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Family, Islam, Marriage, Mufti Menk

One Of The Worst Questions To A Married Couple – Mufti Menk

Children are a gift from Allah but they can also be a source of stress and distress. so when Allah has given you children, thank Him and ask Him to help you to raise them. When Allah has not given you children, thank Him and be reassured that He has protected you from something or He knows something that you don’t know. That’s why He did not give you the child.

You know what is one of the worst questions, you can ever ask a married couple? When are you going to have children? That’s a very bad question. You know why? In a lot of cases it’s not even in their hands. They want to have the children but they cannot.

Infertility is increasing on the global level. I don’t know if you are aware of that.

Pray for people rather than asking a question that will bring tears to the eyes of the couple or at least the woman. May Allah grant us ease.

And then people start looking and saying I know the problem is with her not with him. How do you know? Even if they told you I know of a sister whom.. They don’t have children and the issue is with the husband but she takes the blame for that man, subhanAllah. She says no, no, it is an issue with me.

I say look at this she wants the honor for that man who would do that? I want to say something controversial. I don’t think many men would take blame for their women.

Islam, Shaykh Ali Hammuda, Transforming Life

4 True Stories Revitalise You Instantly From Frustrations ~Shaykh Ali Hammuda

Proactivity is a universally admired trait even if we aren’t blessed to live by it. Minimally we admire those who do and we wish to be like them. Minimally we admire those who do and we wish to be like them. So, we ask if it is collectively admired, why is it that some of us still fail to live a proactive lifestyle?

Belittlement of oneself, yeah, so this is a person who genuinely desires to be an initiative taker and to live proactively with purpose vision and energy and motivation but he is shackled with the whisperings of who am I to do so like what value could I, could a person like me possibly add?

I wish to do now is offer a few examples which insha’Allah will pull the rug from beneath every such excuse.

Examples of proactivity that inspired imam to stay steadfast, that drove away enemies and broken alliance communities from destruction and saved other communities from medina that saved entire from the Hellfire at the hands of what and who? ..At the hands of a thief, at the hands of a new Muslim, the hands of an ant, the hands of a bird.

So with this we can really conclude that those who despite hearing all of that still insist that they’ve got nothing to offer, they have no reason to be a proactive, that person may in fact be accusing Allah Almighty of not giving them the necessary resources needed to attain the heights highest grades in paradise.

Proactivity has always been and will always be the fuel of the Dawa and reformation and revival and change. It is that vehicle that delivered Islam to Persia and Rome and Africa and the rest of the world.

Our history as Muslims describes a people of phenomenal proactivity which included the old and the young, the fit, the handicapped the male, the female, the scholar, the uneducated.

Allah Almighty alone knows of just how many people were heading for a nosedive into hell. if it wasn’t for certain proactive people who pulled them out and only Allah knows how many talents and skills would never have been discovered if it wasn’t for certain proactive people who uncovered them in these people and then channelled the skills for the cause of Islam and only Allah Almighty knows how many communities who were oppressed subjugated who would never have been liberated, had it not been for certain proactive people like yourselves who decided to carry this burden for the sake of Allah subhana WA Ta’ala. – Shaykh Ali Hammuda

Five Pillars of Islam, Mufti Menk, Sort- Reminders

How To Clear Your Doubts Do I Have Wudu Or Not~Mufti Menk

Shaitaan, when he cannot make you desert your prayer do you know what he does? He actually then makes you doubt your prayer and there are stages, I can quickly mention them. He first tries to make you not pray. ……

That wudu, you know the tap, it’s gonna be too cold and the water any excuse……

one of the devil’s plans to make you delay what you’re supposed to do so that you rush it or you end up not doing it as a result of the delay yet you intended to do it …..

He starts making you doubt, some people do I have wudu? Do I not have wudu? Trust me the last thing on your mind is valid. Allah doesn’t mean the fact that you are making wudu but you need it to fulfill the prayer.

People say I have very bad dreams. I say well you know you should try and do wudu before you sleep.

You don’t start doubting… don’t worry. The fact that you’ve tried to fulfill your prayer in the best possible way you could have. It’s accepted. Allah will not hold against you.for example if a person comes up and says do I have wudu or don’t I have wudu the hadith says well the last thing you can remember doing is valid.

If in the knowledge of Allah which you don’t know and may never know, If Allah knows that you didn’t really have wudu, he doesn’t mind at that juncture and he will still never hold it against you because you followed the other rule. The rule was whatever you remember last, la illah illa allah.

Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala knows none of us has a perfect salah, not a single one of us has an absolutely perfect salah but he also knows that we will all try our best. He will accept it from us just by the trial.

Don’t allow Shaitaan to make you doubt your good deed after you did it but don’t allow him to make you destroy it by harming others. – Mufti Menk

Family, Islam, Islamic, Mufti Menk, Trials and tribulations

How To React If Parents Are Wrong – Mufti Menk

We came into existence because the Almighty made us. He decided that He wants to have us here. We did not decide that.

None of us chose to be here for example to be born where none of us chose the parents we have. None of us chose the children that we have in the case of those who have children. May the Almighty bless those who don’t have children with children, Ameen.

That itself already tells us that we are here on a mission. Because when you have an examination your questions are never chosen by you. It’s always someone else who decides to test you, to examine you by asking you things out of his will, not out of yours.

The Almighty chose I’m going to create you, I’m going to put you in a place without your choice, I’m going to throw you into the deep end to see what you do and part of the blessings of the Almighty is that he did not cause us to grow like trees but rather to have families and to be given birth to.

A family unit is actually a blessing from the Almighty. Today the world is drifting away from the family unit and teaching us that you know what? You do it alone. You don’t need your mom. You don’t need your dad. You don’t need your brothers and sisters. You don’t need this and so on and guess what’s happening? We’re becoming people who are not as content as we used to be. We are becoming people who are searching for contentment in every place and in everything. Besides we’re contentment lies.

I get people who complain to me my parents are very difficult. The first thing that comes to my mind is well that’s part of the test of the Almighty: what are you going to do about it? SubhanAllah and that doesn’t mean that I encourage parents to be difficult, because it is also a test for you when the Almighty’s blessed you with a child. you didn’t choose the exact child that you got. So don’t be so difficult my beloved parents.

Remember the world is changing. it’s part of your test to be polite, respectful, merciful, full of beautiful guidance and at the same time realizing that as time passes you will need to pass the baton to those children.

It’s not wrong to disagree with your parents respectfully where you feel that they are wrong, respectfully. When the Quran speaks about parents it emphasizes more on kindness and respect rather than obedience where the parents are wrong.- Mufti Menk

Marriage, Mufti Menk, Sort- Reminders, Transforming Life

Beware! People Would Die To Be Married To Your Wife While You Are Alive – Mufti Menk

People are stressed you know what? They can’t show that stress to the people they work with because they’re big guys there. They want to impress the girls at work. so they don’t show them any bad habits, nothing but you go home first thing, you start swearing, you start screaming, you start shouting, you start showing your real self, subhanAllah.

SubhanAllah, that’s why the Prophet (saw) says you know who the best person is, the one who’s best to his family members, always the best. You know why? that person has shown the family that when I’m upset I’m still a good guy, when I’m angry I’m still a good guy, when I’m hungry I’m still a good guy, when I’ve suffered a bad day I’m still a good guy, when I’ve suffered the loss I’m still a good guy and I’m always a good guy. Then you’re really a good guy SubhanAllah. But if you’re a good guy outside the home and when you come back home then you’re not a good guy at all. Who knows better what type of a person you are? Those are at home. So that’s the reason why the prophet (saw) tells us watch who you are. You want to reallyknow who a man is, go ask his wife. You want to really know who a woman is ask the husband or ask the family members.

Be honest be upright, you lose a deal because of your honesty; no problem, Allah will give you Baraka, Baraka in it.

Blessings are snatched away when sins are committed remember that. You have the best spouse, the best person Allah chose for you as a husband or as a wife. You cannot see it because you know what? You’re involved in other sins. so you’re blinded. Blinded by whom? By Shaitaan, your home is no longer happy because your relationship with Allah is weak; your relationship with Shaitaan has become strong. Your relationship with Shaitaan becomes strong you become blind what happens to the blindness? The is the best wife on earth, I don’t want to say but perhaps I should.. Should I? People would die to be married to your wife and you’re still alive…

We couldn’t see that. we’re we’re blinded because there’s some sin blinded because there’s some sin happening either this Haram income there, either this Haram relationships there, either this Haram food there, either there’s something wrong happening there, either there’s no Salah; there’s no connection with Allah. So the coolness of the eyes will not be achieved because the heat of the sin has overtaken that saying, point number one: develop your relationship with Allah. – Mufti Menk

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Watch It If You Feel Helpless Losing Loved One – Mufti Menk

If you were to look at the reason behind the creation of mankind, Allah (swt) mentions a few things primarily He says I have not created mankind of jinkind except for them to worship Me, for them to worship Allah subhanahu wata’ala primarily that’s the purpose of creation.

Someone put us here. We will also not choose to die, he will take us back when the examination is over, because one of the other purposes is to be able to worship Allah through the tests that He puts us through in our lives. This is why nobody’s life ever has been free of tests.

 

Allah says We will take away the life, the life of what, of who.. people around you who you love perhaps, people around you whom you see and witness, family, community whoever else, however We want to take it We will take it. People say why are innocent children dying?

The one Who gave them the life loves them more than the people who gave birth to them. People say the mother’s love is the highest. Actually Allah’s love is higher than that.

Do you understand that Allah’s plan, they might be the means of your entry into Jannah.

Allah says we will always do you a favor, you don’t know the future, we know the future, the knowledge.

On the day of qiyamah, there will be a caller who is going to call where are those who used to thank Allah in tough times and in good times, bring them come forth, VIPs.

You are here to be tested. Don’t become despondent because of one or two challenges in your life or a hundred or a thousand challenges and you.

Allah says behold! The help of Allah is very near, don’t lose hope. So Allah says  seek assistance, seek help through what? Patience and prayer… – Mufti Menk

Important Duas / Supplications, Marriage, Sheikh Omar Suleiman

Powerful Duas Between Sons & Mothers Will Bring Tears To Your Eyes ~ Shaykh Omar Suleiman

What does it mean to actually get the dua of your mother? When your mom or your parents will actually say oh Allah and they’ll have something that is favorable to you implied in that dua.

Allah has ordered excellence to both of your parents and then specifying the mother that she carried you in pain, she gave birth to you in pain, she fed you in pain, she nurtured you in pain, and she went through all of that for you. She deserves that honor .

 

oh my lord honor him and have mercy on him the way  that he has dignified me and obeyed me in my old age – Mother of abu hurairah (ra)

That singled dua is so precious I there is no limit to that dua, no limit to that supplication of appearance.

The dua of a mother could even get you the companionship of a prophet. And more than all of that, it could bring barakah in your life and acceptance in the hereafter in ways that nothing else can.

That blessing is induced through natural service, do things that will naturally induce a good dua,

if your parents are not alive then just as when they are alive you are to honor them with that goodness then honor them with good deeds in their name that sadaqah jariyah and those deeds will reach them and on the day of judgment they will be holding those good deeds that you did on their behalf and testifying in front of Allah (swt) for you.

If the dua of a mother can bring that much baraka on a person’s life, you better want your spouse to get that dua from their mother. husband and wife part of your making your spouse a more complete Muslim and getting that dua, and getting that baraka in life that potential … pleasure in the hereafter is when they get those duas from their parents. don’t see your mother-in-law as an opponent in that sense of Kadima because it may be the kidma that your husband or wife gives to their mother that brings that Baraka in your married life and in your life in general and your acceptance in the hereafter, don’t see them as opponents, help your spouse honor their parents.

Shaykh Omar Suleiman

 

Sheikh Omar Suleiman

Do You Stink Or Smell Good? Amazing Advice From Imam Shafi (Rah) – Shaykh Omar Suleiman

Imam Shafi (Rah) said that i wish that my knowledge would be spread. I wish that everyone would benefit from my knowledge no one would say my name. That’s why Allah (swt) made him the person that he was and elevated him to the place that he was because his interest wasn’t spreading that goodness, not in being named the source of that.

When the environment around you gets tough and when people are aggressive with you and abusive of you because usually you stink because other people stink with you when the world stinks you’re more likely to stink too, right? He said (ra) that the foolish one addresses me with words of disgrace but I hate to respond to him in like manner, the more ignorant he proves the more patience I become just like the incense, the more you burn it the more its fragrance is released, subhanAllah.

There’s a saying that you can be much more influential if people are not aware of your influence. Just Like with the mother whose child misses her when she goes away. Oftentimes the good influence is not recognized until that’s that sweet smell, the source of that sweet smell is no longer there.

Do you stink or do you smell good? Do you rub off good on people or do people rub off evil on you?

– Shaykh Omar Suleiman