When we spend we should not be giving that which we would not like to receive. What this means is when you’re giving people charity, don’t give them such food or such clothing or such items that you yourself would not take. This is a strict instruction from Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala.
Remember the charity a point that we forget, it is for Allah. It’s just that Allah has put a poor person to collect it on His behalf SubhanAllah SubhanAllah, think about it.
So give in a good cause, search for those who are in need, for indeed by reaching out to them, You will achieve a lot of goodness. So they thank Allah by praying for you too.
Be conscious of the day that you’re going to return to Allah at all times.
If you want to be helped help others. The hadeeth I mentioned the almighty tells us through the Blessed lips of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that Allah almighty continues to be in the assistance of those who continue to assist others.
It actually is the blessing within your life, the blessing, the Baraka, the contentment and over and above that on the Day of Judgment when you see the reward of it. It’s tremendous, it’s great, and you will never regret it. Charities have never depleted wealth. I have given someone from what the Almighty has given me and because I’ve decided it’s going to happen regularly. The Almighty has written their sustenance somewhere within mine.
A man comes to the messenger peace be upon him complaining about his brother.
We have in our families. We have brothers and so on the wives come in mashallah, all of them are lovely but you must remember each one has had a different upbringing. If brother and sister cannot see eye to eye what do you expect when the in-laws come in and so many.
So the brother comes and he says o Messenger my brother’s doing nothing. I’m spending on him. I’m giving him money. I’m giving him his monthly expense and I’m actually taking care of him and now I’m tired of this and I don’t know how long this is going to carry on and so on.
Doesn’t this happen in some of our families I mean you know in the extended families?
Sometimes in some homes the wife comes in and she says hey are you gonna keep on giving this guy, you know, subhanAllah? And that’s where the brother has to chip in and say hey that’s my brother, leave me alone. She might argue and say well you know fifty percent of everything you have you know is arguably mine? subhanAllah so I have a 50% say.
It does happen that we tend to get irritated even on our own sometimes. Do you know what? The prophet (saw) responded to this man guess what he said? Powerful words: perhaps you are getting money because you’re spending on him la ilaha ilallah.
But Allah (swt) warns us about spending in a foolish way even if it is a charity. allah tells us you know don’t be miserly and don’t even give so much that you’re giving necessity that’s yours. you need to strike a middle path. – Mufti Menk