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Be Careful! Don’t Let Religious Fanatics Brainwash You | Important Youth Reminders | Mufti Menk

I am a Muslim. I believe in Allah. He is the only one worthy of worship. We heard that I believe that Muhammad peace be upon Him is the final messenger of Allah. I believe that whatever was revealed is absolute and is final and I believe that I will stick to it as best as I can until I meet with Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam on the pond known as al kawthar by the Will of Allah in order to achieve jannatul firdaus.

My brothers and sisters that does not negate the fact that I need to be kind to the rest of humanity. It does not negate the fact that there are people who disagree with me. There are people who have chosen other faiths.

One of the challenges we face as youth is we become very impatient when people differ with us. We are responsible to carry the flag of goodness, to carry the flag of Deen. We are also responsible to reach out to the other creatures of Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala starting with mankind.

When we leave this earth, it’s our duty to have left it in a better way. How will we be able to lead  When we have not even set our own morals and values upon a high standard? My duty is not to spew hate. some people use this verse in order to spew hate and to hurl abuse at those  who don’t agree with them and they say you know, what, there is something known as Al-wala’ wa-l-bara’, we have to harm everyone who disagrees with us. That’s not the meaning of the term Al-wala’ wa-l-bara’ .

We love everything to do with Allah and we dislike that which is sinful indeed. You need to know uphold the peace, stability, security of your families, your communities, your Nations and the globe at large.

We can respectfully disagree and keep the disagreement exactly where it is Subhanallah.

All people are the creatures of Allah if they turn because of an effort that you’ve made towards the right path, towards the path Of goodness, then you have earned a great reward.

But today we are being brainwashed into believing that everyone on Earth is our enemy. That’s it is just me and my small little group. We are less tolerant of each other.

The beginning of disaster is when things bubble in the background and you don’t deal with them. You have to be smart enough to know what is bubbling in the background and deal with it.

People are using religion because the world is fed up. I promise you there is so much disaster, so much crime, so much of sin, so much of hardship, so much of poverty, so much of you know, so many disasters that are happening, drought and whatever else, people are fed up and that’s why they are turning towards Faith. As they’re turning towards faith in the Almighty, Sadly, There are people of religion who are seizing that opportunity to come and con the people to say, now that you’re a Godly person. You need to become violent in order to please that God.

It’s a crisis were facing in the youth. Don’t let anyone brainwash you in that regard.

There are problems in the ummah. We know what the problems are. The way we are being or some of the people are being taught to solve those problems is by creating 10 more problems that did not exist. Don’t solve it in a way that will create a bigger problem.

There is a small percentage of evil among the Muslims. Those who are perpetrating crime, small percentage but I tell you what? Because the media has put it out there, don’t you agree that we are all looked at as bad people?

If you carry yourself with utmost respect and you are identified as a Muslim, you will change that narrative people will say no. No, I know Muslims personally. They love their kind. The majority of them are so helpful. They are so courteous.

Each time a crime  is perpetrated anywhere in the world where people are being killed, subhanallah in the name of Islam, We all pay a price and we are not even a part of it. We don’t even agree.

There are some really really good people in all nationalities and in all Races and even in all faiths and religions. We’re all human beings. Every one of us is supposed to be honest and upright. In fact, the Muslims more so.- Mufti Menk

Beauty of The Quran, Transforming Life

I Just Gave Her A Hug & She Burst Out Crying On My Shoulder | Amazing Story From A Niqabi Sister

I had to share something really beautiful that just happened I left the Quran classes at pgcc (Pillars ofGuidance Community Centre) and I came to Chloé to do some shopping, who helped while I was shopping. This lady actually asked me to get out because she said that how could you ever be allowed in this place with the thing (Niqab) on your face?

And it was amazing because she had so much hate in her Eyes, and she wanted to kill me if she could and I said, excuse me! What makes you think that you’re the one who can decide who comes in here and who doesn’t and she said no, you should not be allowed anywhere in public places in Australia with the thing (niqab) on your face. I don’t know what got into me.

I said sister Can I please give you a hug? and I just gave her a hug and I hugged her and subhanallah. It was amazing how she just burst out crying on my shoulder.

Then I just lifted up my niqab and I told her sister. I’m not doing this out of Oppression. I’m doing this out of my own choice and she started crying even more and I said, why do you …why are you so upset and she said because I just saw a documentary this morning about how Muslim women are forced and oppressed to wear the hijab and the thing (niqab) on your face and they’re raped and things like that.

I said, that’s exactly why you have so much hate because you are watching these things on the media and you believe what you see on the media.

Subhanallah … she had a completely different picture of us… Of Muslim women and she apologized to me. She hugged me she was so happy, SubhanAllah,

My reason of telling you guys this is it’s amazing.

What Akhlaq (the practice of virtue, morality and manners as highlighted in the Islamic teaching) can do…. It’s absolutely amazing what just a hug and just a smile can do.

I said; sister Can I please give you a hug? And I just gave her a hug. Subhanallah,  It was amazing how she just burst out crying on my shoulder. Have a good Akhlaq (the practice of virtue, morality and manners as highlighted in the Islamic teaching) you’ll conquer the world with that.

Family, Islamic

Excited For Intimate Video With Phone Online! Don’t Be Embarrassed Later | A Sister’Story | Mufti Menk

The globe today we are facing challenges where so many ideas, So many ideas are floating around online and on the net. As so many ideas, some of them are good ideas and a lot of them are just a waste of time. Many of them would lead us astray completely.

It’s up to you to pick up what is beneficial and what is not, you know, you see a video that is totally fake. It’s totally fake and you get so excited and pretend like it’s so true and by you believing it’s true you want to actually wipe out one whole category of society and later on when it’s too late you find out that was a fake. Have you ever come across something called deep fake videos?

Be careful. There is too much happening now and our children are exposed to much more than we were exposed. Communications have become such that you can be conned.

Don’t get excited. Anything you’ve ever done on your phone is retrievable. For every technology there is a counter technology, do not be fooled.

Remember, you might be on your own, don’t do something with your phone that you would be embarrassed the day the whole world found out what they was there. Don’t do that which is embarrassing With your phone, if you’re having a video call keep it proper.

People ask fatwas; Look my wife is far away. You know, I’m far away. Can we have a nude video call? From a religious perspective there is awrah, obviously there is an element of respect. Although there may be permissibility because the two of you are married, but you know what? There could be a third party and are in a lot of cases a third party, Somehow someway there was going to get involved in. you might just find that video one day somewhere a person will tell you I saw it on a porn site. It happened,

wallahi it has happened. People become suicidal, be careful. You will pay the price of it. Just learn to hold back a little bit know, you want to do things, not everything needs to happen with the phone. You don’t have to record, At every single moment of yours, the intimate moments keep them as a memory in your mind.

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Oh My Gosh! Same Typical Husband In Jannah | What Will We Get Muslim Women | Mufti Menk

Jannah/ Pardise is not something that I can say…..what if I’m going there I’m going to make sure you’re not there. That’s not how it works.

Because in this Dunya, we have a power struggle in the world. When it comes to Paradise you make dua for others to earn Paradise, the Angels make that dua for you;  you ask Allah to Grant the others Paradise and  Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala May grant that to you as a result of your prayer for others. May Allah make us people who are generous.

This world Sometimes people have small problems and because Of the problem you said, you this person has really troubled me. I just wish there not in Jannah. What guarantee do you have, you going to be in Jannah?

What if they are making dua to say o Allah this person has hassled me a lot. Let us get to Jannah because I know that in Jannah they won’t hassle. Wow! What a nice way of looking at it. So people start asking, you know, what will I have remember in the process of the discussion of what you are going to actually have a lot of the times we lose focus of actually getting there.

A huge debate like a storm in a teacup. Men will have this, so, what will women have? hang on! we are losing focus, understand the main aim is to get there.  Speaking of Jannah /Jannah, Allah says  in it whatever a soul desires, that soul shall have. – Mufti Menk

Beauty of The Quran, Important Duas / Supplications, Islam, Shaykh Ali Hammuda, Trials and tribulations

Make This Dua If You Are Fallen Into Rivers Of Hardship | How Allah (Swt) Raises Us Under His Eye ~ Shaykh Ali Hammuda

Moses/ Musa (A.S) was chosen by Allah for many characteristics one of which is the fact that he was not afraid to acknowledge his errors and these by the way they wouldn’t be the only examples of how Musa (A.S) retreated to what is right.

Musa (A.S), he threw the Scriptures that Allah had given him just from anger and just shock he just threw the scriptures on the ground and he grabbed his older brother by his hair and by his beard although his brother was older than Musa (A.S) and he began dragging him. Prophet Haroon (A.S) pleaded with Musa (A.S) explaining to him that it’s not his fault.

Moses heart broke to the truth, acknowledged his mistake, repented to Allah and made this following dua:

قَالَ رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي وَلِأَخِي وَأَدْخِلْنَا فِي رَحْمَتِكَ ۖ وَأَنتَ أَرْحَمُ الرَّاحِمِينَ

“[Moses] said, ‘My Lord, forgive me and my brother and admit us into Your mercy, for You are the most merciful of the merciful.’” (Quran, 7:151)

He would pick up the scrolls from the floor that he threw and that was the end of the problem, see brother sister a sign that Allah has chosen you for Himself and is preparing you for Himself is that your heart falls into submission whenever it hears the term this is halal, this is Haram, this is doubtful. This is not ours, this is not from our Ummah. This is the obligation  this is the prohibition, your heart submits when you are advised with good manners and with evidence, you rush to make amendments to your relationships, your secret habits, your secret conversations, your business dealings even if they are enormous, your manners, your physical appearance, your dress code, your social media, you submit to the  truth.

Another one of the hallmarks in the life of prophet Musa (A.s) that made him a person who was qualified to be prepared by Allah for Allah was his patience.

Our prophet (saw) would console himself sometimes with the difficult circumstances by remembering the Sira of prophet Musa (A.s).

Remember that above the universe is a Lord who is watching and A Lord who is allowing matters to unfold in the ways which they are. But why are we experiencing this worldwide trial? the answer is in the story that you just heard.

 

So we have just understood that for those who Allah loves, they may come hand in hand, love of Allah and test they may come hand in hand, this is how we must see our difficult situation as Muslims today. As Allah said to Moosa (A.S) in order that you may be brought up under My eye. We are being brought back to our senses as Muslims. Allah is raising us under His eye. Our hardships, as Muslims undoubtedly they are like none other. But why? Because the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said about you said about us. He said you are the last of 70 nations which Allah has created. however you are the greatest and most honourable of these nations in the sight of Allah (swt).

Moses (a.s) was being prepared for greatness and this Ummah is being prepared for greatness and so we will have to experience the exact same process that prophet Musa (A.s) underwent. But the shore for Musa (A.s) was near and our Shore is just as near as well. Allah said has full power and control will over his affairs but most people they don’t know. – Shaykh Ali Hammuda

Islam

Reasons Why My Son/Daughter Not Listen To Me Regarding Marriage | Small Israfil Blew A Little Trumpet ~Mufti Menk

Beloved parents the children are known in Islam as an Amana. Amana means a trust. You know what the trust means; the one who gave you the trust will instruct you what to do with the trust and you are not allowed to do anything but what the true owner want you to do. Children they belong to Allah, Allah tells you what you are allowed to do, what you’re not allowed to do and you have to do what Allah allows you only. if you do anything more than that you are at a loss.

When I have a child what should I do to the child? I should only do what Allah has allowed me to do.

If you had a powerful relationship with your child from the beginning the child will not make big decisions without you.

They are too scared to approach the parents and when they approach the parents there is Qiyamah in the house. Small Israfil blew a little trumpet in the house. Why? Because there was a breakdown of communication. you have failed as parents and they have not been guided as children.

Allah says make it as easy as possible and remember the child means to want to marry who they are marrying. That’s the primary condition.

If you had communication with the child and cooperation with the child and love with the child and you spent time on with the children rather than with your phone etc etc you would be able to manage the child’s life with the pleasure of the child

If your child has taken something seriously in his or her heart and you don’t help them in a proper respectful respectable convincing way, they’re going to live with a scar for the rest of their lives.

If you had a powerful relationship with your child from the beginning the child will not make big decisions without you. We should guide our kids. When you’re marrying, you’re actually looking for the father or mother of your children, they should have good qualities.

For your information Affairs have been made easier than getting married because we have turned away from the deen. ~ Mufti Menk

Family, Islam, Mufti Menk, Transforming Life

Character Litmus Test Question & Answer | How To Know About Yourself | Never Forget ~Mufti Menk

Every single one of us has been created in a way that we need the help of others in order to survive. Have you thought of that? Nobody is absolutely independent/ although; yes, we are dependent upon Allah and Allah alone to fulfill our needs but Allah requires and He sends to us those who will help us fulfill those needs. It doesn’t mean it’s not from Allah.

No matter, what? We need Allah definitely but together with that the plan of Allah includes the fact that we need each other.

The Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him says the Almighty will continue helping His slave as long as that slave continues to help another. Amazing!

You are just a number. That’s it. Don’t ever think that you’re better than the people you are speaking to and don’t ever think that you’re higher than anyone else because if that’s the case you will never be able to reach their hearts. Speak as though they are better than you. You just need to get a message to them.

We complain more than what we used to, when we did not have. Because that’s how materialism works, when you run behind the dunya guess what? It always runs faster than you. subhanAllah, you can never catch up.

When I came into this world I was naked, I had zero, and so whatever I have today is more than what I had the day I was born. That’s it that’s my motivation.

You want to know who is the closest to Allah. It is the person who has the most beautiful character. Your closeness to Allah is very closely reflected in your character. Those who are harsh and hard-hearted they cannot be close to Allah.

If you want to know the type of person you are, if you want to know more about yourself, your character, if you would like to know where do I fit in, there is a test- litmus tests, can test yourself, ask yourself, one question, the answer of it will tell you who you actually are? What’s the question?

The person whom the world considers, the lowest whom the world considers most insignificant, whom the world considers almost irrelevant, how you treat that person will determine who you are.

All those whom the world considers insignificant you should never consider them insignificant. It’s your test.

A lot of the people don’t want your money, they need you to just be kind be. — Mufti Menk

Marriage, Mufti Menk

The Most Difficult Part Of A Marriage | A warning Of Prophet Muhammed’(ﷺ) From His Deathbed | Mufti Menk

Don’t underestimate the value and the power of dua. Dua can actually get for you something you might have thought was impossible. But there is nothing impossible for allah. The biggest gift that you and I could give the bride and the groom is actually a du’a more than anything else.

The easiest part of any marriage is its Officiation.  The most difficult part is after that. Where the rights come into play, you have to live with each other. You’ve been brought up in absolutely different homes to the degree that if you were brought up in a similar home or the same home you would not be allowed to get married if you were Mahram.

One of the sacrifices that allah subhanahu wa ta’ala wants you to make is to be able to adjust to be able to fulfill the rights upon. The deathbed of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he got up and said something. He said I’m warning you about your treatment of women.

The most difficult part of a marriage is to be able to adjust, to be able to sacrifice, to be able to not only develop the trust with one another but to abstain from that which might cause blemish in the trust.

You want something to go right? Both of you have to make an effort. If both don’t make an effort it will go wrong.  So, we must develop ourselves, we must develop our character. A good happy marriage is based on trust. It’s based on sacrifice and communication but over and above that the relationship with Allah.

t-Tawakkul ‘ala Allah is the cornerstone of a happy marriage. If your aim is the pleasure of Allah and your spouse’s aim is the pleasure of Allah and you have develop your your character and your conduct, what can go wrong in that marriage?

Another very interesting point that is mentioned in the verses of nikkah is the issue of the tongue. To use your tongue in the straightway, in the best possible way, speak properly. Don’t say bad words, hurtful words, don’t cause hurt and abuse. Allah says, watch your tongue. It’s one of the things you can do to earn the pleasure of Allah, to protect your deeds and to forgive to achieve the forgiveness of these sins, more so within marriage. 90 or more percent of problems within marriage are connected to the tongue.

The prophet (saw) says the hadith says the best from amongst you is the one who is best to his wife. The one who is best to his own family that’s where charity begins… Charity begins at that point. – Mufti Menk

PROPHET MUHAMMAD (pbuh), Sheikh Omar Suleiman

A Good Ending! Learn From Celebrity Deaths | Who Are The Wisest Believers ~ Shaykh Omar Suleiman

The prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that be frequent in remembering the destroyer of pleasures “death”. he said sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam and this is a hadith from Ibn Omar (Ra) that  a man came to the prophet (saw), he said which of  that a man came to the prophet (saw), he said which of  who’s the best of the believers? He said the one who has the best character and then he said in which of them is the wisest the prophet (saw) said that the wisest amongst them are those that remember death frequently and are the best at preparing for it.

They put death in front of them and they craft their life accordingly. They don’t get deflated; depressed by it, manage it unhealthily. They used that thought of the janazah and they craft their entire life in accordance with that janazah. How do I want to meet my lord? Everything goes from that.

Remember the most important relationship is your relationship with your Lord and you have to ask yourself which you’ve prepared for your meeting with him.

That’s what made Muhammad Ali so great (rah) the greatest athlete and one of the greatest people that this country knew. He said God doesn’t care if I beat Joe Frazier. God wants to see if what I’m going to do in this life to get to heaven. That’s what God cares about.

So what’s your own legacy? What’s your own book look like? What will you leave for people to pray for you in this life? What will you take with you for Allah and the Angels to pray upon you in the hereafter……….

Don’t say things today that you’re gonna have to apologize for tomorrow.  You know on all the tributes pouring out after the death of Kobe Bryant and people talking about. Death can snatch you  away from people just [a snap] like that  do you really want the last thing to be between you and someone that’s beloved to you and important to you a fight or a feud? Squash those grudges.

Finally the prophet (saw) said, don’t long for what other people possess.

What are we doing with our own priorities? What are we really longing for? What are we aiming for? That’s a lesson for all of us to take.

We ask Allah subhana WA Ta’ala to make the end of our lives the best of them. We ask Allah subhana WA Ta’ala grant us a good ending, a good death.

Beauty of The Quran, Islam, Mufti Menk, Transforming Life

Why We Have Differences! First Chaos On Earth By Cain/Kane | Why We Are Failing ~ Mufti Menk

From the very beginning Adam alayhis-salam he had children. Every one of them had a different brain capacity. They thought  differently. They understood at different levels. Every one of them had a different eye ray, a different thumb print, a different identity, a different face, a different complexion etc, that is Allah.

This is the creation of Allah. Every one of us is totally and absolutely unique not only human beings but also every creature. No two will be exactly the same that is the creation of the Creator.

Naturally because we think differently. We will have differences. The first difference that Allah makes mention of right at the beginning in the same children of Adam, first generation of human beings. The story of the two sons of Adam they were both sons from different wombs but they were brothers, recite to them the story when they sacrificed something for the sake of Allah it was accepted from one of them and rejected from the other. so the one whom it was rejected from jealous look at the understanding, look at the brain capacity, look at the way he looked at things and he told him I will kill you.

look at what Qabil did Qabil is the name of the killer in the English language came the name Cain /kane is used Qabil, one of the sons of Adam, he was the son of the first of the creatures of Allah loved by Allah, adam alayhis-salam and Eve they were loved by Allah, Allah chose him to be the first our grandfather, the great great grandfather subhanAllah, he is the connection through which we are all brothers and sisters by the will of Allah. Allah (swt) tells us the story not for nothing for us to learn a lesson, Qabil comes about you know what he does? He decides I’m going to kill my brother. The brother is Habil, Habil in the English language Abel, so one is Cain /Kane, he is the killer and one is abel, he is the one who was killed, ok. What did Habil say to his brother just before he was killed?

It’s a very powerful statement that Allah mentions in the Quran Allah says the brother told his brother oh my brother, remember the brother just threatened to kill him right? oh my brother, if you are going to extend your arm to kill me I want to tell you I’m not going to extend my arm to kill you. because I fear Allah, i am conscious of Allah, who is lord of the worlds, I know. I don’t want to destroy my relationship with Allah by risking killing you.

Today people kill anyone and everyone in the name of the same Allah whom Allah says to us when Habil was making the statement he said I fear Allah who is Lord of the Worlds that’s why I’m not going to kill you. But today we kill the people thinking that we fear Allah. You see where we have gone upside down here and we use all sorts of different evidences to prove our point,

We are all creatures of Allah.  You’re a true mumin, you believe in Allah if you believe in Allah you will believe that the same Allah who made you, made them. And if you believe in Allah and you want Allah to love you, you will love what Allah created and you will want goodness for those you will want goodness.

Allah (swt) from that story has taught us that there will be differences if you deal with these differences wrongly, you will destroy yourselves and you will regret.

Allah says because of that we prescribed that you know what? Whoever is going to kill some innocent soul, whoever is going to cause that is equivalent to the one who has destroyed entire humanity and if you save one life that person is equivalent in reward and in good deed similar to he or she who has saved entire humanity.

No matter, how much I differ with you, I need to make sure that I respect the fact that you are a human being and that Allah gave you life. I differ. I am to respect the person’s life does not mean you agree with them.

May we be respectful to one another even though we may disagree. When you disagree very strongly with someone that is not reason to disrespect the fact that they are human beings and they are owed the right as human beings for you to respect that life. – Mufti Menk