what and a Pious man. I have not missed my Salah in the first sub. So, how can I miss it now?
I haven’t missed, you know something all my life. How can I miss it now? I promise you the reward for protecting humanity is greater than the reward for your individual acts of worship. Remember that. the reward for protecting humanity is greater than the reward of your individual acts. So may Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala grant us all goodness at ease and remember everything is in the hands of Allah. Let’s pray that Allah protect us. Let’s pray for those who are affected that Allah Grant and cure. It is a serious matter. Don’t be excited when you hear That countries affected, this countries affected, don’t ever be excited because it’s a matter of time before it comes to you and I. similarly my brothers and sisters, sleep Well, sleep. Well, do you know why if you would like your immune system to be strengthened put your phone away and go to bed those who have a sound sleep at night have a better immune system than those who have not had proper sleep. So sleep well. Eat healthy, make sure that you are having your vitamins and minerals, make sure that you are fit, make sure that you have boosted your immune system somehow because together with making duaa to Allah and praying to him you and I need to make sure that we have done something within our capacity to save ourselves.
Similarly, Never ever become people. Who do what is known as Panic buying, what is Panic buying? which means over there might be a lock down in two weeks. So let me go and buy two tons of baked beans because I love baked beans. So everyone goes instead of buying one tin or two tins they buy ten cases and they want to bring it back and before you .. there is nothing left for anyone. subhanAllah, don’t do Panic buying, things will be okay by the will of Allah, things will be okay by the will of Allah also, let us never ever discriminate, Based on race, simply because we heard that this outbreak could have started maybe in China, people Look at anyone who looks like a Chinese and maltreat them but literally unacceptably treat them in a way that is tantamount to a crime against humanity. That’s unfair. that is unIslamic.
It is uncalled for, it is wrong. It doesn’t mean that anyone who looks this way suddenly has the virus. That’s not true. The person doing this type of discrimination could be the one who’s the carrier? Who knows and he’s laughing at others. That’s why they say don’t ever show excitement when someone else is inflicted or affected with negativity because perhaps Allah might have mercy on them, cure them, give them goodness and you know what he might test you with the same. So Brothers and Sisters Let’s Learn to be caring for one another at this juncture. Humanity is struggling. This virus knows no faith. No race. No nationality. It is traveling the globe just like that anyone can be affected at any time. No matter how Pious you are. No matter how distant you are from Allah. all of that to a certain extent you and I know that Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala has tested us. Let’s learn to pass those tests. I ask Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala to protect us. I ask Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala have mercy on us and I ask Allah (swt) to open our doors and to make us from those who can reach out to the rest of humanity. – Mufti Menk
You see in reality Allah speaks about heaven and hell. Allah if you lived your life in a criminal way and you think the long arm of the law is not going to get…., subhanallah I am not gonna get to you. You’re wrong. It will catch up with you at some stage or another.
Allah says, you know what, if you were to perpetrate a crime you need to be penalized. When He says that is a sign that He is fair and just.
there was a Hadith of the prophet (saw) where He was seated with Abu Bakr as-siddiq (ra) and the man kept on you know, Bad-mouthing Abu Bakr (Ra) in front of him, speaking badwords. vulgar words, it was hurting him. But Abu Bakr (ra) kept smiling and he was quiet. and the prophet (saw) kept smiling and he was looking at Abu Bakr as-siddiq (ra) And so something amazing and interesting happened.
A little while later, Abu bakr (ra) could not manage. You know, he’s a human. a bit of steam, he had to let off and so what happened is The prophet’s (saw)’s smile vanished and he got up and quietly walked away.
So when Abu Bakr as-siddiq (ra) went to the prophet peace be upon him and told him you walked away. He said you know what? When you were silent the Angels were there, defending you. The minute you open your mouth, they went away.
I was smiling at the fact that wow, because what was being said was not harmful. Your bones were not being hurt. It was someone’s words.
When someone utters bad words, what does it show? When someone says you’re a dog, astaghfirullah. in reality It says more about Them than yourself. Imagine think about think about it carefully if you were to smile and walk away. Honestly you have understood what Allah says. When the True Believers are addressed by the ignorant they just say peace and they walk away. Don’t waste your time. – Mufti Menk
When the shatiaan has given this topic [marriage] so much attention, why should we not give marriage this type of attention when shaitaan has given this topic so much more attention? It seems that shaitaan has a vested interest in separating husband and wife. And it’s one of those things that he celebrates a lot more with respect to sins that him and his troops they achieve and this was mentioned categorically in a Hadith.
The Prophet (S.A.W.S) said:
“Iblis places his throne upon water; he then sends detachments (for creating dissension between people); the nearer to him in rank are those who are most notorious in creating dissension. One of them comes and says: “I did so and so.” And he says: “You have done nothing.” Then one amongst them comes and says: “I did not spare so and so until I sowed the seed of discord between a husband and a wife.” Shaytaan goes near him and says: “You have done well.” He then embraces him”
(Sahih Muslim and narrated by Jabir Ibn ‘Abdullah).
The fact that, divorce is on the rise. in my own personal and short experience in the Islamic Council of Europe out of every 10 cases That are supposed to be mediating between people in every Avenue of life whether Financial, marital or whatever It may be out of every ten or so cases. I would say maybe nine of them are our divorce related, maybe more so we have a problem, shaitaan is working and many of these marriages could have been fixed. This is our motto We want to mend it rather than ending it. We want to find Solutions and divorced undoubtedly is a window that Allah has provided if all other options fail.
Look at what happens to the children? Iain Duncan Smith said Who emerge from broken homes are nine times more likely to commit crime then those children who come out from stable homes. That is a worrying statistic.
Look at the individual cost that happens when a husband and wife are falling out. Look at what happens to him what heart from an emotional psychological perspective.
The Perfect relationship between husband and wife doesn’t exist, why? Because, that doesn’t exist in Dunya. It exists in Jannah, but not in Dunya. – Shaykh Ali Hammuda
We are on earth right now where we have people around us who keep judging in a way that distracts us. People look at you, they judge you, they judge you based on what? based on your color, They judge you based on your complexion, sometimes on your height, sometimes on your size, sometimes on your nationality, Sometimes perhaps on something.. They judge you based on so many things; so much springs to my mind. They judge you based on your sins.
Allah judges you but he’s the only one who never judges based on your sin. Allah judges, you based on your repentance La ilaha Illa Allah.
People will never forgive the sin you’ve committed even if you’ve changed your life, totally in most cases they won’t… that humankind. Allah is the most merciful, the most forgiving, the most compassionate, the most kind the most good, etc.
Allah gets so happy when people turn to him. Allah says We wipe out your sins, Allah said, you know what let alone wipe out your sins. Whatever sins you’ve committed, We want to convert them into Good Deeds on the right side of your scale because you changed your life. You’re such a lovely person, never ever be let’s down by your past. Leave your past behind forget about it.
Divorce Yourself from toxic, people who might be in your circle of friends so much so that if it is a spouse who is toxic, Allah allows you to actually come out of it.
That is insulting, heaven lies at the feet of your mother is actually a statement that is sometimes used as religious blackmail to keep the person under the spell of a mother when the mother is toxic. And really nasty evil person who won’t even be subhanallah, who won’t be your door to Paradise, Not at all.
May ALlah make it such that people bear witness that we are really good people.
Allah Judges you based on your repentance not on your sin. Allah says your pasts can actually become the biggest blessing no matter how negative it was. When you just turn to Allah, that is between you and Allah. Allah is here for you.
Sometimes you’re going through a divorce and you know what you went through it Once it was so painful. Divorce is never the end of the world. It might just be the beginning of your life. there will come a time when ease will come through, you go through a divorce. You’re not the first person you’ll never be the last one. It may not be Be your first divorce, you might go through it again. And again and who knows the third, the fourth person, you’re gonna get to through marriage is going to be wow! The king of your dreams. subhanAllah, it can happen.
Man is such that when we’re going through the issue. It’s the end of the world. It’s not, just ride this for now, you know, the waves are coming in just ride the wave for now and you lay low for a little while. Thank Allah develop your relationship with Allah. A day will come when you will have the last laugh and always as they say he who laughs last laughs the best.
You say o Allah, forgive me, It is a massive act of worship because you’re acknowledging that Allah is the owner of forgiveness, Allah is the owner of goodness. He’s the owner of punishment. He’s the owner of everything.
There is a hope for everyone, the worst from amongst us. There is a hope for and the best from amongst us must not become so proud and arrogant. – Mufti Menk
The brightest children are not always the most successful on Earth and I want to tell you something else to prove that your education and your wealth are not necessarily connected… Allah makes some of the wealthiest from amongst us, some of the least educated, do you guys agree?
This is why you know what? I really feel hurt when people sometimes see a successful businessman, A person who is doing really well and then they make an issue out of the fact that this person has not gotten a degree or whatever else so they cannot marry our daughter.
But what was the point of going to school in the first place to earn a living? This man earns the living without having gotten that degree.
Work hard inshallah as best as you can and enjoy the days you have, even if you’re at a workplace things are tough.
Life will be challenging. people will judge you. It’s not your fault. It’s not you who is sick. It is them.
A proposal has come in your direction from a person whom you are satisfied with their level of Deen which means their closeness to Allah, their religion, they don’t have to be you know, so Pious but on an acceptable level perhaps they read their Salah, they are responsible in their relationship with Allah and secondly, Their character and conduct is of an acceptable level. If you have those two then let it happen.
And you know what the Hadith says if you don’t oh, this is We say it we repeat it and we see parents do exactly the opposite and face the same consequences mentioned by the prophet (saw) and they blame everyone else.
So the Hadith says if good character came to you with decent deen. Now what has good character meant? you need a responsible guy, responsible person. Mashallah, they’re responsible and they have Deen, they’re good character.
I always say you will not even know that your choice of a Spouse shapes your future until you get married. Your choice of a spouse actually determines a lot of your future. Don’t choose with your hormones.
I’ve always said the two most powerful organs the heart and the mind, don’t ever give anyone the control of those two because they will hurt you.
In fact prior to marriage, is this person fit to be the mother of my children? Is this person fit to be a father to the children I expect to have? Will they be a role model? – Mufti Menk
None of us are the same even in our thinking. We won’t think the same so, why did Allah make us different? Why do I think differently? You might be married to a person who doesn’t like everything you like. In fact, it will be it has to be it must be, subhanallah. Why have you thought of it?
It’s part of the plan of Allah. He wants us to master the art of living with difference of opinion with differences in our likes and dislike.
Even if you are born of one mother and one father look at the evidence from the time of Abel and Cain, from the time of Adam and Eve, may Allah bless them.
Small issues today and what do we do? It starts off in the heart, we become abusive. We start belittling. We start making people feel inferior. We say words that are hurtful. We say words that are harmful. We say abusive, vulgar words. Do you really think that you’re going to go far by saying these bad things? You have actually lost the plot even if you are making six Salah a day, you’re going nowhere.
Learn to be the best human being you can take a look at the globe, we are suffering simply because we want to impose our own thinking on the rest of the world. That’s why we are struggling. You, don’t do that.
And that does not mean you water down your own opinion. When I’m a Muslim, I will remain Muslim. I will believe what’s right and wrong based on my convictions. But how will I treat someone who disagrees with me? That is something we don’t know and we’re lacking and to me that’s one of the biggest reasons why we are at War today. Not only with the globe but even amongst ourselves.
You should be yourself unique, you don’t compromise your faith what you believe is right. You don’t compromise that. That doesn’t mean you have to belittle someone Else who has thought differently, who’s used the brain Allah gave them to arrive at a conclusion that you consider wrong.
You have to address people with respect from the very beginning. We were taught that as humankind and thereafter as the ummah of the one who was sent as a mercy to the rest, SubhanAllah, salallahu alaihe wasalam.
Do you Shout, Scream, yell, abusive, this that in your house? You don’t qualify. It’s not a house or a home. It’s just a dwelling.
When you qualify you will have a much better home. Subhanallah, you’re going to have a beautiful environment in that house. You will know how to speak, how to address people, how to tackle difference of opinion and so on.
We don’t even know how to talk to our own spouses. We have such a big disease as Muslims. I promise you, that when a divorce happens, it’s like the end of the world, go to the non-muslims and learn from them.
You have to have a big heart. You have to understand the children belong to both and fulfil their rights.
Trust me. We need to create an environment, we need to create an environment of respect of Love, of dignity.
Young man came to the prophet Peace be upon him He says o messenger give me advice the messenger peace be upon him told him don’t get angry.
We all need that advice because we get angry. When things don’t happen your way and you can calm down, you’re a true follower of that messenger Peace be upon him. You deserve his Intersession on the Day of Judgment. May Allah granted to us.
My brothers and sisters we get angry very fast when something in the home doesn’t happen, whether it’s the child or a spouse or a parent or a sibling, we could so upset us… and how we start venting bad words. And the Hadith is a True Believernever uses an abusive word.
You want Jannah, subhanallah tolerate the heat of the Dunya heat of the fire of jahannam. That to be considered the correct Muslim you must be disciplined, you have to be disciplined. If you’re not disciplined you’re going nowhere.
We belong to different sects as Muslims. How do we treat each other? simple your ego. Throw it out. Come out and say I’m sorry because the day will come when the almighty may not forgive you, subhanallah. – Mufti Menk
The All-Loving 