Do you know that when we have to choose a spouse;
Who have not yet chosen the spouse and even if you have try and go back and see the qualities that you have looked at and develop on them, develop them…
When you choose a spouse, the Hadith says: there are several things that people look at; some people look at wealth, some people look at Beauty, some people look at the status of the person and some people look at the lineage of the person and some people look at the deen and the religion of the person.
The Hadith says become successful by selecting the the one with religion, with character and conduct, coupled with Deen / religion.
From the hadith, when a proposal comes from someone; whom you are satisfied with their level of character and conduct or in fact starting with the level of Deen and character then allow them to get married, allow them to marry.
Two things: character and deen
If someone comes and they good-looking okay, they have a better deen in them. It is better for you to compromise the looks to a certain extent And make sure that the religion is intact then to go only for looks because the plan of Allah is there will come a stage when that blemish less face will develop wrinkles; If you have loved the outward face, you will not be able to get along with that woman.
Because if you have loved the interior, it only blossoms as time passes. with the wrinkles of the face the wrinkles of the heart disappear.
Have you ever thought of that with the wrinkles of the face, the wrinkles of the heart disappear?
The beauty of Islam is such that from the beginning whether it is the upbringing of the child or how to select a spouse, Allah subhanahu wa’ta’ala has laws in place that will help you from the family fragmenting, breaking up.
So, if we follow the rules from the very beginning then we will find that the family unit will not break.