In this video clip #MuftiMenk urges to watch one’s #tongue very #careful when he addresses his wife and fulfils her rights and appreciate her sacrifice what she goes through for him. Bad mouthing to one’s #wife is prohibited and not fulfilling her rights could be equivalent to divorce in Islam.
Mufti Menk Quotes “You cannot equate your wife with someone who’s a Muharram. You cannot do that with the intention of insulting her and telling her that I’m no longer going to fulfil your rights & your duties. Save ourselves from insulting our wives. They have given birth; they have borne our children we need to respect and honour the changes that may have taken place in their bodies as a result of it.”
#MuftiMenk addresses that we have been created very differently by Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. No two human beings are the same when it comes to your features, when it comes to your identity, when it comes to your fingerprint, when it comes to the iris that you have every single one of us is very different. So Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala says We’ve made you differently so that you appreciate each other; so that you acknowledge each other ;so that you earn a reward by living together and by understanding that the plan of Allah is for you to live together even though you are different in this lecture.
Mufti Menk quotes in this lecture, “If you want to live together watch your mouth; don’t be vulgar, never be vulgar Subhan Allah, always be respectful. People have paid heavy prices for the way they used their mouths- heavy price .May Allah Subhanahu WA Ta’ala protect us.”
n this video clip, #MuftiMenk explains the ruling on #engagement in light of the Islam with English subtitle. Then He mentions some of the #marriages that are the most blessed are those that the least amount of wealth is used least extravagance. When we have marriages we are taught to have a simple marriage why because it is an act of worship from hadith.
Mufti Menk Quotes in this lecture, “We must make sure that we do not engage in earning the anger of Allah. Marriage is half of your Eman according to one of the narrations, the walima or that party is a celebration of half of your Eman if you are celebrating half of your Eman by allowing women to come into the gathering who are not even dressed properly or the bride herself is half naked and the groom was to sit with the females then you are celebrating half of your Iman by pleasing satan; your marriage won’t work it will not work I guarantee that.”
Shaykah Assim Al Hakeem mentions two important #dua (#supplication) at wedding night from hadith: Placing your hands on your wife’s head and praying for her Allaahumma innee as’aluka min khairiha wa khairi maa jabaltaha ‘alaihi wa a’oodhubika min sharriha wa sharri maa jabaltaha ‘alaihi( “O Allaah, I ask You for the good in her and the good with which You have created her, and I seek refuge in You from the evil in her and the evil with which You have created her.” )
What to say at the time of making #Love When a Muslim man is about to enter his #wife, he should always say first: Bismillahi, Allahumma jannibnaa ash-shaitaan, wa jannib ash-shaitaan maa razaqtanna [In the name of Allah, O Allah, keep us away from the devil, and keep the devil away from that which You may grant us (ie. offspring).] About this, the Prophet said: “After that, if Allah decrees that they will have a child, the devil will never be able to harm that child”.
#MuftiMenk makes mention of #marriage has been made very easy in Islam when he giving advice on marriage to you people at time of officiation of a #Nikah in this lecture with English subtitle. He adds that there is a proposal from one side and acceptance from the other in the presence of the representatives as well as the witnesses and at the same time mention is made of the gift that is given from the #groom to the #bride that is known as #mahr something very simple the officiating a nika does not take more than two minutes.
Mufti Menk Quotes in the lectue “Remember one thing every time you or anyone else makes marriage difficult for your children or for anyone else to get married you are sinful the idea and the planning and the divine wisdom of allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala dictates that you facilitate a Nika (Marriage)”.
In this clip #MuftiMenk mentions that we become hypocrites in the case of #marriage with English subtitle. He gives importance on #character and #conduct in regard of selecting spouse as Allah (swt) instructs us.
Mufti Menk calls upon setting a new trend by having a simple marriage. Mufti Menk quotes in this clip “it’s a crime against humanity to force your kids to marry someone crime if they don’t want to; tell them I’m your father it will not happen if you are not happy- it’s not going to happen”.
In this lecture #MuftiMenk points out what the challenges are facing in the #relationship from a #marriage in the perspective of modern society with English subtitle. Mufti menk highlights that for the plan of Allah to be executed we get married as a result and a gift Allah has given to us and he presents ingredients of happily ever after growing marriage for a lifetime brilliantly.
Mufti Menk quotes in this lecture “Marriage is a deep institution. It is a union whereby male and female have come together by the decree of the almighty using the name of the almighty in a sacred union that has rights that need to be fulfilled by both parties”.
#MuftiMenk raises a few points which lead to break up homes eventually and develop a healthy #relationship between husband and wife from the book “The Sexual Relations And Married Life” written by one great scholar in London Moulana Moosa Karmadi.
In this book there is a section on the #rights between or the rights of the #husband and the rights of the #wife to rectify our problems in a polite and good manner. Mufti Menk Quotes in this lecture, “You want to ensure that the ummah is in one piece; you make sure that you are in one piece with your family; you make sure that you solve your problems”.
Yasir Qadhi illustrates here what is the primary need that a woman wants from her husband in #marriage; primary emotion that is the continual #love and the continual enveloping of that attention that the husband always makes his wife priority? The #husband always shows his #wife that I’m thinking about you; I’m caring about you; I will always love you to feel that love to feel enrichment they need to be constantly reassured that their husbands love them.
Yasir Qadhi quotes, “you make her feel like she’s number one; guess what she’ll make you feel like you’re number one”.
On the other hand #MuftiMenk mentions that many men could not be bothered to fulfill the #conjugal#rights of their own #spouse. When men sometimes think that’s it it’s me I’m only worried about me me, me and me you know, no way not at all it is about us it is about a #family unit.
Mufti Menk quote in this video clip, “A family unit is made up by more than one person otherwise it’s not called a family unit. A marriage is made up by more than one person otherwise it’s not called marriage”.
#MuftiMenk mentions he was an article that every 20 #marriages twelve of them are breaking; eight of them are lasting. That’s a disaster if that’s the truth. Wherever it is something that can be resolved; try your best to resolve it and try your best to forgive people; give people correct advice as well.
#Mufti Quote in this clip “People say the marriage was a mistake. Sometimes the divorce was a bigger mistake. There is no angel on earth- you want to divorce someone because they’ve made one mistake but you are making another 20 mistakes of a different nature; if that person is prepared to seek forgiveness; if they show remorse and regret then don’t just break it; don’t throw your BMW away solely only because one of the panel’s was badly damaged; no – repair it. It will cost you a little bit; try work together. I promise you the marriages that have been built after a mistake or a sin or something went wrong are far stronger than those who have not tasted that or those that have not been through this”.
#MuftiMenk Mentions Allah says We will test you with loss of life. The prophet (saw) lost his son Ibrahim (ra) and he was carrying and made a beautiful statement when sahaba (ra) asked him about tears in his eyes.
Mufti Menk quotes in this clips “Before I came here I was somewhere then I came here and after this I need to go somewhere, isn’t it? This is a short period of time. Everyone’s time is different”.
The All-Loving 