Category: Mufti Menk

Marriage, Mufti Menk

Holding Back That Talaq! Nullification of Marriage / Divorce By Women In Islam~Mufti Menk | Goosebumps Reminder

Increasingly people are becoming unhappy with their marriages. We need to try and resolve your matters, try and solve your problems. If you’re not going to be prepared to try and solve the matter, you’re not going to get anywhere.

I’ve been dealing with cases where the men are becoming greedy sometimes such that they don’t want to live with their wives because they’re either having an affair or they’re either leading some form of a dark life or they simply don’t like the wife anymore, they neither share intimate moments with them. They probably sleep separately with them. In a lot of cases and they don’t want to divorce them and they don’t want to do anything about it, they neither want to release them nor do they want to keep them properly. This is prohibited. the Quran says that you should not leave a person muAAallaqa, muAAallaqa meaning she’s hanging, neither can she say she’s married because the guy is not even behaving like a husband and there’s no rights being fulfilled nor she says she’s divorced because she doesn’t have the divorce.

So in that case normally the scholars are to come in and to resolve the matter. If need be they can nullify that marriage.

Some greedy men have gone away with the belongings of their wives. They go away with the belongings of their wives. My brothers, my sisters that mahr is owed to the woman. It is owed to her. It’s her right, if you don’t give it to her Allah will take it from you through sickness, through accidents, through some form of disaster that money is not yours. Allah will take it from you. So rather give it like a good boy. Allah does not leave people to oppress others. He gives you a chance to resolve the matter. That chance differs from person to person, the length of it.

If you release her, release her with honor, that’s the sign of a Muslim. Don’t involve your kids in the mess. it will stunt their growth.

When we think we’re holy but Allah tests you with things that are tough for you. You got to, throw your ego aside, throw it aside and do what’s right. You holding somebody’s money throw your ego give it. you’re holding somebody’s property, throw your ego, give it you don’t throw your ego, you’re going to pay a price for it and I’m not mincing my words you will pay and that payment will be very very heavy remember this.

Don’t talk bad about people after the divorce. It’s over. You didn’t get along with him someone else would get along with them. Control your anger, your temper, say good words, can’t you be a lovely person.

How can you steal the mahr of your wife how?  What do you think Allah was going to do when Allah says in surahtul surah mujadilah; Allah says Allah has heard the one who is discussing with you or who is complaining to you about her husband, complaining to Allah (swt). Allah make it easy because we need to be human beings come on you should learn to love people and to care for them and to care for even those you dislike. Treat others the way you would like to be treated. One of the qualities of the wealthiest of people is that he or she can forgive, forgive, don’t hold it in your heart.

So let’s learn to release people or break… if we are going to break a relationship or a marriage or whatever else it should happen with honor and dignity with respect bearing in mind that when we came together, we came together with the name of Allah, many times when divorces happen people show their true colors and you cannot believe that you were actually married into this family.  you want to see someone’s true colors, check what happens when things don’t go their way. – Mufti Menk

Beauty of The Quran, Islam, Mufti Menk

How The Quran Is Proven Correct Over Time – Mufti Menk

There are four things when Allah wants to create is one thing. He says be and it is, that’s a second thing. Then He says He owns it because He made it. The fourth thing is going to come back to Him.

The almighty has promised us that He won’t just tell us to do and not to do things randomly. There will always be a deeper purpose whether you understand it or don’t is beside the point. He says I will tell you what to do and what not to do. Allah says that in the Quran when He has laid instruction it’s never to create difficulty for you.

It might be difficult for a moment but long term you will definitely see the fruit of following the instruction of the Almighty. So the doubts that are created in the minds of the people are cleared when you understand who your Maker is. When you realize what revelation is all about.

Look at how science and technology and all these researchers keep changing their findings over time. Allah subhana wa ta’ala is telling us the sun moves to a certain extent. There was a time when people said impossible. The earth moves. When technology and science denied it completely people began to find fault in the revelation and said Revelation is wrong. Generations’ later people had to admit though the Sun moves but very little. Allah didn’t say how much it moves. He just said it moves.

Therefore ultimately Allah says something amazing in the Quran. We will show them and continue to show them signs within the horizons and in themselves, we will continue to show them more and more signs as the times pass that will prove to them ultimately that the Quran is the truth, subhanAllah.

we have already seen from the very beginning, the time of Muhammad (ﷺ)that those who felt this was wrong and that was wrong over time. they were found to be wrong but the Quran was right. – Mufti Menk

Family, Mufti Menk

Mashallah! Upgraded With Eight Girls [Super Excited]~ Mufti Menk

When a child is born we thank Allah. We want the child to be healthy. Whether you have a male child or a female child, thank Allah.

Mashallah, we upgraded with eight girls and I’m super excited to mention it here because I am so happy and I’m super excited to mention it here because I am so happy that Allah blessed us with a favour He says you have girls you get Jannah. By the way it doesn’t mean you have boys you go to Jahannam.

Be happy with whatever Allah has given you girls, they are girls. They are boys, they are boys, Alhamdullah. They are boys and girls Alhamdulillah.

Neither boy nor girl Allah knows why He has saved you from something traumatic. How many people have children and they say I wish I didn’t have these kids because of the torment that some of them make their parents go through. May Allah forbid and may Allah protect us and our children from that type of behaviour, Ameen. So be thankful to Allah- Mufti Menk

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Salah Allah Never Goes On Holiday ~ Mufti Menk

We belong to Allah and ultimately, we’re all going not just this person who passed away, now but all of us are going back to where we came from SubhanAllah.

Allah says from that dust We created you, you’re going to go back into the dust and We’re going to resurrect you thereafter from there once again. But shaitaan distracts us. From even thinking about it…

So, the majority on earth perhaps would not really be so concerned about where they came from, where they’re going but those who know they know. They think about it.

Contentment comes by discipline, you get up at a certain time, you only eat certain things. You only drink certain things. You will sleep at a certain time. You will behave in a certain way. You will be focused, perhaps you will be focused obviously certain things, you will not do certain things you will do… that’s Islam. Islam is discipline. You want to achieve in any field; you need to be disciplined. That’s where the rules and regulations come from subhanAllah.

What Shaitaan does is he distracts you from the obligations. So let’s say take Salah as an example, so you know you got to do it. You want to do it. You really feel that you’re gonna do it. But you know what? You’re on holiday, man….

Don’t be distracted By Shaitaan, Allah never goes on holiday. the days of happiness in Islam if you notice carefully you’ve got an extra act of worship on those days. salatul eid isn’t that an extra prayer! subhanAllah

Because ultimately you’re going to return to the one who made you, take something with you. take ..give Him an excuse to forgive you. Allah is looking for an excuse to forgive us. So don’t fall in the trap of the devil. – Mufti Menk

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One Of The Worst Questions To A Married Couple – Mufti Menk

Children are a gift from Allah but they can also be a source of stress and distress. so when Allah has given you children, thank Him and ask Him to help you to raise them. When Allah has not given you children, thank Him and be reassured that He has protected you from something or He knows something that you don’t know. That’s why He did not give you the child.

You know what is one of the worst questions, you can ever ask a married couple? When are you going to have children? That’s a very bad question. You know why? In a lot of cases it’s not even in their hands. They want to have the children but they cannot.

Infertility is increasing on the global level. I don’t know if you are aware of that.

Pray for people rather than asking a question that will bring tears to the eyes of the couple or at least the woman. May Allah grant us ease.

And then people start looking and saying I know the problem is with her not with him. How do you know? Even if they told you I know of a sister whom.. They don’t have children and the issue is with the husband but she takes the blame for that man, subhanAllah. She says no, no, it is an issue with me.

I say look at this she wants the honor for that man who would do that? I want to say something controversial. I don’t think many men would take blame for their women.

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How To Clear Your Doubts Do I Have Wudu Or Not~Mufti Menk

Shaitaan, when he cannot make you desert your prayer do you know what he does? He actually then makes you doubt your prayer and there are stages, I can quickly mention them. He first tries to make you not pray. ……

That wudu, you know the tap, it’s gonna be too cold and the water any excuse……

one of the devil’s plans to make you delay what you’re supposed to do so that you rush it or you end up not doing it as a result of the delay yet you intended to do it …..

He starts making you doubt, some people do I have wudu? Do I not have wudu? Trust me the last thing on your mind is valid. Allah doesn’t mean the fact that you are making wudu but you need it to fulfill the prayer.

People say I have very bad dreams. I say well you know you should try and do wudu before you sleep.

You don’t start doubting… don’t worry. The fact that you’ve tried to fulfill your prayer in the best possible way you could have. It’s accepted. Allah will not hold against you.for example if a person comes up and says do I have wudu or don’t I have wudu the hadith says well the last thing you can remember doing is valid.

If in the knowledge of Allah which you don’t know and may never know, If Allah knows that you didn’t really have wudu, he doesn’t mind at that juncture and he will still never hold it against you because you followed the other rule. The rule was whatever you remember last, la illah illa allah.

Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala knows none of us has a perfect salah, not a single one of us has an absolutely perfect salah but he also knows that we will all try our best. He will accept it from us just by the trial.

Don’t allow Shaitaan to make you doubt your good deed after you did it but don’t allow him to make you destroy it by harming others. – Mufti Menk

Family, Marriage, Mufti Menk

Why Marriages Go Wrong & Its Prevention [Powerful] ~ Mufti Menk

Differences are normal. You love your spouse. You will differ with your spouse. You love your children, your parents, your siblings whoever you love, you will never think exactly the same. There might be a little bit of common factor in thought but never 100% the same. That’s how the almighty made you. It’s how you deal with the difference that distinguishes the donkey from the horse.

That’s what distinguishes the one who is closer to the Almighty from the one who’s not. The way you react, the way you use your mind and the way your words come out it requires discipline. That will make you the best of people. Are you ready to speak with utmost respect in your home to begin with, refer to your loved ones as loved ones even if you had a difference?

Tell them how much you love them. the problem with us when things go wrong we open our mouths and we haven’t realized for 19 years things were going right.

The world is such today that people get married without knowing why they’re getting married. They don’t know what marriage is they’re coming together. The biggest sacrifice, that’s what marriage is.

But now it is very sadly and unfortunately the rate of divorce is so high? Can I tell you one of the reasons? When we get married and we don’t watch our tongues, things begin to go wrong because you didn’t watch your mouth and the Almighty warned you at the beginning when you were getting married watch your tongue.

We are not romantic enough but romance is being shown to those besides the one whom it is supposed to be shown to that I love you and the beautiful emoticons and emojis that are continuously being created on platforms that are increasing on a daily basis, all sent beautifully a thousand times mashallah but to the wrong number. That’s where we’re going wrong. If you had to send one tenth of those to the person they were supposed to go to you’d be having walima the following day la illah illa allah.

The prophet (saw) says it’s an act of charity: a good word is an act of charity which means it’s an act of worship. When you think before you speak you have actually worshiped Allah. Because you are using what he gave you and that’s your brain that’s what distinguishes man from animal is the brain, subhanAllah.

if you are really a pious person it shows in the softness of your character but if you’re reading one Quran every three days but you’re abusing someone that Quran you’re actually doing for someone else. watch your tongue, make people feel good, empower them,

If you would like to know maybe of the sisters here are being abused not just here but across the globe, by men who think that they are their bosses and you’re not. Our boss collectively is Allah. He is our maker. Fear Allah, be conscious on Him.

When you are hurting someone, when you’re abusing someone, when you are maltreating someone, remember it’s just a debt that shall be paid back in this world before the next. The Almighty will create someone one day to do exactly the same to you. if not you’re going to face the consequences on the day of judgment which will be even worse.

 

Moisten your tongue with the remembrance of Allah and you will never go wrong.

Remember one thing Islam is not only about five daily prayers, Islam is not only about going for Hajj, Islam is not only about giving charity, Islam is not only about fasting in Ramadan is is also and equally important protecting yourself from abusing others, from hurting others, from usurping their wealth, from doing something wrong to them as much as you have to fulfill the rights of Allah, you have to fulfill the rights of the rest of the creatures of Allah.

You want to change your life while you’re connecting to your Maker, learn to respect those whom the same Maker has created, starting with your spouse. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) says the best from amongst you is he or she who is best to his or her spouse. Am I the best? I need to aim for that.

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E- Friends! I Found A Girl ! Funny – Mufti Menk

E friends, they don’t really exist, E friends, someone telling me that you know what? I I found a girl. This is a true story…… watch the video to know what happened.- Mufti Menk

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I Have A 50% Say – Mufti Menk

If you want to be helped help others. The hadeeth I mentioned the almighty tells us through the Blessed lips of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that Allah almighty continues to be in the assistance of those who continue to assist others.

It actually is the blessing within your life, the blessing, the Baraka, the contentment and over and above that on the Day of Judgment when you see the reward of it. It’s tremendous, it’s great, and you will never regret it. Charities have never depleted wealth. I have given someone from what the Almighty has given me and because I’ve decided it’s going to happen regularly. The Almighty has written their sustenance somewhere within mine.

A man comes to the messenger peace be upon him complaining about his brother.

We have in our families. We have brothers and so on the wives come in mashallah, all of them are lovely but you must remember each one has had a different upbringing. If brother and sister cannot see eye to eye what do you expect when the in-laws come in and so many.

So the brother comes and he says o Messenger my brother’s doing nothing. I’m spending on him. I’m giving him money. I’m giving him his monthly expense and I’m actually taking care of him and now I’m tired of this and I don’t know how long this is going to carry on and so on.

Doesn’t this happen in some of our families I mean you know in the extended families?

Sometimes in some homes the wife comes in and she says hey are you gonna keep on giving this guy, you know, subhanAllah?  And that’s where the brother has to chip in and say hey that’s my brother, leave me alone. She might argue and say well you know fifty percent of everything you have you know is arguably mine? subhanAllah so I have a 50% say.

It does happen that we tend to get irritated even on our own sometimes. Do you know what? The prophet (saw) responded to this man guess what he said? Powerful words: perhaps you are getting money because you’re spending on him la ilaha ilallah.

But Allah (swt) warns us about spending in a foolish way even if it is a charity. allah tells us you know don’t be miserly and don’t even give so much that you’re giving necessity that’s yours. you need to strike a middle path. – Mufti Menk

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How To React If Parents Are Wrong – Mufti Menk

We came into existence because the Almighty made us. He decided that He wants to have us here. We did not decide that.

None of us chose to be here for example to be born where none of us chose the parents we have. None of us chose the children that we have in the case of those who have children. May the Almighty bless those who don’t have children with children, Ameen.

That itself already tells us that we are here on a mission. Because when you have an examination your questions are never chosen by you. It’s always someone else who decides to test you, to examine you by asking you things out of his will, not out of yours.

The Almighty chose I’m going to create you, I’m going to put you in a place without your choice, I’m going to throw you into the deep end to see what you do and part of the blessings of the Almighty is that he did not cause us to grow like trees but rather to have families and to be given birth to.

A family unit is actually a blessing from the Almighty. Today the world is drifting away from the family unit and teaching us that you know what? You do it alone. You don’t need your mom. You don’t need your dad. You don’t need your brothers and sisters. You don’t need this and so on and guess what’s happening? We’re becoming people who are not as content as we used to be. We are becoming people who are searching for contentment in every place and in everything. Besides we’re contentment lies.

I get people who complain to me my parents are very difficult. The first thing that comes to my mind is well that’s part of the test of the Almighty: what are you going to do about it? SubhanAllah and that doesn’t mean that I encourage parents to be difficult, because it is also a test for you when the Almighty’s blessed you with a child. you didn’t choose the exact child that you got. So don’t be so difficult my beloved parents.

Remember the world is changing. it’s part of your test to be polite, respectful, merciful, full of beautiful guidance and at the same time realizing that as time passes you will need to pass the baton to those children.

It’s not wrong to disagree with your parents respectfully where you feel that they are wrong, respectfully. When the Quran speaks about parents it emphasizes more on kindness and respect rather than obedience where the parents are wrong.- Mufti Menk