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Family, Marriage, Mufti Menk, Sort- Reminders

Want To Control Everyone! The Biggest Mistake | Wife Lover ~ Mufti Menk

My brothers my sisters, like I said on earth you will have days when mashallah, as you grow older. At how things have changed, right? But we remember the days. When you look at yourself now aren’t you a little bit lonely? Well, Allah is telling you well build a relationship with me now, come SubhanAllah, la ilaha ilallah,….

You know your children no matter how many you have they’re going to get married, the biggest mistake we make we want to control, control who? Everyone else… listen to a certain extent you can let them know even your own children, you can let them know what to do what not to do but control… trust me you will develop a huge problem if you want to control everyone around.

We want to control everyone around us. We break our families and communities into pieces because we want to have the only say. You must listen to everyone and you must do that which is beneficial for the community but you do have a final say because there has to be one leader who decides.

I’d love to have Eid the same way we’ve had it when we were young, when all the brothers and sisters got together on the day of Eid but guess what? Now they start getting married. Each one of them has their own children.

It’s not fair to always have Eid in one place, I need to make sure that I.. Let loose a little bit, I will be a bit …the Eids are not going to be like they were all the time. I don’t have to be everywhere, every time, at every Eid, break loose you still United, didn’t I say? May Allah give us unity.

You can still be united. You know what? For as long as that opinion has some form of validation in the Quran and Sunnah and in Islam let it be… don’t force yours on them, for as long as it has some form of validation in Islam let it be. The minute you try to force you will destroy.. There will be disunity. That’s one of the reasons why we are so fragmented.

It’s very important for us to know that life has lessons. We don’t learn them sometimes. Allah says you know when you’re young it’s not going to be the same as you grow older. When you grow older things have to change. The baton is passed on.

Yes, we are human yes we do have human nature. But we should be disciplining it with the discipline of Islam. it will help us. it will take us to jannatul ferdous, it will make us the best of people. Don’t be too hard and fast on others even your own family members. Sometimes we are too hard on our own spouses.

I don’t have to be everywhere, every time, at every Eid. Break loose you still united. For as long as that opinion has some form of validation in the Quran and Sunnah and in Islam let it be… The minute you try to force you will destroy. That’s one of the reasons why we are so fragmented. – Mufti Menk

Islam, PROPHET MUHAMMAD (pbuh), Shaykh Ali Hammuda

Why “Love For Other What You Love For Yourself” Is Hard To Apply | How To Complete Faith~ Shaykh Ali Hammuda

It is definitely an uncomfortable reality but nevertheless it is the truth. This is in reference to the reality which states that not all people who will meet Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala on the day of reckoning with iman, with faith will be granted instant access to paradise. Unfortunately, that is not the case. There are certain deficiencies in Eman, ie in our Eman which may mean that some people will not experience paradise as the very first destination.

Therefore it’s for this exact reason that the Prophet Muhammad (saw) out of his love and mercy towards us strong with all what he possessed to guide us to certain characteristics and traits and behaviors to raise our Eman to high levels to ensure that we never need to feel the fire of hell before paradise which will raise us to the highest levels in Jannah.

I want to give you one such example of a hadith that does this. This is the famous hadith which Bukhari and Muslim narrate on the authority of Ans (Ra) where the messenger (saw) said none of you truly believed until you love for your brother what you love for yourself.

This is one of the fundamental narrations of the religion of Islam. The completion of your Eman, your faith depends upon the likes of this narration.

This is the first reason your Eman depends upon it. Number two: being shielded against the fire of hell depends upon this hadith.

Salvation, success, protection in the hereafter is hinged on to two principles: correcting your affair with Allah, your relationship with Allah, tawhid in Islam and then correcting your relationship with people.

So, reality of faith depends upon it, entry to jannah depends upon it. Protection from the Hellfire depends upon it look at number four: how Allah almighty treats you in this world and in the hereafter depends upon this hadith.

Why is it so easy to speak about this principle but in the lives of many people it’s so hard to apply? The answer is because it boils down to an illness deep inside and illness within the heart. A heart that convinces you that the losses of other people, somehow means that you’ve now automatically progressed in life is a terribly ill and a severely mistaken Heart.

The benefits  of living by this principle loving for him what you love for yourself and this is part of completion of Eman and the benefit of this is not limited to the hereafter, the benefits extend to this world Allah is so generous.

By remembering that there is enough to go around, be at the service of others. There for those people who serve with sincerity, wanting for others what they want for themselves Allah does not them down in both of the worlds. Strive to leave a legacy behind you footprints that are not erased till the day you meet Allah. Please plan a project…. Shaykh Ali Hammuda

Islam, Marriage, Mufti Menk

Caught Illicit Affairs Of Spouse! No Forgiveness! Listen & Your Discretion ~ Mufti Menk

Oh people! The promise of the almighty is the truth. World deceive you. It is very temporary and it is very fake, subhanAllah, and don’t let the big deceiver deceive you, Shaitaan; the devil, the big deceiver.  He gonna come and try and make you do things that you’re not supposed to be doing. The almighty says its okay, Turn back to me as you turn back to the Almighty, He wipes out your sin. As He’s wiped out your sin the devil comes back and says no, you’re not forgiven. That almighty is not merciful.

The Almighty is not merciful. That’s a bigger sin than the sin you committed initially. Initially it was a sin out of your weakness. Now it’s a sin questioning who the Almighty is and denying one of His qualities known as the most merciful or the most forgiving, the most compassionate. So be careful be careful of the deception of this world.

Nobody from amongst us is perfect, not a soul, because part of the plan of the Almighty is human desire will lead you towards things that you’re not supposed to be doing. You may fall out of human weakness. Not because you’re defying Allah but you didn’t want to do it but you fell.

If you are walking here and you trip what would you do? Get up and do what? Keep walking, right? And even other persons coming and you turn around and see them what will you tell them? Be careful right? The winners are those who when they trip they get up and they keep going. We’re not perfect. Perfection is for the hereafter. When I am in here I shouldn’t lose hope number one but I need to keep trying to develop my relationship with Allah.

When you’re conscious of Allah and you have a relationship with Allah and you love Allah and that Allah is so close to you within your heart and you want to prove to Him that you love Him, wouldn’t you love everything that He has made? Even if you disagree with some of the people around you, your character will ensure that you don’t insult them or abuse them.

When I’m a pious person close to Allah I learned to love everyone to care for them, to treat them equally because they’re all the creatures of Allah. I will give them importance simply because they were created by the same one whom I’m trying to prove my love to. Be respectful; show it in your character.

Allah says in your life no matter what deeds you’ve done Allah says if you seek forgiveness I will forgive you.

When people are caught in immoral relations or illicit Affairs when they are married and the spouse catches them and says you know what? That’s the blessing of Allah that you were caught. You know why? Now you’re going to give it up, inshallah.

 

 

Nowadays people are not so forgiving, so if you’re caught, they’re gonna say I want out. I tell you my brothers and sisters not everyone who’s committed the sin is an evil person. They may have made a mistake. sometimes Allah wanted you to see something because he loved them so much and He knows by you making a big deal out of it that person’s gonna quit the habit and become such a better person, subhanAllah.

So it doesn’t mean that I need a divorce straight away. Don’t just listen to the world the world tells you the minute you catch your spouse doing something wrong that’s it, go home. I’ll tell you not necessarily means if the person is a good person, they taking care of you you’re taking care of each other, there’s a lot of respect, there’s kindness, there’s fulfilment of rights… mend it and keep the same Mercedes.

But if the person is evil and abusive and hurtful and they don’t fulfill their rights and they don’t dis and they don’t that and then you catch them doing X Y & Z then perhaps you might want to look into final separation that was the last stroke, gone.

Marriage, Mufti Menk

Holding Back That Talaq! Nullification of Marriage / Divorce By Women In Islam~Mufti Menk | Goosebumps Reminder

Increasingly people are becoming unhappy with their marriages. We need to try and resolve your matters, try and solve your problems. If you’re not going to be prepared to try and solve the matter, you’re not going to get anywhere.

I’ve been dealing with cases where the men are becoming greedy sometimes such that they don’t want to live with their wives because they’re either having an affair or they’re either leading some form of a dark life or they simply don’t like the wife anymore, they neither share intimate moments with them. They probably sleep separately with them. In a lot of cases and they don’t want to divorce them and they don’t want to do anything about it, they neither want to release them nor do they want to keep them properly. This is prohibited. the Quran says that you should not leave a person muAAallaqa, muAAallaqa meaning she’s hanging, neither can she say she’s married because the guy is not even behaving like a husband and there’s no rights being fulfilled nor she says she’s divorced because she doesn’t have the divorce.

So in that case normally the scholars are to come in and to resolve the matter. If need be they can nullify that marriage.

Some greedy men have gone away with the belongings of their wives. They go away with the belongings of their wives. My brothers, my sisters that mahr is owed to the woman. It is owed to her. It’s her right, if you don’t give it to her Allah will take it from you through sickness, through accidents, through some form of disaster that money is not yours. Allah will take it from you. So rather give it like a good boy. Allah does not leave people to oppress others. He gives you a chance to resolve the matter. That chance differs from person to person, the length of it.

If you release her, release her with honor, that’s the sign of a Muslim. Don’t involve your kids in the mess. it will stunt their growth.

When we think we’re holy but Allah tests you with things that are tough for you. You got to, throw your ego aside, throw it aside and do what’s right. You holding somebody’s money throw your ego give it. you’re holding somebody’s property, throw your ego, give it you don’t throw your ego, you’re going to pay a price for it and I’m not mincing my words you will pay and that payment will be very very heavy remember this.

Don’t talk bad about people after the divorce. It’s over. You didn’t get along with him someone else would get along with them. Control your anger, your temper, say good words, can’t you be a lovely person.

How can you steal the mahr of your wife how?  What do you think Allah was going to do when Allah says in surahtul surah mujadilah; Allah says Allah has heard the one who is discussing with you or who is complaining to you about her husband, complaining to Allah (swt). Allah make it easy because we need to be human beings come on you should learn to love people and to care for them and to care for even those you dislike. Treat others the way you would like to be treated. One of the qualities of the wealthiest of people is that he or she can forgive, forgive, don’t hold it in your heart.

So let’s learn to release people or break… if we are going to break a relationship or a marriage or whatever else it should happen with honor and dignity with respect bearing in mind that when we came together, we came together with the name of Allah, many times when divorces happen people show their true colors and you cannot believe that you were actually married into this family.  you want to see someone’s true colors, check what happens when things don’t go their way. – Mufti Menk

Islam, PROPHET MUHAMMAD (pbuh), Shaykh Ali Hammuda

Love During Times Of Difficulty! Four Heart-Touching Scenarios ~ Shaykh Ali Hammuda

I’m not going to share with you examples of love in those times of comfort. That’s easy to claim love. I would like to share with you perhaps four examples during times of difficulty. During times of war for example is when you see the true love that a person has for another, when it’s either your life or his.

When A woman from the tribe of dinah was given the news that her husband, brother and father had been killed after uhud, she said what happened to the prophet of Allah (ﷺ).They said Alhumdillah, he (ﷺ) is well. No, point him (ﷺ)out to me so that I can see him (ﷺ)with my own eyes. When she saw him (ﷺ) she said every calamity in life is small so long as you (ﷺ) are okay.

Why all of this love now we ask, what was it that they saw in him(ﷺ) that call was this obsession dear brothers and sisters? what did they see? what did they hear?

They saw in him (ﷺ) a human being who was a perfect embodiment of all of the values that he (ﷺ) called towards and invited them to be good people then they saw in him (ﷺ) the best of them all.

He (ﷺ) commanded them to be generous. They saw in him (ﷺ) the most generous of Allah’s creation describing him (ﷺ) like the wind that blows and scatters money… he (ﷺ) commanded the Muslims to be compassionate and gentle. you look at him (ﷺ)and you would think Allah had sent him (ﷺ) for no other purpose other than to pass a gentle caring hand over the head of the orphan and to support the widow to give encouraging advice to those who were let down, to respond to the invitations of the downtrodden in society and to eat from their food even if it was about to go off, he (ﷺ) would not break their hearts and visit those who were handicapped and disabled you would think Allah had sent him(ﷺ) for no other reason other than to be compassionate and kind. ~Shaykh Ali Hammuda Shaykh Ali Hammuda

Family, Islam, Sheikh Omar Suleiman

Six Powerful Tips On How To Guide Those Who You Love ~ Shaykh Omar Suleiman [Very Important]

You can’t guide those who love. When you read the story of Nuh (a.s) and that painful moments with his son, a prophet who called to Allah for 950 years, only had about 80 or so people and a man who loves his wife and who love son so much… the Shahadah of the wife of Nuh (a.s), the testimony of his wife or his son would be so much more beloved to him probably than everybody else, rights? Your family and he doesn’t have that.

At some point you either resign yourself and you say you know what I can’t do anymore. I just can’t help this person anymore. I can only pray for them and sometimes that person will die without you having been able to come to their aid or come to their help or come to their rescue to help them see the error of their ways and to move forward even and it’s not just human beings by the way even Allah subhana WA Ta’ala.

Though Allah always leaves the door of Tawbah open  Allah subhana wa ta’ala talks about a group of people who insist upon the disobedience and no reminder is benefiting you know what? You want this dunya? Take it, go ahead them whatsoever at this point.

You can’t help someone who’s not willing to help themselves we know that but you can still love them even when your efforts have failed. They can’t stop you from making their dua for them. “You’re still in my prayers, I still love you, I still want what’s good for you”.

So the first thing you can’t help someone who’s not willing but you can still love them while your efforts have failed.

Don’t despair in people because if they see you despair in them that might be what causes them to despair in themselves. show people that you believe in them that you’re not giving up on them because they’re gonna hit a low point if they’re making mistakes and eventually when that happens. they’re gonna wonder if they have a chance to come back and you always have to be in their corner even if they’ve pushed you into a corner and say you do have a way back to Allah subhana wa ta’ala and you do have a way to come to come back to that success in that salvation.

If someone is trying to help you or give you Nasia, give you advice. If someone loves you and cares enough about you to make an effort to stop you from doing something that they believe is wrong at a major mistake, don’t do it in a perfect way, overlook those imperfections in the way that they’re trying to help you and instead appreciate the fact that they’re trying to help you.

– Shaykh Omar Suleiman

Islam, Shaykh Ali Hammuda, Sort- Reminders, Transforming Life

Prompt! Stop Haram Things To Get A Better Replacement | Allah’s Promise ~ Ali Hammdua

Allah Almighty has promised those who courageously reject a sinful practice with that which is better. This is a promise that provides so much strength peace and solace and reassurance particularly to the young Muslim man or that young Muslim woman who may be struggling with a specific addiction of some sort or a particular private doing that they know will distance them from Allah and will distance them from success in the hereafter.

The prophet Muhammed (ﷺ)said “There is it anything that you leave for the sake of Allah, accept that He will replace you with something better”. That’s a promise and and Allah Almighty never fails in His promise.

Make the courageous decision from this moment onwards, to make amends to those habits, those relationships, those secret doings that you know need evicting from your life. Then, realize that the better replacement from Allah has already been dispatched and it is on its way, Allahu Akbar.

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How The Quran Is Proven Correct Over Time – Mufti Menk

There are four things when Allah wants to create is one thing. He says be and it is, that’s a second thing. Then He says He owns it because He made it. The fourth thing is going to come back to Him.

The almighty has promised us that He won’t just tell us to do and not to do things randomly. There will always be a deeper purpose whether you understand it or don’t is beside the point. He says I will tell you what to do and what not to do. Allah says that in the Quran when He has laid instruction it’s never to create difficulty for you.

It might be difficult for a moment but long term you will definitely see the fruit of following the instruction of the Almighty. So the doubts that are created in the minds of the people are cleared when you understand who your Maker is. When you realize what revelation is all about.

Look at how science and technology and all these researchers keep changing their findings over time. Allah subhana wa ta’ala is telling us the sun moves to a certain extent. There was a time when people said impossible. The earth moves. When technology and science denied it completely people began to find fault in the revelation and said Revelation is wrong. Generations’ later people had to admit though the Sun moves but very little. Allah didn’t say how much it moves. He just said it moves.

Therefore ultimately Allah says something amazing in the Quran. We will show them and continue to show them signs within the horizons and in themselves, we will continue to show them more and more signs as the times pass that will prove to them ultimately that the Quran is the truth, subhanAllah.

we have already seen from the very beginning, the time of Muhammad (ﷺ)that those who felt this was wrong and that was wrong over time. they were found to be wrong but the Quran was right. – Mufti Menk

Islam, PROPHET MUHAMMAD (pbuh), Sheikh Omar Suleiman

What Saddened The Prophet(ﷺ) & His Dua On The Day Of Judgment ~ Omar Suleiman

What a shame, what sadness what grief, overwhelms a person like the prophet (saw)  when he sees his own uncles, when he sees people that have loved him his entire life and people that he loved his entire life and he’s not able to get them. Every single person that flees from his hand, sallallahu awaliy salam he wants so bad to help them.

He does not comfort himself sallallahu wasallam by looking at the wins to say the losses no longer matter but he rededicates himself to the possibility of converting those losses to wins of bringing them too. so the joy of the prophet (saw) when he sees these large groups of people was not that he could be complacent now but that it gave him hope that he could continue and that more people would come InshaAllah Ta’ala on that more people would follow, right and so in many ways.

You see an example from the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam of that same empathy that he had where he could not turn his face away from a child that was in poverty, that same empathy being reflected in everything else that he had. That’s part of Rahmatan Lil ‘Alamin. That’s part of him being a mercy to the world and that’s why on the day of judgement when the prophet sallallaahu alayhi wasalam has the one dua.

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Mashallah! Upgraded With Eight Girls [Super Excited]~ Mufti Menk

When a child is born we thank Allah. We want the child to be healthy. Whether you have a male child or a female child, thank Allah.

Mashallah, we upgraded with eight girls and I’m super excited to mention it here because I am so happy and I’m super excited to mention it here because I am so happy that Allah blessed us with a favour He says you have girls you get Jannah. By the way it doesn’t mean you have boys you go to Jahannam.

Be happy with whatever Allah has given you girls, they are girls. They are boys, they are boys, Alhamdullah. They are boys and girls Alhamdulillah.

Neither boy nor girl Allah knows why He has saved you from something traumatic. How many people have children and they say I wish I didn’t have these kids because of the torment that some of them make their parents go through. May Allah forbid and may Allah protect us and our children from that type of behaviour, Ameen. So be thankful to Allah- Mufti Menk