Category: Family

Family, Sheikh Omar Suleiman, Trials and tribulations

Their Pain Was Completely Silent! A True Emotional Story of Father’s Love | Special People | Shaykh Omar Suleiman

Allah tests you with something So severe, so harsh and And you turn to Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala and you seek His pleasure through that. Allah takes something away from you that you thought you could not live without.

Allah says you’ll be tested with your safety, will be tested with your health, you we tested with your family, You’ll be tested with your sustenance, Your.. all of this uncertainty things are going to be… things are going to be all over the place… give Glad Tidings to the patient .

Their pain was completely silent. No one knows what that person’s been through. could run into someone in front of the majid of the prophet (saw), praying next to someone in Masjid al-Haram, you don’t know what that person’s been through and you don’t know why Allah chose them to be there, why Allah chose you to be there or what They’re calling upon Allah with or what their status with Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala is.

You don’t know that person’s status. You don’t know their circumstances and they call upon Allah and invoke Allah subhanaw Taala, and no one knows who’s around them.

You know, who are there this year in hajj: The families of the martyrs of Christchurch, New Zealand and some of the survivors. These are people that put their loved ones in the ground for Allah And Allah called them to hajj This year.

the brother, wasim who Iwas in a coma when we went to ChristChurch because he daughter and when the massacre happened and he was shot nine times, holding his daughter And the last memory he had before he went into a coma was getting to the hospital and his daughter was in Blood and he was in Blood and he said take my daughter Don’t worry about me and then he collapsed and he went into a coma. When he woke up three weeks later, He started shouting for his daughter. And when they told him that your daughter is okay, because Alhumdillah She survived he didn’t believe them, he had to see her. And she turned five in the hospital, right there in a hospital and they were in hajj this year.

If Allah is shy from the hands of a servant who could have disobeyed Him and turn to Him for those few moments. Then what about that person who gave it all for Allah and there are people the prophet (saw) mentioned… a martyr that could be walking and those people were there saying Allahumma and they could have been right next to and you didn’t even know…… Shaykh Omar Suleiman.

Family

Valentine’s Day Is Here! For The Most Beloved Of All Women | Don’t Mess It Up | Shaykh Hasan Ali

Valentine’s Day is here and you got to buy something for the most beloved of all women, that… by the way..only Valentine’s is all about one woman. now, she’s done a lot she’s done a lot for you. you got to be there,  you got to make her happy and you got to do the best for her.

She’s been around. She’s looked after you; you, do best for her and don’t mess it up. That woman is your mother because the thing is your mother always looks after you.

Nothing wrong in… you ended up with some roses for your mother. Listen Valentine’s… go on say hello to your mom, hug your mom.

Valentine’s is all about one woman. She’s been around. She’s looked after you; you, do best for her and don’t mess it up. Listen, Valentine’s… go on say hello to your mom, hug your mom. – Shaykh Hasan Ali

Family, Marriage, Transforming Life

Why Divorce For Trivial Matters! Listen To Save The Next Person | Parents Reminders ~ Shaykh Hasan Ali

You know, you have to admire our father’s generation, grandfather’s Generations.  Despite Decades of them having marital problems they stay together till the end until death departed them.

20 year olds and 30 year olds getting married and then within two years within months…. They are ending the relationship for trivial matters, for small things. I said it one thing the reason why I feel this is happening is because this generation that we have now this generation is a lot about not facing difficulties from a young age.

So parents have also in the last 20, 25, 30, years not given difficulties to the children. …removed all difficulties, you know, made it really easy for them. by the time they have then they are getting the married after a few years, you know, they’re not prepared for life.

No one saying you know shout at children.. But at least you know, you can be firm with children, the firmness with children and if you if you’re showing strength with children, children if you show softness to children, children grow up to be soft. And that’s why too soft is get married they don’t know how to deal with life’s troubles and life’s chaos and problems and so on and therefore, the easiest of me ,just get divorced for the most trivial matters, for the most smallest things that have probably happened in their life. And they want divorce, they want out and our parents and grandparents they stayed in there all the way till the end.

You don’t know what how many problems you have. You’ve got to understand that it’s more important to try and you know get to the end. And keep to your vows and remember that you know, you took a vow in front of Allah Azawajal when you got married, it’s not a small thing.

Divorce is there’s an emergency exit and is needed by some people. Yes, we can definitely reduce the number of divorces if people were to, you know, take life more seriously. if they first  haven’t up bringing those more serious and if they then knew how to deal with life’s problems and their trivial matters and so on.

please get the message out, be more firm with children And at the same time be, you know, be people who are ready for marriage and who got a serious intention to stay together all the way to the end unless something major comes out. Don’t look at the emergency exits.

Beauty of The Quran, Family, Mufti Menk, Transforming Life

Be Careful! Don’t Let Religious Fanatics Brainwash You | Important Youth Reminders | Mufti Menk

I am a Muslim. I believe in Allah. He is the only one worthy of worship. We heard that I believe that Muhammad peace be upon Him is the final messenger of Allah. I believe that whatever was revealed is absolute and is final and I believe that I will stick to it as best as I can until I meet with Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam on the pond known as al kawthar by the Will of Allah in order to achieve jannatul firdaus.

My brothers and sisters that does not negate the fact that I need to be kind to the rest of humanity. It does not negate the fact that there are people who disagree with me. There are people who have chosen other faiths.

One of the challenges we face as youth is we become very impatient when people differ with us. We are responsible to carry the flag of goodness, to carry the flag of Deen. We are also responsible to reach out to the other creatures of Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala starting with mankind.

When we leave this earth, it’s our duty to have left it in a better way. How will we be able to lead  When we have not even set our own morals and values upon a high standard? My duty is not to spew hate. some people use this verse in order to spew hate and to hurl abuse at those  who don’t agree with them and they say you know, what, there is something known as Al-wala’ wa-l-bara’, we have to harm everyone who disagrees with us. That’s not the meaning of the term Al-wala’ wa-l-bara’ .

We love everything to do with Allah and we dislike that which is sinful indeed. You need to know uphold the peace, stability, security of your families, your communities, your Nations and the globe at large.

We can respectfully disagree and keep the disagreement exactly where it is Subhanallah.

All people are the creatures of Allah if they turn because of an effort that you’ve made towards the right path, towards the path Of goodness, then you have earned a great reward.

But today we are being brainwashed into believing that everyone on Earth is our enemy. That’s it is just me and my small little group. We are less tolerant of each other.

The beginning of disaster is when things bubble in the background and you don’t deal with them. You have to be smart enough to know what is bubbling in the background and deal with it.

People are using religion because the world is fed up. I promise you there is so much disaster, so much crime, so much of sin, so much of hardship, so much of poverty, so much of you know, so many disasters that are happening, drought and whatever else, people are fed up and that’s why they are turning towards Faith. As they’re turning towards faith in the Almighty, Sadly, There are people of religion who are seizing that opportunity to come and con the people to say, now that you’re a Godly person. You need to become violent in order to please that God.

It’s a crisis were facing in the youth. Don’t let anyone brainwash you in that regard.

There are problems in the ummah. We know what the problems are. The way we are being or some of the people are being taught to solve those problems is by creating 10 more problems that did not exist. Don’t solve it in a way that will create a bigger problem.

There is a small percentage of evil among the Muslims. Those who are perpetrating crime, small percentage but I tell you what? Because the media has put it out there, don’t you agree that we are all looked at as bad people?

If you carry yourself with utmost respect and you are identified as a Muslim, you will change that narrative people will say no. No, I know Muslims personally. They love their kind. The majority of them are so helpful. They are so courteous.

Each time a crime  is perpetrated anywhere in the world where people are being killed, subhanallah in the name of Islam, We all pay a price and we are not even a part of it. We don’t even agree.

There are some really really good people in all nationalities and in all Races and even in all faiths and religions. We’re all human beings. Every one of us is supposed to be honest and upright. In fact, the Muslims more so.- Mufti Menk

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Excited For Intimate Video With Phone Online! Don’t Be Embarrassed Later | A Sister’Story | Mufti Menk

The globe today we are facing challenges where so many ideas, So many ideas are floating around online and on the net. As so many ideas, some of them are good ideas and a lot of them are just a waste of time. Many of them would lead us astray completely.

It’s up to you to pick up what is beneficial and what is not, you know, you see a video that is totally fake. It’s totally fake and you get so excited and pretend like it’s so true and by you believing it’s true you want to actually wipe out one whole category of society and later on when it’s too late you find out that was a fake. Have you ever come across something called deep fake videos?

Be careful. There is too much happening now and our children are exposed to much more than we were exposed. Communications have become such that you can be conned.

Don’t get excited. Anything you’ve ever done on your phone is retrievable. For every technology there is a counter technology, do not be fooled.

Remember, you might be on your own, don’t do something with your phone that you would be embarrassed the day the whole world found out what they was there. Don’t do that which is embarrassing With your phone, if you’re having a video call keep it proper.

People ask fatwas; Look my wife is far away. You know, I’m far away. Can we have a nude video call? From a religious perspective there is awrah, obviously there is an element of respect. Although there may be permissibility because the two of you are married, but you know what? There could be a third party and are in a lot of cases a third party, Somehow someway there was going to get involved in. you might just find that video one day somewhere a person will tell you I saw it on a porn site. It happened,

wallahi it has happened. People become suicidal, be careful. You will pay the price of it. Just learn to hold back a little bit know, you want to do things, not everything needs to happen with the phone. You don’t have to record, At every single moment of yours, the intimate moments keep them as a memory in your mind.

Family, Islam, Mufti Menk, Transforming Life

Character Litmus Test Question & Answer | How To Know About Yourself | Never Forget ~Mufti Menk

Every single one of us has been created in a way that we need the help of others in order to survive. Have you thought of that? Nobody is absolutely independent/ although; yes, we are dependent upon Allah and Allah alone to fulfill our needs but Allah requires and He sends to us those who will help us fulfill those needs. It doesn’t mean it’s not from Allah.

No matter, what? We need Allah definitely but together with that the plan of Allah includes the fact that we need each other.

The Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him says the Almighty will continue helping His slave as long as that slave continues to help another. Amazing!

You are just a number. That’s it. Don’t ever think that you’re better than the people you are speaking to and don’t ever think that you’re higher than anyone else because if that’s the case you will never be able to reach their hearts. Speak as though they are better than you. You just need to get a message to them.

We complain more than what we used to, when we did not have. Because that’s how materialism works, when you run behind the dunya guess what? It always runs faster than you. subhanAllah, you can never catch up.

When I came into this world I was naked, I had zero, and so whatever I have today is more than what I had the day I was born. That’s it that’s my motivation.

You want to know who is the closest to Allah. It is the person who has the most beautiful character. Your closeness to Allah is very closely reflected in your character. Those who are harsh and hard-hearted they cannot be close to Allah.

If you want to know the type of person you are, if you want to know more about yourself, your character, if you would like to know where do I fit in, there is a test- litmus tests, can test yourself, ask yourself, one question, the answer of it will tell you who you actually are? What’s the question?

The person whom the world considers, the lowest whom the world considers most insignificant, whom the world considers almost irrelevant, how you treat that person will determine who you are.

All those whom the world considers insignificant you should never consider them insignificant. It’s your test.

A lot of the people don’t want your money, they need you to just be kind be. — Mufti Menk

Family, Marriage, Mufti Menk, Sort- Reminders

Want To Control Everyone! The Biggest Mistake | Wife Lover ~ Mufti Menk

My brothers my sisters, like I said on earth you will have days when mashallah, as you grow older. At how things have changed, right? But we remember the days. When you look at yourself now aren’t you a little bit lonely? Well, Allah is telling you well build a relationship with me now, come SubhanAllah, la ilaha ilallah,….

You know your children no matter how many you have they’re going to get married, the biggest mistake we make we want to control, control who? Everyone else… listen to a certain extent you can let them know even your own children, you can let them know what to do what not to do but control… trust me you will develop a huge problem if you want to control everyone around.

We want to control everyone around us. We break our families and communities into pieces because we want to have the only say. You must listen to everyone and you must do that which is beneficial for the community but you do have a final say because there has to be one leader who decides.

I’d love to have Eid the same way we’ve had it when we were young, when all the brothers and sisters got together on the day of Eid but guess what? Now they start getting married. Each one of them has their own children.

It’s not fair to always have Eid in one place, I need to make sure that I.. Let loose a little bit, I will be a bit …the Eids are not going to be like they were all the time. I don’t have to be everywhere, every time, at every Eid, break loose you still United, didn’t I say? May Allah give us unity.

You can still be united. You know what? For as long as that opinion has some form of validation in the Quran and Sunnah and in Islam let it be… don’t force yours on them, for as long as it has some form of validation in Islam let it be. The minute you try to force you will destroy.. There will be disunity. That’s one of the reasons why we are so fragmented.

It’s very important for us to know that life has lessons. We don’t learn them sometimes. Allah says you know when you’re young it’s not going to be the same as you grow older. When you grow older things have to change. The baton is passed on.

Yes, we are human yes we do have human nature. But we should be disciplining it with the discipline of Islam. it will help us. it will take us to jannatul ferdous, it will make us the best of people. Don’t be too hard and fast on others even your own family members. Sometimes we are too hard on our own spouses.

I don’t have to be everywhere, every time, at every Eid. Break loose you still united. For as long as that opinion has some form of validation in the Quran and Sunnah and in Islam let it be… The minute you try to force you will destroy. That’s one of the reasons why we are so fragmented. – Mufti Menk

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Six Powerful Tips On How To Guide Those Who You Love ~ Shaykh Omar Suleiman [Very Important]

You can’t guide those who love. When you read the story of Nuh (a.s) and that painful moments with his son, a prophet who called to Allah for 950 years, only had about 80 or so people and a man who loves his wife and who love son so much… the Shahadah of the wife of Nuh (a.s), the testimony of his wife or his son would be so much more beloved to him probably than everybody else, rights? Your family and he doesn’t have that.

At some point you either resign yourself and you say you know what I can’t do anymore. I just can’t help this person anymore. I can only pray for them and sometimes that person will die without you having been able to come to their aid or come to their help or come to their rescue to help them see the error of their ways and to move forward even and it’s not just human beings by the way even Allah subhana WA Ta’ala.

Though Allah always leaves the door of Tawbah open  Allah subhana wa ta’ala talks about a group of people who insist upon the disobedience and no reminder is benefiting you know what? You want this dunya? Take it, go ahead them whatsoever at this point.

You can’t help someone who’s not willing to help themselves we know that but you can still love them even when your efforts have failed. They can’t stop you from making their dua for them. “You’re still in my prayers, I still love you, I still want what’s good for you”.

So the first thing you can’t help someone who’s not willing but you can still love them while your efforts have failed.

Don’t despair in people because if they see you despair in them that might be what causes them to despair in themselves. show people that you believe in them that you’re not giving up on them because they’re gonna hit a low point if they’re making mistakes and eventually when that happens. they’re gonna wonder if they have a chance to come back and you always have to be in their corner even if they’ve pushed you into a corner and say you do have a way back to Allah subhana wa ta’ala and you do have a way to come to come back to that success in that salvation.

If someone is trying to help you or give you Nasia, give you advice. If someone loves you and cares enough about you to make an effort to stop you from doing something that they believe is wrong at a major mistake, don’t do it in a perfect way, overlook those imperfections in the way that they’re trying to help you and instead appreciate the fact that they’re trying to help you.

– Shaykh Omar Suleiman

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Mashallah! Upgraded With Eight Girls [Super Excited]~ Mufti Menk

When a child is born we thank Allah. We want the child to be healthy. Whether you have a male child or a female child, thank Allah.

Mashallah, we upgraded with eight girls and I’m super excited to mention it here because I am so happy and I’m super excited to mention it here because I am so happy that Allah blessed us with a favour He says you have girls you get Jannah. By the way it doesn’t mean you have boys you go to Jahannam.

Be happy with whatever Allah has given you girls, they are girls. They are boys, they are boys, Alhamdullah. They are boys and girls Alhamdulillah.

Neither boy nor girl Allah knows why He has saved you from something traumatic. How many people have children and they say I wish I didn’t have these kids because of the torment that some of them make their parents go through. May Allah forbid and may Allah protect us and our children from that type of behaviour, Ameen. So be thankful to Allah- Mufti Menk

Family, Islam, Marriage, Mufti Menk

One Of The Worst Questions To A Married Couple – Mufti Menk

Children are a gift from Allah but they can also be a source of stress and distress. so when Allah has given you children, thank Him and ask Him to help you to raise them. When Allah has not given you children, thank Him and be reassured that He has protected you from something or He knows something that you don’t know. That’s why He did not give you the child.

You know what is one of the worst questions, you can ever ask a married couple? When are you going to have children? That’s a very bad question. You know why? In a lot of cases it’s not even in their hands. They want to have the children but they cannot.

Infertility is increasing on the global level. I don’t know if you are aware of that.

Pray for people rather than asking a question that will bring tears to the eyes of the couple or at least the woman. May Allah grant us ease.

And then people start looking and saying I know the problem is with her not with him. How do you know? Even if they told you I know of a sister whom.. They don’t have children and the issue is with the husband but she takes the blame for that man, subhanAllah. She says no, no, it is an issue with me.

I say look at this she wants the honor for that man who would do that? I want to say something controversial. I don’t think many men would take blame for their women.