Tag: The All-Loving

Character Litmus Test Question & Answer | How To Know About Yourself | Never Forget ~Mufti Menk

Every single one of us has been created in a way that we need the help of others in order to survive. Have you thought of that? Nobody is absolutely independent/ although; yes, we are dependent upon Allah and Allah alone to fulfill our needs but Allah requires and He sends to us those who will help us fulfill those needs. It doesn’t mean it’s not from Allah.

No matter, what? We need Allah definitely but together with that the plan of Allah includes the fact that we need each other.

The Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him says the Almighty will continue helping His slave as long as that slave continues to help another. Amazing!

You are just a number. That’s it. Don’t ever think that you’re better than the people you are speaking to and don’t ever think that you’re higher than anyone else because if that’s the case you will never be able to reach their hearts. Speak as though they are better than you. You just need to get a message to them.

We complain more than what we used to, when we did not have. Because that’s how materialism works, when you run behind the dunya guess what? It always runs faster than you. subhanAllah, you can never catch up.

When I came into this world I was naked, I had zero, and so whatever I have today is more than what I had the day I was born. That’s it that’s my motivation.

You want to know who is the closest to Allah. It is the person who has the most beautiful character. Your closeness to Allah is very closely reflected in your character. Those who are harsh and hard-hearted they cannot be close to Allah.

If you want to know the type of person you are, if you want to know more about yourself, your character, if you would like to know where do I fit in, there is a test- litmus tests, can test yourself, ask yourself, one question, the answer of it will tell you who you actually are? What’s the question?

The person whom the world considers, the lowest whom the world considers most insignificant, whom the world considers almost irrelevant, how you treat that person will determine who you are.

All those whom the world considers insignificant you should never consider them insignificant. It’s your test.

A lot of the people don’t want your money, they need you to just be kind be. — Mufti Menk

The Most Difficult Part Of A Marriage | A warning Of Prophet Muhammed’(ﷺ) From His Deathbed | Mufti Menk

Don’t underestimate the value and the power of dua. Dua can actually get for you something you might have thought was impossible. But there is nothing impossible for allah. The biggest gift that you and I could give the bride and the groom is actually a du’a more than anything else.

The easiest part of any marriage is its Officiation.  The most difficult part is after that. Where the rights come into play, you have to live with each other. You’ve been brought up in absolutely different homes to the degree that if you were brought up in a similar home or the same home you would not be allowed to get married if you were Mahram.

One of the sacrifices that allah subhanahu wa ta’ala wants you to make is to be able to adjust to be able to fulfill the rights upon. The deathbed of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he got up and said something. He said I’m warning you about your treatment of women.

The most difficult part of a marriage is to be able to adjust, to be able to sacrifice, to be able to not only develop the trust with one another but to abstain from that which might cause blemish in the trust.

You want something to go right? Both of you have to make an effort. If both don’t make an effort it will go wrong.  So, we must develop ourselves, we must develop our character. A good happy marriage is based on trust. It’s based on sacrifice and communication but over and above that the relationship with Allah.

t-Tawakkul ‘ala Allah is the cornerstone of a happy marriage. If your aim is the pleasure of Allah and your spouse’s aim is the pleasure of Allah and you have develop your your character and your conduct, what can go wrong in that marriage?

Another very interesting point that is mentioned in the verses of nikkah is the issue of the tongue. To use your tongue in the straightway, in the best possible way, speak properly. Don’t say bad words, hurtful words, don’t cause hurt and abuse. Allah says, watch your tongue. It’s one of the things you can do to earn the pleasure of Allah, to protect your deeds and to forgive to achieve the forgiveness of these sins, more so within marriage. 90 or more percent of problems within marriage are connected to the tongue.

The prophet (saw) says the hadith says the best from amongst you is the one who is best to his wife. The one who is best to his own family that’s where charity begins… Charity begins at that point. – Mufti Menk

A Good Ending! Learn From Celebrity Deaths | Who Are The Wisest Believers ~ Shaykh Omar Suleiman

The prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that be frequent in remembering the destroyer of pleasures “death”. he said sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam and this is a hadith from Ibn Omar (Ra) that  a man came to the prophet (saw), he said which of  that a man came to the prophet (saw), he said which of  who’s the best of the believers? He said the one who has the best character and then he said in which of them is the wisest the prophet (saw) said that the wisest amongst them are those that remember death frequently and are the best at preparing for it.

They put death in front of them and they craft their life accordingly. They don’t get deflated; depressed by it, manage it unhealthily. They used that thought of the janazah and they craft their entire life in accordance with that janazah. How do I want to meet my lord? Everything goes from that.

Remember the most important relationship is your relationship with your Lord and you have to ask yourself which you’ve prepared for your meeting with him.

That’s what made Muhammad Ali so great (rah) the greatest athlete and one of the greatest people that this country knew. He said God doesn’t care if I beat Joe Frazier. God wants to see if what I’m going to do in this life to get to heaven. That’s what God cares about.

So what’s your own legacy? What’s your own book look like? What will you leave for people to pray for you in this life? What will you take with you for Allah and the Angels to pray upon you in the hereafter……….

Don’t say things today that you’re gonna have to apologize for tomorrow.  You know on all the tributes pouring out after the death of Kobe Bryant and people talking about. Death can snatch you  away from people just [a snap] like that  do you really want the last thing to be between you and someone that’s beloved to you and important to you a fight or a feud? Squash those grudges.

Finally the prophet (saw) said, don’t long for what other people possess.

What are we doing with our own priorities? What are we really longing for? What are we aiming for? That’s a lesson for all of us to take.

We ask Allah subhana WA Ta’ala to make the end of our lives the best of them. We ask Allah subhana WA Ta’ala grant us a good ending, a good death.

Want To Control Everyone! The Biggest Mistake | Wife Lover ~ Mufti Menk

My brothers my sisters, like I said on earth you will have days when mashallah, as you grow older. At how things have changed, right? But we remember the days. When you look at yourself now aren’t you a little bit lonely? Well, Allah is telling you well build a relationship with me now, come SubhanAllah, la ilaha ilallah,….

You know your children no matter how many you have they’re going to get married, the biggest mistake we make we want to control, control who? Everyone else… listen to a certain extent you can let them know even your own children, you can let them know what to do what not to do but control… trust me you will develop a huge problem if you want to control everyone around.

We want to control everyone around us. We break our families and communities into pieces because we want to have the only say. You must listen to everyone and you must do that which is beneficial for the community but you do have a final say because there has to be one leader who decides.

I’d love to have Eid the same way we’ve had it when we were young, when all the brothers and sisters got together on the day of Eid but guess what? Now they start getting married. Each one of them has their own children.

It’s not fair to always have Eid in one place, I need to make sure that I.. Let loose a little bit, I will be a bit …the Eids are not going to be like they were all the time. I don’t have to be everywhere, every time, at every Eid, break loose you still United, didn’t I say? May Allah give us unity.

You can still be united. You know what? For as long as that opinion has some form of validation in the Quran and Sunnah and in Islam let it be… don’t force yours on them, for as long as it has some form of validation in Islam let it be. The minute you try to force you will destroy.. There will be disunity. That’s one of the reasons why we are so fragmented.

It’s very important for us to know that life has lessons. We don’t learn them sometimes. Allah says you know when you’re young it’s not going to be the same as you grow older. When you grow older things have to change. The baton is passed on.

Yes, we are human yes we do have human nature. But we should be disciplining it with the discipline of Islam. it will help us. it will take us to jannatul ferdous, it will make us the best of people. Don’t be too hard and fast on others even your own family members. Sometimes we are too hard on our own spouses.

I don’t have to be everywhere, every time, at every Eid. Break loose you still united. For as long as that opinion has some form of validation in the Quran and Sunnah and in Islam let it be… The minute you try to force you will destroy. That’s one of the reasons why we are so fragmented. – Mufti Menk

Why "Love For Other What You Love For Yourself" Is Hard To Apply | How To Complete Faith~ Shaykh Ali Hammuda

It is definitely an uncomfortable reality but nevertheless it is the truth. This is in reference to the reality which states that not all people who will meet Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala on the day of reckoning with iman, with faith will be granted instant access to paradise. Unfortunately, that is not the case. There are certain deficiencies in Eman, ie in our Eman which may mean that some people will not experience paradise as the very first destination.

Therefore it’s for this exact reason that the Prophet Muhammad (saw) out of his love and mercy towards us strong with all what he possessed to guide us to certain characteristics and traits and behaviors to raise our Eman to high levels to ensure that we never need to feel the fire of hell before paradise which will raise us to the highest levels in Jannah.

I want to give you one such example of a hadith that does this. This is the famous hadith which Bukhari and Muslim narrate on the authority of Ans (Ra) where the messenger (saw) said none of you truly believed until you love for your brother what you love for yourself.

This is one of the fundamental narrations of the religion of Islam. The completion of your Eman, your faith depends upon the likes of this narration.

This is the first reason your Eman depends upon it. Number two: being shielded against the fire of hell depends upon this hadith.

Salvation, success, protection in the hereafter is hinged on to two principles: correcting your affair with Allah, your relationship with Allah, tawhid in Islam and then correcting your relationship with people.

So, reality of faith depends upon it, entry to jannah depends upon it. Protection from the Hellfire depends upon it look at number four: how Allah almighty treats you in this world and in the hereafter depends upon this hadith.

Why is it so easy to speak about this principle but in the lives of many people it’s so hard to apply? The answer is because it boils down to an illness deep inside and illness within the heart. A heart that convinces you that the losses of other people, somehow means that you’ve now automatically progressed in life is a terribly ill and a severely mistaken Heart.

The benefits  of living by this principle loving for him what you love for yourself and this is part of completion of Eman and the benefit of this is not limited to the hereafter, the benefits extend to this world Allah is so generous.

By remembering that there is enough to go around, be at the service of others. There for those people who serve with sincerity, wanting for others what they want for themselves Allah does not them down in both of the worlds. Strive to leave a legacy behind you footprints that are not erased till the day you meet Allah. Please plan a project…. Shaykh Ali Hammuda

Caught Illicit Affairs Of Spouse! No Forgiveness! Listen & Your Discretion ~ Mufti Menk

Oh people! The promise of the almighty is the truth. World deceive you. It is very temporary and it is very fake, subhanAllah, and don’t let the big deceiver deceive you, Shaitaan; the devil, the big deceiver.  He gonna come and try and make you do things that you’re not supposed to be doing. The almighty says its okay, Turn back to me as you turn back to the Almighty, He wipes out your sin. As He’s wiped out your sin the devil comes back and says no, you’re not forgiven. That almighty is not merciful.

The Almighty is not merciful. That’s a bigger sin than the sin you committed initially. Initially it was a sin out of your weakness. Now it’s a sin questioning who the Almighty is and denying one of His qualities known as the most merciful or the most forgiving, the most compassionate. So be careful be careful of the deception of this world.

Nobody from amongst us is perfect, not a soul, because part of the plan of the Almighty is human desire will lead you towards things that you’re not supposed to be doing. You may fall out of human weakness. Not because you’re defying Allah but you didn’t want to do it but you fell.

If you are walking here and you trip what would you do? Get up and do what? Keep walking, right? And even other persons coming and you turn around and see them what will you tell them? Be careful right? The winners are those who when they trip they get up and they keep going. We’re not perfect. Perfection is for the hereafter. When I am in here I shouldn’t lose hope number one but I need to keep trying to develop my relationship with Allah.

When you’re conscious of Allah and you have a relationship with Allah and you love Allah and that Allah is so close to you within your heart and you want to prove to Him that you love Him, wouldn’t you love everything that He has made? Even if you disagree with some of the people around you, your character will ensure that you don’t insult them or abuse them.

When I’m a pious person close to Allah I learned to love everyone to care for them, to treat them equally because they’re all the creatures of Allah. I will give them importance simply because they were created by the same one whom I’m trying to prove my love to. Be respectful; show it in your character.

Allah says in your life no matter what deeds you’ve done Allah says if you seek forgiveness I will forgive you.

When people are caught in immoral relations or illicit Affairs when they are married and the spouse catches them and says you know what? That’s the blessing of Allah that you were caught. You know why? Now you’re going to give it up, inshallah.

 

 

Nowadays people are not so forgiving, so if you’re caught, they’re gonna say I want out. I tell you my brothers and sisters not everyone who’s committed the sin is an evil person. They may have made a mistake. sometimes Allah wanted you to see something because he loved them so much and He knows by you making a big deal out of it that person’s gonna quit the habit and become such a better person, subhanAllah.

So it doesn’t mean that I need a divorce straight away. Don’t just listen to the world the world tells you the minute you catch your spouse doing something wrong that’s it, go home. I’ll tell you not necessarily means if the person is a good person, they taking care of you you’re taking care of each other, there’s a lot of respect, there’s kindness, there’s fulfilment of rights… mend it and keep the same Mercedes.

But if the person is evil and abusive and hurtful and they don’t fulfill their rights and they don’t dis and they don’t that and then you catch them doing X Y & Z then perhaps you might want to look into final separation that was the last stroke, gone.

Prompt! Stop Haram Things To Get A Better Replacement | Allah’s Promise ~ Ali Hammdua

Allah Almighty has promised those who courageously reject a sinful practice with that which is better. This is a promise that provides so much strength peace and solace and reassurance particularly to the young Muslim man or that young Muslim woman who may be struggling with a specific addiction of some sort or a particular private doing that they know will distance them from Allah and will distance them from success in the hereafter.

The prophet Muhammed (ﷺ)said “There is it anything that you leave for the sake of Allah, accept that He will replace you with something better”. That’s a promise and and Allah Almighty never fails in His promise.

Make the courageous decision from this moment onwards, to make amends to those habits, those relationships, those secret doings that you know need evicting from your life. Then, realize that the better replacement from Allah has already been dispatched and it is on its way, Allahu Akbar.