In this lecture #MuftiMenk explains the fiqh of courtship and #marriage.We know that character conduct and deen, the deen meaning the level of religion; the level of character; the level of conduct etc; the level of responsibility is also included in that person is responsible with great character and conduct and they know their duty unto Allah because of that responsibility mashallah they are fit to be married but you need to look at them.
Mufti Menk Quotes in this lecture “You don’t have to have a huge engagement whereby you know people are getting bank loans and borrowing because they want to compete with the who’s who in order to show the world that we’ve had a very big engagement; no, those that waste wealth; they are void of Baraka; they’re void of blessings. What is an engagement in Islam- at the point where both the boy and the girl are happy the parents announced that inshallah we have now set a date of Nika. Don’t let that date be two years from now because in those two years Shaitaan will come and spoil the sowing be sown of the seed in a halal way by making it be sown in a Haram way”.
#MuftiMenk enlightens the #rights of the #husband and #wife and the general #etiquettes of the #relationship from the Book “SEXUAL RELATIONS AND MARRIED LIFE” by Maulana Musa Karmadi. These rights help to eliminate disputes in #matrimonial home and enhance trust between a husband and a wife to lead a happy #marriage with utmost #love and #affection in this lecture.
Mufti Menk makes mention of “She must try to fit into the family rather than coming in and making everything change overnight for her sake. Though the wife is entitled to a certain degree of privacy, she must understand that whenever there are a few women who get together and several children then not everything will be done according to one’s desire and liking. There will have to be certain differences and certain things that one will disagree with totally. It is advised to bear patience and exercise tolerance employ the most affectionate effective ways of putting forward our views and points, this does not have to be done immediately but over a period of time using tact and intellect. It is easier to maintain a good relationship than to mend a broken one…”
#MuftiMenk makes mentions of as a believing #female or a believing #male when your #spouse has done something wrong (#mistake), you need to sit and seek Allah’s forgiveness to begin with. Both of you ask Allah’s forgiveness when He forgives you and your slate is clean you will be able to think properly and extend your hand if they show a speck of #remorse in this clip.
Mufti Menk quotes in this clip “With your own spouse someone whom you took into your relationship, the most intimate relationship that they could be with the name of Allah you took that person and you hold every droplet of what they did against them; you have a sickness of doubt against your husband, against your wife; every small call, every small movement, every movement of the eye, every time they leave the house; that’s it he’s committing sin, she’s committing sin if that’s your attitude trust me you never be able to lead a life; it’s not going to happen.”
In this lecture #MuftiMenk describes how it is important to #acknowledge, #appreciate and give moral supports to one’s #wife during her #pregnancy or #labour and after giving birth of child to build the future #Ummah up by following the sunnah. Mufti adds that in our excitement we forget to thank Allah, we forget to call out to Allah. so make yourself available try and be there to give her that moral support most #women that’s all they want.
Mufti Menk quotes in this lecture, “But get married and you every single one of us will realise that there are differences that you need to adjust in order to be able to appreciate; you will never be able to lead a happy married life if you don’t adjust and that adjustment comes with a lot of humbleness.”
This motivational content is created from the lecture of Mufti Menk and Sheikh Tawfique Chowdhury regarding How to deal the situation when a calamity strikes like going through divorce more than one, keep failing to get a job or suffering loss in a business .
#MuftiMenk makes mention of when a problem happens it’s not the end of the world but even if it was the end of the world who would you return to to Allah. So you say Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un; what’s happening you are doing something wrong, don’t react in that way the what’s happening you are doing something wrong, don’t react in that way the reaction of giving up #hope is not part of the dictionary of a mumin. A believer does not give up hope.
Sheikh Tawfique Chowdhury gives a powerful speech on how tawakkul (the Islamic concept of reliance on God or “trusting in God’s plan”) makes a believer strong on the earth with taking action little bit beyond his/ her means when none is helping him / her in this duynia (the world).
In this Jummah (Friday’s sermon) lecture #MuftiMenk points out some crucial matters why #Marriage #breaks and he gives some practical tips to save marriage as remedies for uprooting the problems in marriages.
To speak about how to resolve #problems in #relationship #MuftiMenk brings forward some points like selecting spouse before marriage, communication and the aim of husband and wife is the pleasure of Allah with view to achieving jannatul ferdous, automatically minimise the problems in relationship to understand the value of spouse.
“Religious blackmail to come up with something to tell their spouse well if you don’t do this you know Allah is gonna punish you and Allah is gonna do this and so when we talk of bringing Allah in the equation let’s be fair, let’s be very fair; you want Allah in the equation, Allah must be in the equation for both of us and we must be able to develop a relationship with Allah such that we realize who is this person and what is this relationship” – Mufti Menk